(Closed) Diamond Disaster

posted 10 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

You could ask him to try and find something with an inclusion that might end up underneath one of the prongs instead of right in the middle.  Unfortunately, with an SI1 grade, you can have that type of inclusion. 

VVS/VS may only have feathering but will be more expensive–you could go for something smaller but with less noticable imperfections.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Any imperfection you can see with the naked eye is NOT a little imperfection, but in fact SI 1 means that inclusions may be visible without a jewelers’ loupe.  If you want only inclusions that are not visible without a loupe, you need VS or VVS; any SI stone that you get will have a visible inclusion, although depending on the position they may be able to hide it in the setting to some extent.  If the inclusion bothers you, I would downsize the stone – tell the jeweler you want to see what you can get that is VS or VVS in the same price range, and see how big that will be.  I would think that you can get maybe a 2.5 ct VS 1 for about the same price.  Myself, I would rather have a better stone that is a little smaller, but of course that’s a personal choice.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

I agree with Suzanno. If you want no inclusions, or only those visible with special equipment you will need to downsize greatly in order to get a better quality diamond for the same price.

I don’t know how much you paid for your diamond, but a 3 carat VS diamond is going to run you atleast $50,000.

 

Post # 6
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Worker bee

Do you absolutely love it?  Or does that little imperfection keep you up at night? That’s what I would ask myself. If the former, then let it go and have a terrific engagement. If the latter – explore the other options that entail some risk so you can be at ease.

Since I’m not a diamond girl(my ring is a 19th century rose gold, naturally imperfect after the centuries it lived through) I think it doesn’t matter that much, and you should accept the ring as is. 

Post # 7
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378 posts
Helper bee

I also agree with Suzanno and MsB. When Fiance was shopping for stones, he went with the best stone he could afford, even if it was smaller than he wanted. So mine ended up as a very very very high quality .75 carat princess cut.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I first notice an inclusion in my ring about a week in to owning it…and it killed me.  Mostly because I thought it was the most perfect, beautiful thing and knowing that it wasn’t perfect nearly broke my heart. 🙂 

But, I also didn’t want to hurt my FI’s feelings because he went to a lot of trouble and was so happy to give it to me.  Therefore I have come to love my diamond, imperfections and all.  No one who sees it has ever noticed the inclusion because it is so sparkly!  And if someone is inspecting my ring close enough to notice…then they are WAY too nosey.  Good luck, I hope you can find something you are happy with!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

It depends whether the size of the stone is most important to you.  If you want the giant 3 carat stone, you’ll have to accept some imperfection unless you’re willing to pay exponentially more for it.  If you want a perfect stone, it’ll have to be much smaller to be at the same price.

I agree with yiska, try to find an inclusion that will be covered by a prong.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I have a tiny inclusion in my diamond, and at the right angle I can see it with my eye, but you know what, I like that.  It makes the diamond a little more mine.  I’m not perfect, my fiance’s not perfect, and I like that the ring is not perfect.  perfect is boring, and like MsB said, costs 50k.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

I have an inclusion, too! Smack in the middle of my stone. But I still love love my stone, it sparkles and it’s beautiful. And this little speck that only I can see makes it more "mine". 🙂 And no one has ever looked close enough to see it.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I had to make that choice too.  I chose the smaller stone for the better diamond.  In my family (rings get passed down daughter to daughter), the quality is more important than the size.  I know me, and I would have obsessed about that inclusion every single time I looked at it.  I am very happy with my 1.07 stone.

Post # 15
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150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

My fiance chose a better stone in exchange for a smaller one.  I still ended up with a beautiful diamond though!  (1.5, vs1)

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 1993

I also had an inclusion in my (1st) diamond. My best advice to you is this: if it bothers you now, it will bother you in the future. It’s easier to "fix" the problem now, than wait until months after your proposal (like I did)! the size difference between 3 carats and 2.5 to the untrained eye is definitely not enough in exchange for getting a clearer diamond. just my opinion 🙂

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