Diamonds: how BIG is TOO BIG?

posted 2 weeks ago in Engagement
Post # 2
Hostess
8830 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

fiancetobee : Surely you picked it because you were happy with it? It sounds gorgeous. Have you got any sneaky photos yet? 

Post # 4
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1834 posts
Buzzing bee

Go to a jewelry store and try one on.

Post # 5
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906 posts
Busy bee

Personally I would find that too big. However, tastes differ. Many women have 2 ct or 2ct equivalent gemstone rings around the bee, if you search 2ct in the search bar it should turn some up. 
It may stand out quite a lot in real life if that’s an unusual size for your social circle, and this might bother you, or it might not bother you – I would wait until you have it and see. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI

I felt like I could go up to two carats and I’m the same size.  I have a 3 stone but the solitaires I looked at looked great at 1.5-2. I was also concerned about losing something so costly!

Post # 9
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708 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

For me the “too big” range is over 3 cts and even then it depends on the shape. 

A 2 ct oval will be substantial, and if 0.5 ct is common in your area it will definitely stand out.  Be prepared for looks and comments, some will probably be rude.  But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t love it and rock it. 

Congratulations on your upcoming engagement!  Post pics when you can. 

Post # 10
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8582 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

fiancetobee :  

Well, you both chose it and he bought it ( and l imagine it was very expensive at that size). Now he is going to propose with it, so l can’t believe it is going to go down well if you tell him it’s wrong in some way. 
Also, too big for what? Other people’s idea of taste? Do you fear their judgement perhaps for its size and presumed cost? Or that it will somehow look so big on your finger that it’s beauty will be diminished? If the former, put it out of your mind, they will get over it. If the latter, fear not, unless you have doll’s  hands it will look gorgeous . 
Congratulations btw, I hope its soon! 

Post # 11
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715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

For me, 2 ct on a 6.5 is perfect.  But if .5 is the norm in your area, it might be gaudy?  Idk

Post # 12
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1294 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t think it matters what the norm is in your area. You and your SO picked it together because you both liked it. That’s all that matters. 

I wear a 3ct on my size 6 finger. I haven’t thought it’s too big yet. It’s obvious, that’s for sure. But it’s not completely over the top. 

Post # 14
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725 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

My finger is a 6.5 and I have a round 1.5 DEW. I seriously contemplated a 2

I think a 2 will look lovely. At 3 carats they start to look a little off, IMO

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2003

I have a 2 ct solitaire on a 6.5 finger.  Rings are 6.75 because my fingers swell.  I have small hands and stubby fingers and I think it’s the perfect size.  It’s way bigger than the norm in my area.  But I love it.  I can’t wait to see yours. <3 

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