(Closed) DH's dad disowned him last night

posted 6 years ago in Family
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MrsCE:  “I’m not sure how they know Mother-In-Law talks about them

I was wondering the exact same thing. My parents are divorced and I maintain a strict “never tell about the other policy”. And I mean strict. I never tell my parents anything about what the other one does or says. The only time I have ever told my father *anything* about my mother’s life was informing him that her mother (his ex-MIL) had died.

If things recover, your Darling Husband needs to do the same thing. Mother-In-Law wants to talk cr*p about Father-In-Law – let her vent. But don’t say Father-In-Law is a good person or a bad person. Say nothing. And certainly relay none of this back to Father-In-Law. It’s none of FIL’s business if Mother-In-Law talks about him or whether or not Darling Husband defends him. If Father-In-Law asks, deflect the question.

(And if Darling Husband isn’t saying anything, then perhaps it’s his brother. Darling Husband needs to talk to his brother and maintain the same “no tell” policy).

For now, Darling Husband needs to keep reaching out to his father, and being patient. But no mention of his father’s ex, ever.

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