Post # 1
How would you feel if you discovered that DH/FI/SO was looking up their ex’s on facebook. They didn’t message them or anything, but were curious. Perhaps looked through public pictures and what not. Would this make you mad?
Post # 3
This wouldn’t upset me at all. They were people who were once important in our lives and theres nothing wrong with being curious about what they are up to these days. My Fiance keeps in touch via facebook with a few exes and I do as well and we both are up front about it. Our romantic relationships ended for a reason and both Fiance and I are secure enough to carry on a friendship with certain ex’s without having to hide it from the other.
Post # 4
It would probably bother me for a second, like “Why is he thinking about her” but then I’d have to get over it because I was curious about my ex too at one point. I think it’s human nature to wonder about someone who was once a big part of your life.
Post # 5
As long as it was harmless I don’t think I would terribly mind but then again I was FI’s only serious Girlfriend so I don’t really have to worry about that. A few weeks ago I saw my ex which prompted me to search for his FB. We didn’t even talk when we saw eachother, it was just in passing but it did make me curious to see what he was up to (turns out he’s married now). I was on his page for all of 10 seconds and it was completely innocent. I would hope Fiance wouldn’t be upset with me for that.
Post # 6
It might bother me for a second, but I’d get over it very fast. I get curious too, it doesn’t mean anything.
Post # 7
shit…it’s official I’m a green eyed monster. I discovered this and it really pissed me off and then made me feel insecure. Ughers. I guess I’m going to have to take a couple deep breaths and get over it.
Post # 8
doesnt bother me at all 🙂
Post # 9
It would depend on what ex. A harmless old fling from high school? Wouldn’t mind a bit. The nasty bitch ex that tried to break us up? I’d be pissed.
Post # 10
@Gingersnap: Ugh that’s her. They dated for 2 years and she’s nuts. She sent me emails and stuff when Darling Husband and I started dating. I actually tried to pull away from him to get away from the drama, obviously I’m glad I didn’t, but boy it made me mad when I saw that he clicked on her. I guess you’re spot on. Some chick he dated in high school or something I would probably think it was cute that he wondered, this girl though is a nutcase.
Post # 11
Wellllll….. I keep a pretty close eye on my ex-fiance (more than 6 years since we split)… he has a kid now and is married to the c-word that broke us up…. but to be a completely ugly person about it, they are both whales now … like she was BIG when they met but he has gained 150+ pounds…. had a child out of wedlock and live with his awful parents (i dreaded that they would be my in-laws!)… So I like to remind myself how lucky I was to dodge that bullet nuclear bomb…
I keep tabs on my FI’s ex-fiance too… She is skinnier than I am, but since he split with her (5 years ago) she has had an additional 2 children out of wedlock (all three with different fathers)… is trying to go back to school to be a hair stylist while working at a trashy version of a Coyote Ugly bar… oh and her ‘husband’ is in jail for the year because he was prostituting himself on craigslist… lmao
Sorry… I know all of ^that^ was mean… but it is nice to know how life could have turned out…
Side-Note: I dont think that having a child out of wed-lock is a bad thing, just complicates life A LOT and can add Drama
Post # 12
My ex-husband is a Facebook friend of mine–and of my wife’s, too. Seriously, of all the people in the world to be jealous of, an ex is the least likely. I already tried out that relationship once, and it didn’t work–why would I want to try again?
Post # 13
I’d be okay with it if he didn’t tell me. I understand the curiosity. If he felt the need to talk about it with me, I’d be annoyed.
We do have open communication, but there’s some things that I don’t mind if he does, we just don’t need to discuss it. I trust him.
Post # 14
Ok, before I say one word I want to make it clear here I mean NO disrespect to anyone on this board.
The main question that pops in my head is how do you even know that he clicked on someones profile? Going though the history, ect? I’m sorry but that just is not cool in any world in my book. If you can’t trust your FI/DH/SO enough to respect their privacy (that includes what they do on the net) there there are some major trust issues that need working out. (again I mean no disrespect to anyone by saying that.)
But to the question. I could give two shakes if my Fiance looks up an old ex on facebook any anywhere else. So what hes curious what they are up to. He is actually firends with a few of his exes and this doesnt faze me in the least. Yes if he suddenly started meeting up with a specific ex all the time, I would insist I meet her. And if I felt insecure, I would talk to him about my feelings, and ask him if I can either tage along with them or they start meeting up a bit less.
Post # 15
I’ve done it when bored before… but not because I wanted to get back with them… Just to make sure they were still miserable without me 🙂 lol I’m joking of course….kinda =)
Post # 16
Not the end of the world unless there were other issues.