Did any of you not find out the gender until the baby was born?

posted 2 months ago in Pregnancy
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I didn’t find out ahead of time and really enjoyed it. My husband tries to talk everyone into not finding out. I might be in the minority overall, but almost none of my close friends found out, which has been fun. I was weirdly certain I was having a boy the whole time, as was everyone else, and we were all right, I did. I didn’t end up feeling much surprise, and I’m not sure if that is because it was a fact when I found out or because I had been thinking it was a boy all along. It makes me excited to see how I feel if there is a next time, if I will have a strong feeling one way or another and if I will be right or not. 

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Tacoma, WA

I didn’t find out with my first. I was convinced I was having a girl. I desperately wanted a girl. I wouldn’t even entertain the idea of having a boy. When people asked what I was going to do with all those girl clothes if I ended up with a boy, I’d laugh and say “yeah, it’s a girl. I just KNOW.”

He was a bouncing baby boy. Of course! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Literally, the first words out of my mouth the moment he was born and the doctor said “Congrats, it’s a BOY!” were… ‘A WHAT. A BOY?!”

But, then they put that beautiful little boy in my arms, and I was instantly in LOVE with him.

I think it would have taken me a lot longer to come around if I had found out during my pregnancy that I was having a boy, so I wouldn’t have had it any other way. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

We are due next month and we are awaiting for our surprise. We always wanted the birth to be a surprise. We decorated the nursery in a nautical theme

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We didn’t find out and it was easy for us ๐Ÿ™‚ We were just excited about having a baby and it was fun focusing on gender neutral stuff and not having a over abundance of truck/construction/”ladies man” onesies or pink everything. I will say it was a little anticlimactic at birth because I had a very difficult 40 hour labor and didn’t care what he was at that point when he was born, haha! We will not be finding out with #2 and will have fun again announcing at birth again. 

Post # 20
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Busy bee

I had cousins who did this and it was actually really exciting ..at first it was hard but a few months before the due date it was fun and it was so exciting once the baby was born and the news was released .

I think I will wait if we get pregnant! I know my husband wants to for sure so he will keep me on track if I start to reconsider. 

Post # 21
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Bumble Beekeeper

I can definitely understand the appeal of team green in theory but don’t think I’d ever have the restraint to do it lol. I’m the type of person where if there is Interesting Information available to me, I will seize it at the first possible moment. I have no chill with that haha.

For the same reason, we didn’t do a gender reveal or anything…I did the NIPT test as soon as I could at 10 weeks and found out the sex when the nurse called me a week later. That remains the single best phone call I’ve ever gotten in my life – mostly cause we found out that the testing had come back normal – the sex info was the icing on the cake! In my opinion finding out the sex of your baby is really exciting information and it honestly doesn’t matter how it’s “packaged” – whether by slicing through a pink or blue cake in front of your family and friends, during the birth, or during a doctors appt or phone call with a nurse! It’s going to be an awesome moment regardless! So just do what feels right to you!

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

tiffanybruiser :  Same here. With my son, I found out at 20 weeks at the anatomy scan. With this pregnancy I wanted to know as soon as possible and we knew around 11 weeks because we did genetic testing (not for the sole purpose of finding out the sex, but that was a cool perk). 

I don’t think I could make it 40 weeks without knowing. To me, it’s equally exciting no matter when you find out!

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard

 I tried to find out but my daughter wasn’t too cooperative so they gave up after trying a few times since I had to have a couple extra ultrasounds anyway because of concerns. I just told people the baby wasn’t cooperative when anyone would ask and left it at that and told them my nursery is teal and grey. They dealt with it lmao.

Post # 24
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Busy Beekeeper

yougatobekittenme :  I didn’t find out and I still don’t get why people want to know early. It’s the coolest biggest surprise of your life! And after the pain of labor and pushing and all that crap hearing my husband yell “it’s a girl!” just can’t be topped.  I’m a super planner so people were all upset that I wouldn’t be able to “plan” for my kid without knowing the status of its crotch which is just silly to me. All of the most important things I needed for my baby were the same regardless of gender – diapers, wipes, basic clothing, car seat, bassinet, pediatrician, etc. I spent my pregnancy mapping out the best college savings strategy, choosing guardians, and researching term life insurance instead of designing a pinterest nursery. Plus the nursery will be used again for her future sibling so I wanted it neutral anyways! Ain’t nobody got time to redo a nursery with a toddler in the house. 

I also know when people tell me the sex and the name and everything ahead of time I’m less excited when the actual birth happens. I mean I’m still excited but I knew Sarah was coming out eventually so there isn’t really any new news lol. 

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

yougatobekittenme :  My daughter is turning 10 but when she was a baby I personally had TWO friends who were told they were having a boy/girl and then actually gave birth to the opposite. I was shocked I could know two people that happened to within 6 months time.

So… dont assume you know even if you think you do LOL

That said, I am way too type A not to know. I will always ask. I have a son and daughter and FH has a daughter. I would be happy either way and so would he. I do kind of hope for a boy just because I know him as a great dad to his daughter and I think it would be cute if he had a little son to take fishing and do boy stuff with ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 26
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Helper bee

I am not pregnant yet but I feel that I want to be team green. Fiance doesn’t agree or anyone else. 

Post # 27
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Busy Beekeeper

konablend :  I told my husband in no uncertain terms that the first would be a surprise and that we could revisit it for the second kid. Now that we’re thinking about #2 I am leaning toward the surprise again and I think it’s bumming him out lol. I’m still trying to keep an open mind for the next one, but the literal only reason I would do it is to see if I could ditch all of my daughter’s dresses or not lol. 

Post # 28
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Helper bee

LilliV :  Yeah makes sense. I won’t really know for sure how I feel till I am pregnant with first child. But I feel like I would want that additional suprise when I give birth. Because I will already be stressed about that first time… and that excitement would take my mind off of things I think!

๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 29
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Busy Beekeeper

konablend :  I think that excitement definitely helped me in early labor! I wasn’t in pain yet and thinking about how excited I was to finally meet this unknown person that I had zero information about (except that she had a mean kick…holy shit… hahaha) was really cool. 

Post # 30
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Bumble Beekeeper

LilliV :  I spent my pregnancy mapping out the best college savings strategy, choosing guardians, and researching term life insurance instead of designing a pinterest nursery. 

Just wanted to point out that it’s possible to design a Pinterest nursery (if you’re into that) and also research college savings plans and other practical parenting topics. Nine months is a pretty long time! 

I also know when people tell me the sex and the name and everything ahead of time I’m less excited when the actual birth happens. 

I can’t relate to this either, but I will say that the degree of excitement other people would hypothetically have about our child’s birth was not remotely a factor when we were debating between being team green or not.

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