(Closed) Did a long engagement drive anyone else nuts?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
524 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I know how you feel. My situation is a little weird but I’ve been planning my wedding for almost 2 years now. Others have gotten engaged and the wedding has come and gone. We also have been together the longest out of our friends. I hope you dont dwell to much on it. In the end it doesnt matter… or at least thats what I tell myself!

Post # 4
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Same – we got engaged in March of 2011 and we get married this November. It is a long time to wait – and a long time to plan, which can make things extra stressful. We had several people get engaged after us and get married before us, it is just the nature of the game.

Try not to let it get to you – your wedding will get here before you know it.

Post # 5
1090 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We’re having a 4 year engagement…so yes I understand how you feel. It does suck to see people get engaged and married within a year.

Post # 6
258 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Since we are paying for the majority of our wedding we just got engaged in Aug and we are waiting till 2014. I’m dreading this long engagment not so much because everyone is passing us but because it’s just too long to be planning. I wish we could afford to get married next year!

Post # 8
6244 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

I had a 22-month engagement.  It was long, but at least I never felt rushed.  Hang in there and enjoy the fact that you get to avoid that crazy period of rushing to get every little detail finished with not enough time left.

Post # 9
578 posts
Busy bee

My engagement is going to be 20 months, and i’ve gotten so many comments already about how it’s so far away, how i don’t need to plan anything for a long time, etc. Even my mom was surprised when I asked for for advice about my bridal party, saying it’s way too early to worry about it. It’s really frustrating, but i know that we are doing the right thing for us, and I get to be an “engaged girl” for longer than most. it’s a fun stage in life, and you (hopefully) only get to be engaged once, so enjoy it ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 10
272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Yes. I’ve been with the guy for over 9 years, he proposed to me in March 2012, and we haven’t even talked to the priest yet. I told him I’m tired of being the driving force behind the relationship. He just takes my hands, looks into my eyes and says “oh honey, I want to marry you, I swear, we’ll talk to the priest then we’ll book a hall…etc” He’s so LAZY. It bums me out to attend all the other weddings in the meantime, becuase I wonder if the groom is just as lazy as mine and if the bride had to do all the work or if they both worked at it. =/ They just remind me how nonchalant he is…so I can relate ๐Ÿ™

Post # 11
260 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I was feeling that way too for a while! I got engaged June 2011 and the wedding is April 2013 so I’ve been waiting even longer. It’s all starting to feel almost too close now!

Post # 12
337 posts
Helper bee

@RexManningDay:  Fiance and I are in a similar situation actually. We got engaged October 2011, and are getting married in March 2013. It’s AWFUL! I think that’s it’s driving me crazy as well, and frankly I’m so jealous about brides who get to get married earlier than I do haha.

I actually have ONE friend… wow… she and her Fiance started dating a month after I got ENGAGED, and is getting married in DECEMBER… BEFORE ME. Just think about that. Just not right haha.

Post # 14
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@RexManningDay:  you are similar to me! got engaged august 2011, was meant to get married october this year and had to push it back to april. at first i was annoyed to move it but now i dont care. more time to plan, save and lose weight.

Post # 15
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I am happy with our planned long engagement, but my mother doesn’t agree with me.  That fact alone makes me sometimes wish for a shorter engagement.

My Fiance and I had our engagement talk (no proposal here, we just decided together it was right) in August 2011 and announced it to our families in December 2011. My mother immediately assumed we were aiming to get married in the summer of 2012. Then when we cleared that up she latched on to summer 2013. She’s none too happy about waiting until 2014 and that can be frustrating sometimes. Oh well, she’ll come around and I mostly just feel thankful she wants my Fiance as her SIL so badly and is so excited to help us plan a wedding.

Post # 16
1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

That’s why we planned our wedding for less than a year a way… we are impatient! 





and I personally love to go to weddings, but 11 in one year?! Geeze that’d get old fast! haha

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