Post # 1
I am just curious if this is a common problem, since it seems to be such a faux pas these days! The 17 year old daughter of close family friends not only wore white to my rehearsal dinner, but the next day wore ANOTHER white dress to my wedding! She is in a few of our family pictures, and honestly it does irk me a little bit to see her in those since it does clash with my ivory/champagne dress. Obviously I won’t be framing those particular photos in our house or anything, so not really a big deal, but I just thought maybe her parents would have noticed and made her wear something different, especially since it was two days in a row. I know that I didn’t know the “don’t wear white to someone’s wedding” rule when I was her age, but I figured her parents would have at least done something about it. Oh well! Did anyone wear white to you married bees’ weddings?
Post # 2
I think it’s a stupid rule and even more so that some people apparently think it applies to the rehearsal dinner. As long as the dress isn’t an actual wedding dress or a long poofy dress, who cares?
I personally wouldn’t wear white and I usually suggest to other bees that they don’t either because unfortunately, many people seem to get upset when they wear white to weddings and I would rather not get dirty looks all night.
Yes, someone wore white to my wedding and you know when I noticed it? When someone pointed it out to me in a picture.
The only time I have been slightly surprised by a guest’s dress was when my BIL’s girlfriend (19 at the time) wore a very long flowy white dress. Out of the corner of my eye I did think she was the bride a couple of times but again, on such a happy day, why even bother thinking about this kind of stuf?
Post # 3
I dunno. I don’t remember. I was having more fun with my husband and family/friends than paying attention to what people were wearing.
Edit: I think it’s a dumb “rule” anyway. Brides don’t have the monopoly on white, and with bridal gowns coming in literally any color you can imagine, it’s a but outdated and silly imo. Eventually every single color will be off limits.
Post # 4
I honestly couldn’t tell you what a single person wore to my wedding. I was too blissfully happy. Someone could have worn a potato sack and I probably wouldn’t have noticed or been bothered
Post # 5
My stepsister did. We aren’t close – our parents got together when she was over 30 and I was in my 20s. She also lives across the country. I did notice, but I didnt really care. Other people mentioned it to me. It probably didnt help that it was similar to a dress you’d wear to a club – super low cut and short. And yes, she in her early 40s now.
Post # 6
Yeah, I didn’t notice either until I saw the pictures, and really the color clashing is the biggest thing for me (and just for those 2-3 photos). I’m just curious, it seems like people make it a huge deal but it really doesn’t seem to be as far as etiquette goes, color clashing aside. When I was probably 19-20 I was about to wear a patterned dress with white in it to a distant relative’s wedding, and my mother was horrified. I have been very vigilant about what I wear to weddings since then haha.
Post # 7
That was the absolute LEAST of my worries, I think that is the silliest “rule.” Like above posts, as long as it isnt a wedding dress, who cares!
Post # 8
I know someone is wearing a long white dress to our wedding but I don’t mind. As long as she feels comfy and beautiful.
But I don’t think it’s a stupid rule personally. I always choose a different colour when attending a wedding and wouldn’t wear white from the waist up because of how it photographs. I just think it’s a sign of respect to make an effort when attending a party by choosing appropriate attire both in terms of being dressed up or down appropriately and the style of clothes you select. Taking those things into consideration makes me feel comfortable when I attend events
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK
Wedding not until next month but I would find it a bit odd if a guest wore a floor length white/ ivory dress. I just wouldn’t consider wearing a white dress to a wedding. That being said, I do find it a bit dramatic on the bee when someone asks if a cream and floral print dress is ok and bees respond saying “If you have to ask…” etc.
Post # 10
One of my BM’s said the other day she hates it when people wear white to someone elses wedding. Her Mother-In-Law wore a predominantly white dress to her wedding and it really bothered her but I didn’t even notice until she mentioned it. I honestly dont think I would care and I think theres a line… I mean obviously wearing a white ballgown as a guest would be crazy innapropriate but when people say ‘can you believe she’s wearing white?!’ and its actually something like a bold coloured floral print on a white background. I don’t get the problem with that.
Saying this, I wouldn’t wear white to anyones wedding as its such a big no no for a lot of people and I would never upset a bride by doing it since there are so many other colours to wear.
Post # 11
I don’t feel the “rule” is stupid or outdated. As a wedding guest, you are attending someone’s once in a lifetime celebration; and it’s one day out of your life. Why can’t you just refrain from wearing white for that one day?
Post # 12
yes, but it’s because My aunt and uncle are seikhs. I really like that you can see that my dress is Ivory compared. I honestly wouldn’t mind if anybody else is wearing ivory or white as long as it wasn’t a super fancy gown.
Post # 13
All of our guest will probably be in white. Fiance told them to wear white or blue. I don’t care as long as Fiance doesn’t wear white because I don’t want him clashing.
Post # 14
I went to 8 weddings, within a 24 month period, and I don’t think that any of the brides even wore white. One daughter wore ivory – the other ivory and silver.
Post # 15
I honestly couldn’t tell you. The last thing on my mind was what people were wearing.
I think its a dumb “rule” anyway though…