Post # 1
My SO has given me a $5000 budget for an engagement ring. This is my second marriage and in my first I was much poor and my ex got me a 1.25 ct. mossinate bezel solitaire that I loved. I have size 9 fingers so anything under 1.25 looks small on me. We are having a super small destination wedding that will turn into an extended ceremony so any money saved will like go toward our honeymoon.
I guess I am torn between the traditional option since I have never really owned any thing super expensive(at least not jewelry) and it is kind of nice that we can afford it easily. I work in tech so big rocks are kind of a thing but there isn’t really a stigma against going alternative since we are all nerds and it isn’t a status thing, at least not in my group. I would be limited in what I could choose with my size requirement and likely I would end up going over which isn’t a huge issue but we set a budget for a reason which is basically both of us would feel odd spending over 5k on a piece of jewelry.
Or I could go with a mossy, which I love how reflective and colorful they are and could basically go as big and loud as I want. I made a wish list and nothing is over $2k so the sky is the limit here. I’m not a huge fan of having to explain to everyone who sees my hand what a mossy is and I am the only person I know who has owned one. I guess I am kind afraid that if I go mossy again I will regret not doing a diamond since nothing else about our ceremony/engagement is or will be traditional. I am more sentimental then materialistic so the meaning behind it will mean more then anything.My SO once got me a small plastic toy from a trip we took for christmas and it is literally my favorite gift ever so I may just be polerizing this because I suck at decisions.
Should I go with a diamond?
Stop over thinking it and just get whatever shiny you feel like getting because you likely won’t think tons about it after you own it?
Post # 2
Stop overthinking it. It sounds like your mind is already made up
Post # 3
$5k is actually not a lot of budget in ring world. Settings alone can cause upwards of $3-$4k for quality and craftsmanship work, not quite sure what you mean by Sky is the limit.
It would seem that moissanite is the choice that you are leading towards, which would cover the $1-2k for stone and about 3-4K for the setting you want.
Post # 5
A setting doesn’t have to be 3-4k. My setting was 100% custom made, 18k halo, and it only cost us $1,600, and the quality is great! Haven’t had a problem after 2 years of having it. My stone though is only .71ct, all in all, my ring cost $3,700. If you search well, you can find a great setting ang a bigger diamond just for $5000. Of course, no one else can decide about what stone you should get but yourself.
Post # 6
- Wedding: LA Athletic Club
I love my diamond Pear, but you have to pick what you like!
Post # 7
I meant “Skys the limit” in regards to the the list of mossinate rings I have liked so far, all of which run way cheaper then that, between $1500 and $2500.
I know diamonds are pricey, which is the point. I priced out a few 1.2ct to 1.5ct princess cuts between $3500 and $4000 which would leave like $1k for the setting which if I want anything but a solitare it isn’t happening for $1k which also doesn’t include insurance and taxes.
I travel alot so the idea of having a stone that is worth $4k on my hand isn’t giving me warm fuzzies either.
I mean in the grand scheme of thing saving $2k isn’t that much saving but I really don’t want him to spend more then $5k because for me that seems like a lot on anything that isn’t electronic or a vacation.
I just feel like I may regret it if I don’t go with a diamond even despite all that.
Hopefully that clarifies things.
Post # 8
and if you don’t mind secondhand, you’d get a very nice ring indeed for your 5k.
Post # 9
Diamond. I say so because I actually feel that moissanite in general is too expensive. I’d much rather have a diamond. You may find you can opt for a smaller stone if the cut and setting is right. Sometimes smaller diamonds look bigger than they are because they’re showcased so beautifully.
The best bet is to window shop. Go and try on lots of rings, of all sorts of stones and settings etc. This will help.
Post # 10
I’d definitely go moissanite! You have so mnay options, and the money you save could go towards the wedd, a house, honeymood, etc!
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2018 - Omaha, NE
I vote moissanite because I like it better, and as you said, the sky’s the limit with a moissanite ring, whereas with a diamond ring you’ll have to be pretty careful to stay around a 1ct center to keep the whole shindig under 5k (unless you feel like doing a ton of research or shopping for vintage ring)
I would start with what you WANT first. Find the style and size of center you want, and then research the price of that ring in moissanite and in diamond. If you feel the diamond option is more worth the price, then get that, otherwise get moissanite and save the rest of the money for your wedding and honeymoon!
Post # 12
If you want a diamond, but worry about the size, then you can look at preowned perhaps? There are some really nice ones out there for a good price. You can check out jewelsbygrace. She has lots of nice options. Or you could even think about other gemstones? Like birthstones or something like that?
You mentioned you’ve had a moissanite before. Did you like it? If you did, then you can certainly do that again! But if you didn’t (or still kept thinking about a diamond) then you might want to consider doing something different this time. 🙂
OR! You could do a three-stone diamond e-ring. That will give you the finger coverage, and also the diamonds. This option is only viable if you’re okay with a non-solitaire e-ring.
Another option is to get a less expensive e-ring and get a really bling-bling diamond wedding band. Something like this as an example (http://www.jewelsbygrace.com/rings/5-07ctw-carre-cut-eternity-band), that way you’ll still get your diamond ring & a nice moissy e-ring! 😀
Post # 13
I second the suggestion about looking at estate jewelry and recommend doverjewelry.com
or, if I’m being honest with that budget I’d go for a fabulous sapphire or ruby ring. I’d look at options on brilliantearth.com!