(Closed) diamond blues…wish I got a gemstone or moissy

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@radar:  I planted the seed years ago that I would like an emerald. Fiance liked the idea because he thought it would be more special and more us. After doing some research this year I change my mind to green sapphire (for the hardness). I just brought my sapphire home tonight, so excited. I keep looking at my finger:) 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

I told my Fiance I hated the diamond engagement ring from the begining. I made it extremely apparent that a diamond center stone was unacceptable to me within the first few dates. I gave him my reasons ethical, and the fact I feel diamonds are cliche (I am not everyone else dont present me with the same ring that 1 million other women have). Frankly I think if you’re buyng a ring for the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with and you disregard something like that you are buying a ring for yourself not her. I dont buy my Fiance presents that I want I buy him gifts that he wants. Luckily unlike people I’d dated in the past he was 100% ok with this. He did some research and found out purple sapphires are indeed more rare than a diamond, and a better price.

Editted to add: These are my opinions, and I understand if others disagree with them. However these opinions were ok with my fiance and that is what matters :). He loves me for me including my odd opinions.

Post # 6
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299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It seems absurd that he wouldn’t get you something that YOU like! is he going to be wearing it?  Don’t think so…

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

We did the research together.  At first, he definitely thought moissanite was too good to be true–if there’s really a beautiful clear stone at a reasonable price, wouldn’t everyone have one???  I asked for a pair of moissanite earrings a few years before we got engaged, and we both really liked them.  Seeing the stone in person and seeing how it wore every day really helped to convince him.  We also did a lot of reading about the history of diamond engagement rings.  Once he learned that diamonds weren’t some sort of age-old symbol of marriage, he was a lot more interested in non-diamond options.

Ultimately, I think it just depends on the guy.  Non-diamond rings aren’t everyone’s thing.  It’s your ring, and I understand how you feel.  On the other hand, the guy does get judged for the ring.  FI has fielded a few snarky comments from people who thought he cheaped out, or people who were just confused, and it’s a bummer that they can’t see past the fact that he proposed with exactly the ring I wanted.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I made it very simple for my now  husband to understand – I wanted SPARKLE and DURABILITY, and I got both! I have a diamond, but that’s the thing, EVERYONE (okay, almost!) has a diamond, and I wanted something a little different. He seemed to understand that just fine. =)

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Maybe go for the sentimental value of other stones? So whatever your birthstone is or something like that? Or perhaps a middle-ground – a gemstone ring with a tiny diamond?

I think just flat out tell him. Make sure you say that there are women out there who pretend to not want diamonds, but you are being serious, and how you will not be happy at all wearing something that he bought without even considering your feelings about it.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

You should probably tell him your reasons why yo don’t want a diamond. Most people who don’t want a diamond also wouldn’t want something that could be mistaken for one (so much so that it’s sold for that purpose), so just from your post it’s pretty confusing to me what your reasons might be.

Post # 14
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8487 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

My Fiance is actually dead set against diamonds. I have no problem with that, white stones arent really for me, and neither is the price. But most rings I liked still had diamond accents. It took forever for him to actually say yes to getting me one with diamond accents (and I kinda didnt tell him it had them to begin with.) 

I wouldnt get a stone just because everyone in my family said I should. They arent wearing it, you are.

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