Post # 32
@BrideofChrist: I don’t really worry about it. I mean, it would be pretty shitty if I did get mugged because my ring was more expensive than my beetle and about half of my FI’s Z4. But for whatever reason I just don’t feel like I’m going to get mugged…? lol
Post # 34
There’s no rule that you have to have a fancy or expensive ring. If it makes you uncomfortable and/or worried, get a simple, plain band. On another note, I think that coming to a wedding forum and saying that what you’re planning is a “higher form of marriage” is pretty insensitive to the rest of the women here.
Post # 35
Only if I’m in a bad area, then I just the ring in toward the inside of my hand.
Post # 36
I thought that women in your position/situation wore very plain metal wedding bands? I understood that it is more out of being non-materialistic (like Christ) than anything else?
Post # 37
Nope. Pretty much all my jewelry is big and/or blingy, I’m never worried about being mugged.
Post # 38
Not speaking for myself, but some people have to go into “less-than-desirable” areas as part of their job. Or, they may have to park in one, as many hospitals and businesses are in downtown areas. Not always their choice…
Post # 39
@BrideofChrist: I don’t feel like im in danger of being mugged for my jewelry. The one time I was mugged, I had no purse on me and zero dollars, which was ridiculous. I think its just a chance kind of thing and nobody is specifically targeted because of an item of jewelry (unless you flaunt it perhaps).
Post # 40
@BrideofChrist: Not at all. It’s never crossed my mind.
Post # 41
I try to avoid being out by myself when it’s late… or in any isolated/sketchy places.
With that said, my ring is insured… so worst case it is smart to just hand it over if you’re in a situation like that. It’s not worth your life.
If I do find myself in an iffy situation I put my hand in my pocket or turn the ring around to not draw attention to it.
Post # 42
@imabridesmaid: Good point. Either way, it’s not hard, if its a rare occasion and you have it on, and dont want to draw unwanted attention, turn it around. If you’re in that sort of situation all the time, wear a less flashy ring or simple band instead and leave it at home.
Post # 43
@cmbr: that was addressed to a fellow catholic, that is the teaching of our religion. if you see the link where i posted that, you can see that it is cited in the Council of Trent for the Catholic faith.
If you are not catholic then obviously that is understandably not relavent to you. if you are catholic, that is the teaching of the church.
Post # 44
After I got my ring I was concerned of going places alone because I was afraid people would assume something about me because of my ring, and target me. Espcially since I’m only 4’11, it kind of makes me easy.
I just try not to think about it. That is a great idea the PP’s are mentioning, just turning it around. I hadn’t thought of that.
Post # 45
If you car is $1,000 and the ring costs half that much you should be fine. I mean I have purses worth more than $500 and no one is running after me to mug me for that or my ring which was much more costly than that.
Post # 46
@Ellicott: of the other ones i know, most have gold bands, a couple have custom made ones, one has an exquisite diamond and ruby one, another has a pearl one, a few have engagement type rings.
of the nuns, many have ‘profession rings’ which are usually custom and have for example a chalice with two hearts.
the only day to day sign of our espousal to God is the ring, which is why it is often nice. the rest of our life is in the spirit of evangelical poverty. so for many, this will be their most expensive item apart from their house and car.
if you want to see what such a ‘wedding’ ceremony is a bit like: http://www.institute-christ-king.org/news/236/92/Five-Sisters-Receive-Religious-Habit/