Post # 1
Did anybody else choose a venue without seeing it in person? My fiance and I got engaged over Thanksgiving holiday. We are in a long distance relationship, and are having the wedding in the town where my parents live. The wedding is in just 8 months, so we have to nail down a venue ASAP. The problem is, neither my fiance nor I can visit any of the venues we’re considering. We located all of the venues over the Internet, and my parents went to visit a few of them over the weekend. They were very helpful, but my fiance and I can’t seem to pull the trigger. We don’t have a strong impression of any of these places because we haven’t stood inside them. They all look similar, with hotel carpet and hotel walls. There was one that looked nice in the photos, but according to my parents who visited, you can see, hear, and smell the pool from the banquet hall, which we never would have known just from looking at the website.
If you decided on a venue without visiting it in person, how did you go about making your decision? Were you happy with what you got? Were there any surprises that you became aware of after seeing the venue in person? Since we’re planning long distance, are there any questions in particular that we should be asking when we talk to these places over the phone?
Post # 3
I would never do that since you can’t tell what is included and what isn’t if you rent or purchase something sight unseen. If, after booking the venue, you find out that it doesn’t work, then it’ll be too late when the wedding rolls around, and regrets are the last thing you need or want when putting a wedding together.
Post # 4
My fiance didn’t see the venue, but I did, and he still agreed to go with it 🙂 But then again…he’s being a bit of a “yes-man” about htis whole wedding.
Post # 5
@Binoculars:No, but I absolutely would’ve picked my venue sight unseen. I couldn’t find a negative review on any website anywhere. When we went to the venue, we brought the down payment, already knowing that this is where we wanted to be married.
Post # 6
I picked my venue without either of us seeing it. My mom and dad lived locally and went to visit all the places after I researched them on the internet. I had them take videos and pictures of each site, which was really helpful to see the flow of the space. When we saw the videos, I had a strong feeling about one of them, and everyone agreed that it was their favorite. In the end, It was perfect, and exactly what I wanted.I would definitely recommend the video route if your parents can do it, and keep looking!
As for planning long distance, I found that talking on the phone was easier for me. I can easily be swayed in person, but on the phone, I was a little more bold. You should still ask all the same questions on the phone that you would ask in person. My parents also asked in person, and then I called. So I felt like we got a good idea of things from two perspectives. Also, just make sure you really read that contract before signing. And if there is something in it you don’t like, don’t be afraid to ask about it. I did that, and they were fine with changing this one part I didn’t like.
Post # 7
yes, but….i found a lot of internet photos and 360 videos of the place. i think though if you have pictures, the go-ahead from yoour parents, and a floor plan with measurements of the place then you should be ok. keep in mind that you can decorate a bit and in the end it’s about having a place with charm and electricity. 🙂
Post # 8
Yep. I’m planning long distance, although I looked at a few places while I was in St. John’s over the summer. I didn’t hear about this one until I got back home though. My mom went to a wedding there and I’ve heard good things, and the prices were right. I’m not super picky on much about the wedding so I am not too worried.
Post # 9
We booked our venue months before we were able to see it. Admittedly we were terrified to do so but we researched the heck out of it before committing. Ask for references from the venues you’re considering and request a review. Do you have a good friend back home that gets you? Maybe he/she could tag along with your parents and give you their own review.
Post # 10
Yes – we researched the hell out of it before putting down the deposit. It also helped that my extended family owns a florist in the area and does many weddings at the venue we chose each year. I went with their word that it was a nice place. When we got there, it was beautiful and perfect!! We knew we chose the most perfect place!
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
Did you see my blog post yesterday? My venue wasn’t built when we signed our contract. When we visited, we saw a pile of dirt and some wood framing.
We were comforted by the reputation of the people behind it. They had everything we needed to know in writing.
Here’s what we saw when we signed the contract: http://www.weddingbee.com/2011/11/25/charlottesville-vineyard-venues/
Here’s what we saw when we visited after construction was done: http://www.weddingbee.com/2011/11/26/charlottesville-vineyard-venues-2/
Post # 12
I picked my venue without seeing it first….there was no other way.
I narrowed it down to about five (i knew I wanted a winery) and my mom went to look at them. She is pretty quiet so I was worried…
The venue I picked was my favorite from the websites and reviews and had everything I wanted so I was probably a little biased…. but my mom said she walked in and knew it was the one even though it was the top of the budget. So I went with it.
Everything turned out great…. there were some poles in the reception room that I hated but 99 percent perfect.
Take a deep breath and jump!
Post # 13
@Binoculars: I would go by your parents judgement regarding the look and feel of the place. Pictures can truely lie. I went to visit so many places that look nice in pictures and stuff, and a few of them I pulled into the parking lot, barely took 2 steps in and wanted to turn around and leave without even bothering with the appointment.. it was *that* bad. Aside from actually seeing the place, make sure to ask about if ther are other events that could be running at the same time, and if they have any shared areas and how the noise barrier is. (One of the places I visited had 3 functions rooms, but a shared bar area outside of them!)
Post # 14
We are having a destination wedding so we had to book our venue without ever seeing it~
Post # 15
We didn’t see the venue in person until a few months after I had booked it. I researched on here and on the knot and found as many reviews as possible. Also while I was looking for a photographer, DJ, and officiant at the same time I mentioned that my venue was not nailed down but I was leaning towards the one I picked. I heard rave reviews from all of them. Even wedding coordinators I talked to told me they loved the venue because the staff there pretty much set everything up and did a wonderful job which made their work even easier. I knew it was the one when I had photographers fight over photographing my wedding, with many of them from out of state and willing to travel on their own just to photograph at the venue. I was shocked I didn’t realize it was such a wanted venue. That was when I knew I made the right choice. When I visited I was ecstatic, because it was the right choice.
Post # 16
I did and I won’t see it until less than a week before my destination wedding. Here’s what I did, you could probably do some of these things too:
- I emailed with the coordinators of all of the sites. I went with the vibe that I got from them. Were they helpful? How long did it take to get back to me? etc.
- I didn’t just look at the pictures on their websites. I went to Trip Advisor and a bunch of other sites where actual people review the places and looked at those photos and read those reviews.
- I Google imaged the sites so that I would get actual photos from real people, not just pro-photos that they want to put on their website.
- I was lucky enough to find some people that have visited the hotel and had good things to say about it which reassured me, but I had already booked at that point.
- I decided that if I get there and the grass is brown or the chairs are ugly, I will not let it bother me because in the grand scheme of things that is so insignificant 🙂