Post # 1
Years ago I was given a small diamond ering. I loved it. It is about 0.20ct I think. Everyone who saw it said nice things about it. I guess I’ve been lucky that I haven’t had any rude comments about the size. I didnt even know that people could be so rude until I read some of the things people have had said to them on this forum.. There were times I wished it was a tiny bit bigger but thats ok.
Now I think I am one of those people. My stepson bought his now wife a humongous diamond ring the size of basket ball.. Ok I exaggerated. But it may as well be. For the first time I really felt it.
I couldn’t bring myelf to comment. I gave the diamond sidelong glances and tried not to be noticed doing it. In my defence this is a really high maintenance girl who has to have the best of the best. Does that count?
I stared down at my little diamond and suddenly felt inadequate. Is there a cure out there that doesn’t entail selling the house, car or even my cat?
I tell myself all the right things. It was given in love, all we could afford, paying the house is more important. Yeah right whatever. All I can do is comfort myself when she tells me how she ruined a pair of stockings because her ring got caught. Well, at least I wont have that problem. Now I found myself checking other womens rings in the hope Im not alone with my small diamond. Im getting really good at sideways glances. Well at least I achieved a new skill. That and pouting. I make any small child look like an amateur compared.
How do other people cope? Is there hope? For now all I can think of is changing the setting and adding maybe 2 smaller diamonds on each side someday, or at the very least a magnifying glass stuck to the ring.
Post # 3
I hear you! I definitely feel your pain and can completely relate. I recently had to sell my almost 1-carat diamond solitaire (it was unavoidable). I now have zero diamonds to my name. All I can do is to drool over everyone else’s rings (and I seriously notice everyone’s rings). My dream is to get a round brilliant with tapered baguettes. My husband assures me things will get better, and we can hold to that goal, but I know even if finances ever improve, I will never be able to spend that amount of money on a diamond ring. I had inherited my diamond, so purchasing one would be a new things for us. I just don’t think I could do it. I could probably give you a run for your money in the pouting department. LOL!
Post # 4
OMG this made me laugh out loud!!
“Yeah right whatever.”
I don’t have my ring yet, but will be looking at a .5 ct even though I would much rather have a .75-1 ct! It’s hard after being on this site to not want to go big or go home, but at the same time I don’t like diamonds that are much bigger than a carat for me personally because they seem gaudy or fake, so that helps me cope!
When I see the flawless 1 carat diamonds with subtle halos and pave bands on this site that would cost at least triple what I see as a feasible (but still decadent for my circumstance) ring budget, I feel the envy for sure!!
Post # 5
Oh my gosh! I love your sense of humor LOL How about looking into pawn shops? Some of them have larger diamonds at reasonable prices…some with or w/o GIA paperwork OR I’ve been browsing James Allen website and their prices for loose diamonds are great. They have settings to chose from as well. If a bigger diamond is what you would like it may be way more affordable than you think. Oh and for the love of God- do not sell the cat BOL! 😉
Post # 6
Your post made me smile 🙂 I get it, while I love my 0.6ct I can’t help but droooooool everytime I see something much larger! It’s a big sparkly rock, how can we NOT have envy?? Haha! Why not get a large moissy or cz as a right hand ring? 🙂
Post # 7
Im glad to make everyone smile. The things we do for that sparkle factor. Really whats up with that.
Beyondthesea. Im sorry that you had to sell your diamond, that must of been hard. You deserve the Pouting award as you are perfectly justified by being diamondless. I hope things improve.
I am in the same boat, I have checked out moissys, pawnshops websites. Including this one. Sadly until finances improve I have resigned myself to being a diamond pervert. I am attached to my small diamond and in all reality I dont need a bigger diamond. I will keep chanting that and click my heels 3 times. Not working. Anyway the cats safe…all he does is sleep, eat and lick his bottom. Seriously wish he would get a new hobby, its disturbing.
Post # 8
Thank you — that’s so sweet! Sometimes, life just deals you a challenging hand, you know? It doesn’t help that my birthstone is the diamond. I am drawn to all things shiny. Oh, the irony! I sure hope things improve for you, too. Struggling financially (or otherwise) is no fun!
You are so funny! My cat does the same things. In fact, he’s doing the licking thing right now!
Post # 9
I would be on board with your post and the way you’re addressing your feelings of envy if it weren’t for the fact that you called your stepson’s Fiance a high-maintenance girl who “has” to have the best of the best. That comes off as so unnecessarily judgmental, and who knows, maybe your stepson was the one who chose it without her input. Even if that’s not the case, I don’t think judging her will help anything.
Post # 10
What about buying yourself a nice blingy cz eternity band? I bought one from Amazon while I was waiting to have mine remade for my size after my mother gifted me hers – and it was a gorgeous ring and something like $20. You’ll be blinging left and right!
Post # 11
I like your 3 stone idea! That could help you feel more blingy. 😉 Or moissy. I love moissy almost as much as I love my diamonds. It is really beautiful and sparkly!! And often there are deals on diamond bistro or etsy.
Post # 12
so true about cats and their bottom licking! My husband says they are sending messages to their alien mothership when they lick their butts. Lol. This website has given me big time ring envy. I have a Moissanite now (1 carat equivalent vs the diamond I had in my original set that was .41 carat and full of inclusions) and have also found some cheap but real looking cz rings from Berricle.
I’ve had to sell jewellery to make ends meet in the past. It sucked. I sold my high school ring and rings I had as a teenager that had sentimental value. My original wedding set was worth less than those so I kept it. But I still feel bad about it. Maybe can you go the cz route for now as a stand-in? Regardless, I hope finances get better soon.
Post # 13
. yes she wanted an expensive ring. She often buys things they cant afford without telling him. Its their business. So yeah I wasnt going to bring all that up but its easy to see how it can look as judgmental.
Post # 14
omg “diamond pervert.” I’m crying 😂😂😂😂
Post # 15
I know how you feel. You can always tell yourself that there are always people with bigger and smaller stones than yours – but seriously, in my case, I doubt there are people with smaller!
My e-ring is less than 0.01 ct – seriously, the size of a grain of sand. (Photo included. The e-ring is the top one. The bigger diamond is the one I got 3 years later). Hard to believe they could even see it to put 4 claws on it. But it was only $125 – and it was 14 kt gold – it was all we could afford at the time. (It was the ‘wedding band’ part of the set – so really it wasn’t supposed to have much of a diamond).
After 3 years of marriage, we were finally out of university- but we were still pretty poor (all those student loan payments! Plus I went to Grad school. We managed to get the ‘engagement’ part of the set – this is 0.1 ct- so moving up in the world, but still tiny (a big $355).
I’ve been jealous of all the big rings I’ve seen – but like you, mortgage, cars, and travel were all important. This year (25 years), the house and cars are paid for – so I did it – I got a 1ct diamond! Now, I know it’s still small compared to some people (well, most here), but it’s gorgeous. The only problem is that it’s caused a buying spree! 25 years of pent up waiting and I’ve gone nuts. In addition to the engagement ring, I got the matching band (of course I had to!), an eternity band in Moissanite (at least not diamond!), and because a close relative died – a beautiful morganite and diamond ring in rose gold. There’s one more I want – then I think I’m done for awhile!
So, just a warning, once you start its hard to stop
plus, I still wear the tiny ring that started it off. It been there so long it’s hard to imagine my hand without it. Peoples said I could trade it in for a larger ring (I still have the recipt) – but for $125 it’s not worth it. The memories are priceless!