Diamond studs: how big is too big?

posted 3 weeks ago in Rings
Post # 2
487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

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@teainthemountains:  I’d say a carat is a nice size. 

Post # 3
692 posts
Busy bee

Mine are approx. 2ctw (6.3mm each +/-) in 3 prong martini settings with jumbo backs, which are perfect for my lifestyle for everyday wear.  I have long hair worn down most of the time, so they are pretty discreet despite their size.  I like how low set they are and how they seem to float in the ear with the martini settings and I’ve heard too many horror stores about screw backs, so I went with jumbo backs instead which aren’t difficult to put on and take off (I take them off every night) and are super secure.  But I think the ideal size and style varies from person.  As for what I’d consider “too big”, I don’t have a number for that but I don’t care for the look when the stud extends over the bottom of the earlobe.  Since that varies from person to person as well, there is no set size that’s too big IMO.  I just prefer to see earlobe around the entire stud if you know what I mean.  I doubt I’ll ever go bigger than what i have now though.  

Post # 4
3120 posts
Sugar bee

It depends on the size and shape of your ears, your age, and whether you have more than one earring in each ear. 

A bigger diamond size is not necessarily better. I’d suggest less than half a carat per ear and go for a nice design that makes your ears look pretty.

Post # 5
35 posts
  • Wedding: October 2022 - Newton Square, PA

If they make your earlobes droop/the earrings are facing the floor, not up, they’re too big. 

You could get one of the cards of earrings that have multiple sizes and see what works and looks best to you before committing to diamonds. 

Post # 6
2860 posts
Sugar bee

i have a carat and half in each ear  initially  was  afraid they would look like Judge Judy headlights, but  with stable backs they are fine.

Post # 7
3990 posts
Honey bee

I started with .25 tcw, upgraded to 1.03 tcw, and about a year ago upgraded again to 1.65 tcw.  I love my current size, but I’ll eventually upgrade again probably to 2 tcw or maybe even a touch over.

they are classic and perfect for everyday wear.

Post # 8
2182 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I prefer half carat or less. It’s a totally personal preference thing but I believe solitaire studs (or bezel studs) are meant to exude simple elegance and should compliment the ear rather than cover it. 

Post # 9
3990 posts
Honey bee

This is a picture of the 1.03 to 1.65.  Pretty big difference IMO.  

Post # 10
2177 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2005 - Shreveport, LA

I just got a 1ctw princess cut pair for Christmas and think they are the perfect size….So 1/2ct in each ear.

Post # 11
137 posts
Blushing bee

IMO anything over 4 tcw is too large. 2 ct per ear is huge! I think 1ct per ear is perfect, but it also depends on your lobes. Some people have very small lobes and they need to “fit” the lobe area imo. 

Post # 12
7811 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I’ve been trying to decide something similar, as I found lab diamond earrings I really like. I ordered 7 mm “cheapies” and they are, without a doubt, too big for me. They would definitely need the larger, flat backs to keep them from drooping, and they are big enough that they just look fake to me (then again, they ARE fake, so there’s that…).

I am in the process of ordering some slightly smaller to compare before taking the leap to diamonds, but I am thinking somewhere between 6 – 6.5 mm will be good for everyday.

Oh, and last, this really can depend on how much real estate you have on your earlobes. I have seen 1/2 ct per ear look tiny or huge, depending on the person (and the cut/sparkle of the stones), so it may all be individual.


Post # 13
218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1999 - Tacoma, WA

1 carat in each ear is perfect, imo. I agree with previous poster – once they start sagging/drooping, I’d consider them too large.

Post # 14
262 posts
Helper bee

I prefer very small studs, which I didn’t know until I bought some 1ctw fake ones to test and thought they looked really silly on me. Definitely get a set of cz studs to try before you spend money on diamonds.

Post # 15
1945 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I have 3 carats round brilliant each ear. I love them!! I wish I could go bigger but they get very heavy past 2 carats each 😩 lol 

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