(Closed) DH's Ex Wife is Intrusive…Vent…

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@Coral99:  DO NOT GIVE HER YOUR NUMBER !!!  you will end up dealing with more BS then you ever thought possible.  I truely believe we are running parallel lives.  Wanna do coffee to chat ??  LOL  Persistence is the key.  DH has made numerous strides in boundaries.  I gave him a come to Jesus speech one day when I had had enough of her walking all over him.  My SS is 10 and sufferes horrible anxiety ( throwing up, headaches) from her verbal abuse (I will be lonely with out, how can you have fun without me ??) 3 counselors(family, coparenting and SS individual) have suggested therapy for her, the latest just on Monday.  They have been divorced for 5 years now and she still throws shots at him for the divorce (she left).  Anywho, persistence persistence persistence.  Ignore any and all nonpertitant communications, or even push back as far as to say all communication will be ignored unless on the message boards.  As far as drop off…do what we started doing.  Waving.  Walking him up and saying hello. Force her to talk.  She HATED that.  Especially since DH used to keep me “hidden”.  He didn’t want to upset her because she would take it out on SS.  I called BS and made myself known.  She went back inside, stopped waiting at the door.  It pained her more to see us happy, then us to say hello.  Ignore all her behavior, and it will decrease.  Will not stop, she still tries, but its few and far between now. 

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1994

Set some boundaries and stick to them! Might be rough at first, but you’ll get through it!

Post # 36
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Worker bee

It sounds like you are dealing with parental alienation syndrome here. Google for more info if you are interested. Courts would look at her behavior very negatively and possibly modify visitation in favor of your husband. I know it costs money to file a motion for contempt or modification, but it might give her an additional consequence and end her harmful antics. I’m sure the order states that both parents agree to foster a healthy relationship between the child and the other parent, and if she is going against that, a judge can teach her a lesson.

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