Post # 1
Hi everyone! My bf and I have been looking at diamonds and rings and I’m sure we’ll be getting engaged before the end of the year (yay! I’m so excited!). Going ring shopping has been really stressful for me for kind of an embarrassing reason. Basically I grew up really poor in the hood. Nobody around me had diamonds that weren’t in their teeth 😂. I worked my butt off and got out the hood and became a lawyer at a top firm. (I don’t say any of this to brag so I hope it doesn’t come across that way).
So my problem is, now that I have a great job and get paid well, I’m really self conscious that I still spend money like a poor person. This bleeds into all facets of my life (I got teased at work because I bought a altima to treat myself for getting a new job. Everyone else bought mustangs and bmws. 🙄) Usually I don’t care too much about things like that but I do care about my ring. My boyfriend picked out a 1.53 carat round diamond colored H and with a clarity rating of I1. I haven’t seen his diamond but I’ve seen others with those stats and I love them! I’m super excited to have such a big stone and I’m color sensitive so I’m pleased that it’s near colorless. The only thing that makes me nervous is the I rating. He was really careful in his search so his stone has a few white small inclusions. He can see them under the scope but not with his naked eye. There’s no black or cloudy inclusions. All that sounds OK to me but I’m afraid I don’t know any better.
Here is a gif of a stone from the same store with the same stats on my hand (sorry for the poor quality gif). That’s not my setting but it’s just an example of the stone. Do you think snooty lawyers will judge me for having a stone like this? Please be brutally honest. I’m happy with it but I don’t want to be caught off guard with someone’s rude comment (if its something that other people actually would agree with). I know people’s opinions differ but I don’t want an objectively poor looking stone you know. Thanks for any comments!
Post # 2
I think it’s beautiful, I can’t see any inclusions at all. I think you should be fine as long as someone doesn’t grab your hand and take out a jeweler’s loupe.
Congratulations on your engagement, by the way.
Post # 3
camilled1991 : Congratulations on doing so well for yourself, bee. I’m in a similar situation — grew up poor, now have money to spare but can’t bring myself to splurge very often, so you’re not alone. Regarding your question: me personally, I’m sorry to say but I have yet to see an “I” that I would be excited to wear. I would go down in size and even color in order to get a VVS or VS clarity. Most bees don’t value clarity as much, so maybe I’m an outlier but you asked for brutal honesty. I would wait to see it in person though, especially since your guy picked it out. Maybe the two of you together will agree that it’s perfect for you, or maybe you’ll both be inspired to look at some different stats. Another thing to consider is, if it’s a busy or intricate setting, the clarity won’t be as important as if it were a solitaire. In any case, congratulations on your accomplishments and the upcoming engagement. Best wishes!
Post # 4
It really depends on the stone. If you study it you might be able to see the inclusions, but its unlikely anyone else would. My sweet spot for clarity is SI1 and I1 is 2 steps lower.
Taking a look at james allen:
These are both i1 but look totally different
Pretty highly included, probably visible to the naked eye
larger white inclusion that is likely prongable
Post # 5
jellybellynelly : Thank you for your reply! Your examples are very helpful. My boyfriend said mine looks very similar to the second one you posted. In fact he actually said the main inclusion is on the side and he requested they set it under a prong. Glad to hear he’s thinking of the right things! So would the second diamond stand out as low quality to you? I appreciate your honesty!
Post # 6
Honestly? I would choose a higher color and clarity and a smaller stone. I am super color sensitive. I could see color in an E. I got a 1.24 oval VS2 D color for probably about the same you are going to spend on that diamond he’s looking at. It looks HIGE and I get compliments ALL THE TIME. Remember, you’ll be looking at your hand every day for the rest of your life. If you see it, you’ll be annoyed. Here’s a pic of mine. I got it at James Allen. It’s the Cushion Pave Gallery ring with the matching band in platinum. We were luck to snag it during the 25% off sale and spent about $10,000 on the entire set. It’s absol amazing. Don’t skimp.
Post # 7
The color and clarity sound a bit low for my comfort. Is it round? I have an emerald cut so it is less forgiving.
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Post # 9
“Nobody around me had diamonds that weren’t in their teeth”
I had to laugh at that. As to the diamond question, there are beautiful I1s out there, and you may have one. The diamond’s specs are no one’s business but your own (and your fiance’s). It’s highly unlikely that anyone is going to come at you with a loupe lol. Anyone who would judge you on the basis of an engagement ring isn’t worth your consideration.
Just stay clear of cloud inclusions and you’ll be fine.
Post # 10
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Congratulations!! Just for me personally I wouldn’t buy an I1. Nothing wrong with going down in clarity at all, I have an SI1, but SI2 is the absolute lowest I’d go.
That being said, if you really love this stone, go for it, as I know there are some beautiful I1’s out there. But if it is going to bug you too much it sounds like you guys have the budget to stay in the VS-SI range and maybe compromise carat size a little but still get a good sized stone
Post # 11
OP, congratulation on your upcoming engagement. The ring looks beautiful, but it’s hard to see the actual stone. Personally, I would opt for a lower color in the I-J range, but choose better clarity and triple excellent cut. If the cut is perfect then the stone most definitely will face up whiter. And of course clarity is very important, I would not go lower than VS1. My own stone is AGS 000 cut, color I, but IF (internally flawless) on the clarity scale and I am obsessed with it. We opted for quality vs size and it sparkles like a disco ball.
Post # 12
Puss_in_Boots : once you’re beyond eye clean, going higher in clarity is a waste of money… unless you like to spend hours staring at your stone with a loupe. An I1 that’s eye clean is a really good deal. But I agree that the animated gif we have is entirely insufficient to judge eye clean or not.
Of course an easy way to get better 4Cs at the same price is to go with a lab diamond, but not everyone wants to choose that.
Post # 13
adastra : Perhaps. The VS2 stones I’ve seen had visible (to me) imperfections. Besides, there is such thing as “mind clean” and that’s exactly what I (personally) wanted.
Post # 14
camilled1991 : hi! Congrats! Brilliant cut rounds hide more inclusions than most other stones due to the facets and sparkle. It’s a gorgeous diamond and you deserve it!
Post # 15
It’s beautiful!! Go for it!