Post # 1
I know some of you will tear me apart for this but I need opinions…
My sister in law got engaged last summer and when she got engaged she made it very clear to everyone what the size and quality of her diamond is (I do not know the exact size but i know its between .95-.98 almost a 1 ct) Its a beautiful diamond and looks really big.
My SO and I have been looking at rings and diamonds. I want a princess cut and I know SO only really wants to pay for a .50 to .75 ct diamond which I was 100% ok with.
After looking at so many rings I started thinking about how my sister in law is going to look down on my “smaller” diamond. She is the type of person who thinks status is everything. Every time we go somewhere and she is there all she talks about is her ring and how GREAT of a job he did.
Now, I feel bad but, I now kind of wish we could get a full 1 ct diamond. I really wish I could get engaged and rub it in her face how I have a 1 ct diamond. I KNOW its stupid and i just get so mad some times at how ridiculous she is…
Post # 3
My opinion is that you need to stop worrything, thinking, comparing and competing with your sister in law. I think it’s even more silly considering how silly you already know it is, you’re just annoyed with her attitude. I would show off your .50 – .75 ring from your SO as proudly as if you had a 10 carat rock on your finger because at the end of the day the man behind the ring and the promise of the ring is pretty much priceless. You already know that you should be proud of what your SO is doing for you, so you just need to take your own advice. Also, your sister in law looking down at your ring makes her shallow and spoiled, and how sad for her that she can’t see the true value of an engagement ring and only sees carat weight.
Post # 4
Try going to a custom jeweler. My Fiance and I found a ring we liked at Birks, but all the rings in our price range with the colour and clarity we wanted were .5-.75 carats. We ended up going to a custom jeweler, got a similar ring with a 1 carat diamond for the same price.
Post # 5
I think you should be grateful that your SO is going to get you a beautiful ring that expresses his love for you and stop being petty. Who cares what your sister in law thinks?
Post # 6
Have you thought of getting a Moissanite? They easily pass as diamonds and you would be able to get a bigger stone for less money. That would really show her. lol I’m only half kidding. But if you are open to the idea then I’d say go for it!
Post # 7
I get how you feel my brother just got engaded on friday and the righ he gave her is 25pts larger then mine and for a split second i was like i wish mine was bigger but then i remembered that i got the ring i wanted the style i wanted and she got what she wanted so who cares. Just get the best ring you can affored and the style you want and you’ll be happy. And if she says something like “like oh mines bigger” or something silly like that don’t let it get you down just tell her that’s nice but you love your ring and that’s all that counts or you can tell her to grow up and get a life because your not in high school anymore. And chances are she is unhappy with something in her life that’s why she has to run around and tell everyone how great her shit is, it makes her feel better.
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Post # 9
Exit out of the keeping up with the joneses game as quickly as you can. Easier said than done, I know, the green eyed monster in all of us rears it’s ugly head sometimes but try to focus on what’s important – you’re getting engaged, yaaaay! Congrats to you no matter what she says about your ring. It’s sad that she can’t be happy for you and puts that much value on a ring. Choose not to compete with her for your own sake. Comparing ourselves to other people is a losing game, there will always be someone with a bigger ring, bigger house, more money, etc, etc. instead of focusing on what we don’t have, focus on what we are so grateful to have! I’m saying this as much for me as anyone else, I have learned that I am so much happier now that I don’t compare myself to anyone. Good lucks and congrats on your upcoming engagement!
Post # 10
Thank you all!! you are all right!
Post # 11
i think your sister-in-law sounds like an idiot. it’s super tacky to announce the stats of your diamond when no one asked. if you get .75 ct diamond, and she asks about it, just tell her that you’re not sure what size it is. And if you really want a bigger stone, i would recommend looking online instead of a jewelry store, because you will find better deals and often find larger rings that might be in your price range.