(Closed) Diamond vs. Pearl Engagement Rings?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Which option should I pick for my e-ring? (Please read my post before voting)
    Pearl e-ring with matching wedding band : (13 votes)
    12 %
    Diamond e-ring with matching wedding band : (71 votes)
    67 %
    Pearl e-ring and then a plain wedding band : (11 votes)
    10 %
    Other - explain : (11 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Have you considered something like a moissanite ring?  Pearls are really hard to wear on a daily basis, since they are so easily damaged.  At the same time, I can certainly relate to your concerns about wearing an expensive ring all the time.  (I chose not to have an engagement ring, for that very reason.)  Something like moissanite might be more durable than pearls, but less expensive than diamonds.

    And I am with you on wanting the ring to be a symbol of love, as opposed to a way to show off wealth.  The wedding ring I have is a plain gold band that NotFroofy inherited from her grandmother.  No expensive ring could ever make me as happy as this ring does.

    Post # 4
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    615 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I selected “Get a diamond e-ring with a matching wedding band” because I personally am partial to them. I think it will be less costly over time, as you said yourself you would need to replace the pearl and be extra careful with it. I have worked with kids in a couple of capacities and know how rough they can be. I’ve had them slam my hand into things, dump things on me, and etc. IMO, a diamond would be more likely to withstand all of that, when compared to the pearl. That being said, i just posted a video on a thread about buying diamonds online, specifically princess cuts. I noticed the link for the diamond you posted was a princess cut and thought I’d pass it along. Hope all of this helps :-). What is most important is that you love the ring :-). I really believe that! Don’t let people on here sway you if you have your heart made up!

    http://www.vimeo.com/5239762

     

    PS–Just thought of another option. Have you ever thought of buying a diamond ring off of I do now I don’t? I read an article about it on glamour weddings. I will include both links at the end of this post. It seems to be a pretty safe option and is also a wallet friendly idea. Sorry my post is so long lol.

    http://www.glamour.com/weddings/blogs/save-the-date/2010/05/would-you-wear-a-previously-ow.html

    http://www.idonowidont.com/

    Post # 5
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    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    First, welcome!! πŸ™‚ Second, yeesh… I would *not* plan on wearing a pearl ring everyday. It will get damaged = you will be heartbroken. πŸ™ Well I suppose you are aware of this since you mentioned you are counting on needing to replace the pearl periodically.

    I was in your shoes at one point in the very beginning of my e-ring browsing! I have always looooved pearls, and thought, why can’t I have some as “sidestones” or somehow incorporated into a ring? I soon found out this was not a good choice. But! It IS possible to have mother of pearl inlay on the shank of a ring work just perfectly!

    So, my vote is to find an excellent custom jeweler, educate yourself about diamonds here, (you will also find great diamond vendors and jewelers there), and get a diamond ring with mother of pearl incorporated into it. OR, get a more traditional e-ring and get mother of pearl on the wedding band. We have a popular store here in HI called Na Hoku that makes lots of rings like that, in fact if you’ve ever visited you might have heard of them. What do you think of these?

    http://www.nahoku.com/jewelry-type/rings/white-gold-inlay-ring-with-diamond-759430.html

    Do you like rose gold? Somehow this one says “art teacher” to me. πŸ™‚

    http://www.nahoku.com/jewelry-type/rings/rose-gold-inlay-ring-with-diamond-761906.html

    Post # 6
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    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I love the idea of having a pear e-ring and a separate wedding band – but why does it have to be plain or masculine looking? There are so many beautifully engraved bands out there, or bands that have smaller stones (diamonds or something else) set into them. I think it sounds like a great compromise, allows you to keep a ring on, and still have your gorgeous pearl!

    Post # 7
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    4547 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @littlemissmango: I love the first ring you posted. It’s just gorgeous!

    Post # 8
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    510 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    If you’re not going for a diamond e-ring, why not check out some beautiful gemstones, like London Blue Topaz, Sapphire, Amethyst, etc? Those would last longer than a pearl and look stunning as an engagment ring. And they are no where near as expensive as a diamond. If Fiance couldn’t afford my diamond e-ring, that’s what I would’ve done!

    Post # 9
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    2867 posts
    Sugar bee

    Like violachap suggested, how about a different gemstone?  Pearls are really delicate and can be easily damaged.  Check out aquamarine, rubies, sapphire (which they come in white, blue, pink, yellow, etc), tourmaline…

    Post # 10
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    While the pearl ring is unique, I’d have to vote diamond all the way.  Pearl is so soft compared to diamond, can easily come out of its setting, and will have to be replaced over and over.  While the upfront cost of the pearl ring may be cheaper, over the long haul, it may cost you more.

    Money aside, this is your E-RING.  Getting a new diamond in mine would break my heart because the stone means so much to me.  Even if we came into money, I would never upgrade.  This is the stone my fiance picked because when we were ring shopping he said it made my eyes sparkle and fill with joy.  This is the stone my fiance gave me on bended knee in a private dining room by a fireplace.  The stone and the sentiments are irreplacable and non-upgradable.  I hope that you have the same love for your ring and proposal.  I question if you can have that with a pearl that gets switched out every 5-10 years.

    Then there is the issue of feasability.  You are into art.  A diamond can get paint and turpentine on it and be ok.  A pearl would be ruined.  You would have to take your pearl ring off constantly, and risk losing it or getting it stolen.  You probably wouldn’t wear it 50% of the time.  And what is the point of a ring you can’t wear?

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Pearls break WAY too easily to wear everyday. I went through something similar with my love for tanzanite, but every jeweler we went to said don’t get tanz. if you are going to wear it everyday. We opted for purple sapphire, which looks exactly the same (this wasn’t my engagement ring, just a gift).

    I would say if you really love pearls, you don’t have to get a ring! Get a necklace or some other piece of jewelry. There is no rule that says it has to be a ring. But the ad “diampnds are forever” has a pretty solid point. LOL

    Post # 12
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    1641 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Pearls break WAY too easily to wear everyday. I went through something similar with my love for tanzanite, but every jeweler we went to said don’t get tanz. if you are going to wear it everyday. We opted for purple sapphire, which looks exactly the same (this wasn’t my engagement ring, just a gift).

    I would say if you really love pearls, you don’t have to get a ring! Get a necklace or some other piece of jewelry. There is no rule that says it has to be a ring. But the ad “diampnds are forever” has a pretty solid point. LOL

    Post # 13
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    If you’re looking for a cheaper alternative to the ring you picked out, you should try “Emma” from Helzberg. It’s the one I have, and I love it. It was $1,500 and the center stone is smaller than the one you like (it’s 1/3 carat) but the ring comes with the matching wedding band.

    I personally love it, if you need a compromise. πŸ™‚

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    Post # 14
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    332 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    My mom is very anti-diamond, so she has a pearl engagement ring with 1 white and 1 black pearl. I think she’s probably had to replace a pearl twice that I can remember (in the last 20 years or so). She wears her wedding band all of the time, but only wears the pearl ring when she’s not at work since she’s a teacher who works with young kids. I would say go for whichever one  you really want more. 

     

    Post # 15
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    You could also consider another gemstones besides diamonds. Moissanite, sapphires (Maybe a white one?), Emeralds, Rubies and so many more. I think the pearl ring is very unique and pretty though!

    Edit: Also, white sapphires and moissanite look very similar to a diamond and most people will probably think they are, so that could please your SO aswell?

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    i second the commenters who suggested looking at other gemstones. i love the look of sapphires and aquamarines, or if your Fiance prefers it to look more diamond-like, you could go with moissanite or a white sapphire. i have a beautiful pearl ring that was given to me as a gift years ago, but i barely wear it because i am paranoid about damaging it. it has definitely worn down/lost its luster over the years, and that’s with me wearing it maybe twice a year.

    also, i love the look of a plain wedding band and plan on going that route myself. like you, i love the symbolism of a plain perfect circle. there are beautiful options available that aren’t “mannish” and will look great alone for the times you can’t have your e-ring on.

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