Post # 1
I know its not the norm but I bought my girls their dresses. I told them in advance I wouldn’t be responsible for alterations and such but in the past I was in a bridal party and the bride bought the dresses and I really appreciated that so I knew I wanted to do that when I got married. Any other bees out there who paid for the dresses?
Post # 3
Yes, I paid for all my bridesmaids gowns. I said they could pick any Allure bridesmaids style that was long navy chiffon. They’re getting shipped to my salon and I’m going to mail them out when they come in.
My bridesmaids will be responsible for any alterations fees.
Post # 4
I did not, but since bridesmaid dresses are so expensive, I let them choose any purple dress. (and i approved it hehe) Saved them all a bunch of money!
Post # 5
I bought my girls their dresses and paid for their hotel the night of the wedding. Also got them umbrellas (in case it rains) and jewelry. I thought it was a nice gesture, but that is also because they are flying to a different country for my wedding! 🙂
Only downfall, was the money i spent on the one girl who ended up being really hurtful and against the idea of marriage and told me that while she will still be going to europe the same week as my wedding for a 4 month “self-explorative trip”, she will not be coming at all and will be avoiding the country i am in. :-/
Post # 6
I bought dresses for two of my six BMs. One of them wasn’t able to afford it by the time it needed to be ordered, so I paid for it with the understanding that she would pay me back when she could (and she later did). The other one was traveling here from Japan and didn’t really know what bridesmaids were before I asked her to be one, so I didn’t think it was fair to make her buy a dress on top of her travel costs. I bought the flower girl dresses for her two daughters, too. To this day, I don’t think she knows that it’s customary for BMs to buy their own dresses, and I’m completely okay with that.
Post # 7
I did not pay for all of the dress, but I did pay $50 of each to bring the price down.
Post # 8
I’ve bought them their dresses, but told them they need to get their own shoes and probably won’t pay for alterations (they’re made to measure though so I’m hoping alterations wont be necessary).
Post # 9
My two maids can select their own formal full length black gown. I gave them a $50 gift card to help offset, and also made their jewelry & will treat to a spa day. They both have to travel (and both are family), so I want to show my appreciation.
Post # 10
I bought their dresses for them. They are choosing and buying their own shoes and paying for their own alterations.
Post # 11
Yep. I offered to buy the dresses as a gift. However, I’m having them pick their own short black dress, so it would be something that they could wear again. (unlike a traditional bridesmaids dress)
All of my bridesmaids turned down my offer though.
Post # 12
@SoontobeMrsAM: I paid for all my bridesmaid dresses and the brooches to go on them. They were only responsible for their shoes and accessories. I decided to pay for them because we were having a destination wedding and they were already paying alot of money to attend my wedding. They appreciated it alot
Post # 13
I knew from day 1 that I would feel weird having my BM’s pay for dresses, so I’m paying for all of them. We’re actually renting the dresses from LittleBorrowedDress and I’m saving a lot of money by not buying them outright. With the money I’m saving on their dresses, I may be able to buy their shoes and accessories too 🙂
Post # 14
I have two brides maids and I paid for their dresses, I also let them pick the dress – as long as it was blue, came with straps/sleeves and were around knee length. No drama, they picked a sweet simple dress and we’re all happy about it. I also purchased and shipped a dress to our flower girl.
This thing about it being customary or not for BMs to buy their own dresses is something I think varies regionally.
Post # 15
@HappinessIsInDaisies: Wow!!! Jealous much?!! I hope she returned the dress!
I paid for mine but it is customary here to do so. Tbh I think it is a huge thing to ask of a person. They’d have to be very good friends to be involved in a wedding if it’s going to cost hundreds of $$$’s!!!
Post # 16
Yes and no, I did purchase my JR Bridesmaid or Best Man dress for her since she was my niece and knew her mom would not be able to afford it. I also did pay for my Maid/Matron of Honor and other Bridesmaid or Best Man dress but they also paid me back since they didn’t have the money at the time.