(Closed) Diamonds vs. Moissanite

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Moissaniteco.com wil let you order a loose stone and return it. Maybe try that to convince him? I have a 1 carat enhanced round (Mira) moissanitetrim them and it is beautiful. My mom has a G VVS1 diamond thatlooks exactly the same. I recommend it!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I needed to try each ring on and feel it before buying it so since no one really seems to sell moissanite retail this wasnt an option. When I looked online I found theyre wasnt a big price difference with the type of rings I like. If you want a big stone then ya Moissanite seems to be worth it.

Post # 6
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11343 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I think this is a major decision that is very important to both you and your Fiance, and both of your should agree on it before your Fiance makes a purchase.

I know very little about moissanite and had never heard of it prior to seeing posts about it on WB.  From the little I’ve read here, there seem to be a lot of bees who have it and love it.  Some of them specifically chose it because of their aversion to controversial issues regarding diamonds.  Others chose it for its beauty or cost-saving properties in general or the fact that it enabled them to have a larger stone for significantly less money than a smaller diamond would cost.

Some other bees have indicated on WB polls that they would not have wanted anything but a diamond, even if they could have had a larger moissanite.  I’ve also seen a few bees recently posting that they were very disappointed in the color of their moissanite stones. However, other bees have commented on those threads that they absolutely love their moissanite stones and couldn’t be happier with them.

It seems that your Fiance personally believes that giving you a moissanite engagement ring will make him look as if he gave you a “fake” (his word, as noted in your post) ring and that this may reflect poorly on him in some people’s eyes, especially his own. As the one who is buying the ring and proposing, his feelings about this are very important and should be taken into consideration, even if you do not agree with them.

I would suggest that the two of you talk about what factors regarding this issue are MOST important to each of you.  For example, if you have a strong aversion to owning a diamond, you should not have to wear one just because your Fiance wants to purchase one for you. However, if the cost difference between moissanite and diamond is your only concern, and your Fiance is easily able to afford to purchase the diamond, then perhaps you both could be happy with a diamond.  Or, perhaps there may be another option altogether that would make each of you happy, such as a gemstone ring?

Post # 7
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199 posts
Blushing bee

If I were you, I would research Moissanite, and watch videos and get pictures to educate yourself and see if you really like Moissanite and would like it for your ering. What you need to ask yourselve is: Would you be comfortable with a stone that is a moissanite, or would you always be thinking in the back of your head ” I wish I had a diamond”?

I feel the exact same way as you do, inthat, why should we spend 10k+ on a diamond when I can get ALMOST the same thing, if not better for a fraction of the cost? My SO and I are able to afford a diamond but we just cant justify spending that much money on a stone, we would rather put it into building our home or something like that.

As for you SO feeling that it is “fake”, it really isn’t. It is actually a gem of its own. I thought my SO would feel the same way but once I showed him some side by side comparison videos and pictures, we decided it was the best choice for us.

If you would a video and what not, let me know and I will post it.

 

 

Post # 10
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2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@FutureMrsPorter:  I completely understand. I do not like people spending money on me period. I thought I wanted a Tacori but when I found out the pirce I said no way that’s too much! So I looked for a more modest ring that I am completely in love with. I know he would have given me what I wanted but I was very uncomfortable with the prices so I changed my mind!

Post # 12
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14415 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@FutureMrsPorter:  I think you should talk to him about it and give him info and tell him youre 100% fine with it, make a few strong pushes…. but let him make the final decision.  For a few guys I know, they cared more about the ring that she did and *really* want something they thought was amazing.  If you say he can easily afford it and feels that strongly about giving you a ‘real’ diamond, I would not take that away from him.  Just like women have ring regret, and shrinkage, I cant imagine making my guy have regret and not be 100% proud of his purchase and proud to show it off as whatever it is.

Post # 13
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3452 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Both gems are beautiful.  They each have their own beautiful qualities.  If you search for moissanite posts here, you’ll find a lot of helpful info.  Also, check out http://betterthandiamond.com/discussion/ as there is a lot of information about them there as well.   Maybe you can get your guy to read up on them a bit there and see if you can come to a mutual agreement on what will work.  Like a PP suggested, maybe order a loose stone so he can see what it looks like in person. 

I have owned diamonds and moissanite.  Right now I have a 2 ct Amora solitaire that I love.

Post # 15
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Newbee

@FutureMrsPorter  Im in the same boat I have been selling my boyfriend on moissanite and other options, he has been becoming more open to it now.. I cant see him spending that kind of money on a ring because he knows what I want- from the years of me pointing out the style and size- now when weve been actually looking at rings and the prices of a diamond I really dont want him spending that kind of money. 

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