Post # 31
Yup – I have anxiety. I see a doctor. I am not on any meds by choice. I 100% support taking a pill if you need a pill!! I’m just not in that space yet.
I used to have panic attacks in grad school it was scary. Now it’s more like a constant plateau of anxiety rather than peaks and valleys.
But I know what you mean: “I feel shameful because I feel like I shouldn’t have anything wrong with me, that I should be stronger than this.” I feel the same way. I feel like I have had a nice life with opportunity and love and support, I feel like I must be weak somehow if I feel this way. But – since you’re a psych major – you know that’s all hogswash. We feel what we feel.
I really like my new therapist who does Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. She is action oriented, gives me homework, says we can teach our brain to think different thoughts, and also to not let the anxious thoughts take root. It’s a slow process!! But I do think it helps.
Post # 32
Oh good – I’m glad I’m not the only one who is a fan of nothing days! I’ve always felt the need to be and do things and achieve but sometimes it becomes so overwhelming. I’ve actually had a nothing afternoon this afternoon because things have been getting on top of me this week and there was no point in me trying to work because I couldn’t concentrate. I listened to some meditations on youtube, had a nice hot shower and a nap. I feel so much better.
Post # 33
I generally do it on days where Fiance is at work. That way, he can’t make me feel guilty (which, is me
feeling guilty for not doing anything while he’s doing productive work). He supports the long hot baths, he says he can see a change from when I go into the bathroom to when I come out. The support is awesome.
Enjoy YOUR day!! 🙂
Post # 34
I applaud your choice!! Keep working on the cognitive part of the therapy, for me it was the biggest game-changer. I take meds because the “plateau” you’re talking about was getting a little too high for me….I had a near-constant level of background anxiety that hummed so loud it was drowning everything else out and I needed help. Meds really helped me- I started on Celexa but had terrible side effects so I’ve switched to Cymbalta and I am liking it a lot!
Good luck in your process!
Post # 35
I have nothing days too :). Yesterday I got home from work, and slept on the couch with the tv on low and it was marvelous! I wonder if introverts are more likely to have anxiety? Just a thought…
Post # 36
I was diagnosed about a year ago! Though when I think about it, I’m sure I’ve had it for much longer. Law school sort of exacerbated it and I had panic attacks daily. Some days, I was too scared to leave my house. I didn’t get treatment for it and ended up having a MASSIVE panic attack while taking the Bar exam and missing a major portion. Needless to say, that didn’t end well.
I started Cognitive Behavioral Therapy as well around the time I figured out I’d failed and it has worked WONDERS! I do get frustrated sometimes knowing that this is going to be a lifelong struggle for me but that’s just another thing I’ve been working through in CBT. Like PPs have said, it’s a slow process but an incredibly useful one!
Post # 37
I’m commenting to follow. I have had anxiety for over 20 years. Sometimes worse than others. I love therapy and I want to get back to it, but my last counselor moved almost 2 years ago (yikes) and I wish our country had better health plans for people that need it. I spent so much money seeing therapists and counselors and psychologists and now that I’m in school again I don’t think it’s the right time to search for a new one financially. I am hoping my anxiety will taper when I am done with school, but I doubt it. I always move onto the next thing. My husband is very supportive, although he worries about my constant worry.
Hugs to all.
Post # 38
I’ve had anxiety issues and undiagnosed panic attacks for years, and a currently getting treatment for Ptsd – like symptoms. I can’t explain how much the medication is a godsend at helping me feel more normal – I forgot my pill of escitalopram two days ago and almost a second day in a row and it has been AWFUL. I feel like me on it, I have panic and negative racing thoughts without it… also on Ativan which I am hoping to wean down as it is strong but for now I can say for sure the escitalopram is doing amazing things.
Post # 39
Don’t be sad girl, I’ve got like 5 things that have a “diagnosis” … but thank goodness I wasn’t upset about them bc I would’ve been upset a lot haha!
The biggest annoyance through it all was the medications. It’s just really about trial & error & there isn’t any other way to find one. A good place to start is your relatives. Sometimes the same meds work for family members. Anyways, for me, some meds stopped working, some didn’t work at all, & some give you uncomfortable side effects. I can name 7 different medications that I was on over the years. But, they were more focused on depression back then. I’ve been on my current medication since 2002. BUT I’m also stuck on it now…and on my dose. I feel very trapped in that aspect. I wanted to go down to the smallest dose (there’s 2 smaller doses than the 1 im on) before we started TTC but I got VERY VERY EXTREMELY sick! It’s called “EFFEXOR”. It gives you what feels like electric shocks non stop, if you miss a dose or try to taper…it does me anyway & I’ve heard the same thing from a lot of people including doctors, pharmacists, & people on it. I also got so nauseous that I couldn’t move for fear of puking, & then a headache that was unbearable. Thankfully my obgyn decided, after hearing a few stories haha, that I’m one of those people who stay on their meds while pregnant bc the depression/anxiety would be much worse for the baby. So Im fine on my meds & the dose…but I also feel trapped. I bet it’s bc I’ve been on it for so long. I highly recommend staying away from Effexor & Paxil, if you can. My pain management doctor said that Paxil is the devil…but I forget why. Sorry.
Post # 40
I have the same thing. It was brought on by an event in my late twenties which left me with panic attacks. However I do these tension exercises where I tense parts of my body and then release them and you literally feel the tension slipping away. This has been the best way of coping with it for me. Whilst I still get worried over a lot of stuff I’m much better than I used to be. I don’t have the attacks anymore.
Dont put too much strain on yourself. We’re all different and that’s what makes this world an amazing place.
Sending you big hugs. 💙
Post # 41
I tried the tension thing today! I was on my couch lying down and had some relaxing music. I focused on my breathing and tensing up certain parts of my body and then relaxing them. It was incredible!
I get so many headaches and shoulder aches because I’m always unable to relax my shoulders, and I clench my jaw so much that I get a headache. I wonder if there is anything along the lines of a muscle relaxer that would be helpful? Or any vitamins at all that can help with that sort of thing.
Post # 42
I have GAD and I was so relieved when I finally got a diagnosis a year ago. To say my life has completely changed for the better since starting a low dosage anti-anxiety medication would be an understatement. I always considered myself a worrywart but didn’t realize exactly how big of an issue I had until I started treatment. Finally the noise in my head stopped. I could concentrate more, I was less irritable/bitchy/sensitive. I take Citolapram and I can’t stress enough not to be ashamed of needing medication. Why be ashamed of a chemical imbalance in your brain? It’s nothing you can control.
Anxiety negatively affects every aspect of your life if you let it. Have hope that things can be so much better and that you’re not alone! Its very common.
Post # 43
- Wedding: LA Athletic Club
Don’t let a diagnosis define who you are. Many people have some form of anxiety (myself included and OCD.) I am a clinician and prefer cognitive behavioral therapy for myself and my clients. There are also different therapeutic techniques that can help you work through the anxiety and maladaptive thoughts too. Yoga and working out has helped relax me, as well as increase those endorphines(feel good chemicials) in my brain.
Post # 44
Mental disorders are no longer stigmatized as they once were, and you shouldn’t feel at all ashamed of your condition. Nearly everyone most likely has something. That said, I too suffer from anxiety as well as depression. I’ve suffered from both for as far back as I can remember. I’m beyond fixable through something like cognitive therapy and have been on medication for years. I’ve also been testing borderline positive for Asperger’s Syndrome. I have a tendency to want to observe things in pairs, hate talking on the telephone, eat in a manner that ensures all of my food is consumed at the same rate (my daughter calls me a “methodical eater”), can’t stand to be around lots of people (not the same as shyness), and probably have a myriad of other OCD symptoms I can’t recall at the moment. Again, don’t feel ashamed. You are certainly not alone out there. And kudos to you for seeking help when you realized you needed it.