Post # 1
I read so many threads about ring size, people feeling insecure about the size of their stones, or not liking it because it’s not big enough, etc.
I don’t like big stones. I picked out my e-ring: .10 carat altogether – it’s a row of 7 tiny diamonds on a criss-cross band.
No ring matched my e-ring, so I wear it on my right hand, and we got another set for my wedding finger (we liked the look of a set). I also picked out my wedding set. It’s a .10 carat solitaire; and .03 carat on the band – again, row of 7 tiny diamonds.
It’s not a money issue, we have it. It’s not an age issue; I’m 27 and DH is 34. I just like the look of delicate rings with small stones – and I do not like big stones. I even tried some, for the fun of it, but they always looked weird on my finger, not ME.
Am I the only one??? Around here, it often feels like I am.
Post # 3
I am happy with the size of my diamond. My center stone is .81 and with side stones my ring is about 1 carat total weight. From reading on the bee, I know that some people consider my ring to be small.
I am actually very happy with my ring and think the diamonds are a great size for me. I did not want a ring that looked enormous on my hand and I am glad that we did not have to promise our first born to the jeweler to pay for my ring 🙂
Post # 4
My engagement ring has a small center diamond (less than .5 carat) and 5 even smaller diamonds on each side. I LOVE it! The stones are from my great-grandma’s ring, which makes it special, but even if they weren’t, I much prefer the smaller size!
Post # 5
My e-ring has a center stone (round) that is .46 carat. I love it! I have very small hands, so it is perfect!
Post # 6
I did a similar thing as other posters – we used my great aunt’s diamond, which was a .34 carat old miner’s cut (which they don’t even do anymore) and custom designed a setting for it, a cushion halo with 16 small stones surrounding it. I love it! But, yeah, I felt a little funny considering everyone else seems to be flashing their 1 carat + rings. But, whatever, it’s my ring! At least we’re a little different!
Post # 7
My ring is .7 ct and I LOVE it. It’s just a round solitaire with a plain band. I have very small hands and fingers and anything larger would have looked ridiculous. People actually assume it’s bigger than it really is all the time.
Post # 8
One of my best friends got a simple band. No stones, nothing. She and her husband are avid campers and outdoors people, so having something that might get caught or damaged was not appealing to her. She’s also extremely forgetful, so she wanted to get something she could replace easily and inexpensively. She did end up losing the first band, and she replaced it with a wooden one made by a local artisan which I thought was really cool. She then found the first one again and now uses the wooden as her spare! LOL! I think it’s perfectly her style 🙂
Post # 9
I wanted smaller stones, because I felt they fit with my personality better! Glad to see I’m not the only one!
I felt that too much ‘bling’ was not me – and I didn’t want my ring to attract any attention.
Also, I’m fairly clumsy and I didn’t want to continually bash it into things and scratch it to death (case in point: many a scratched up watch that I have owned).
Post # 10
My fiance picked out my ring and I love it — a .34 carat marquise-cut solitaire on a very thin band! the wedding ring is a wrap with 6 small diamonds (3 on each side) so when put together, they look like one ring. Total weight is about .66 carats, and it is perfect for me (I’m a yoga teacher and a professional cellist, and I wanted a ring that was small enough that I could wear all the time without it feeling too “flashy”).
Post # 11
I have an alternative engagement ring that I don’t wear to work but most people in my field choose just to have a wedding band or a small engagement ring since there’s constant pulling on and off of latex gloves. Very rare to see a scientist with major bling.
Post # 12
I was beginning to think I was the only one who preferred something smaller. I actually told my Fiance that I didn’t want anything OVER a carat and preferred something closer to .5 or .75. I have a .7 solitaire in a tiffany setting on a plain white gold band. AND I LOVE IT! I even think it’s too big sometimes. lol. We’re both older (I’m 31, he’s 40) and doing well financially, but I just wanted to keep it simple. Still trying to decide if I’m going to get a plain wedding band or one with 5 tiny diamonds in a channel setting on top. I’ve never understood wanting the biggest ring a FI can afford, but I guess I can respect those that do.
Post # 13
I picked out my beautiful .5 center stone .66 TCW tension set e-ring and I LOVE LOVE LOVE IT!
I am an avid fitness junky, a personal trainer and work with cadavers (dead people) everyday as an anatomist. I wanted something that I could ALWAYS wear (I never take off my ring) and that would be practical for my lifestyle but still be beautiful. The tension setting allows the stone to be set low and doesn’t have any prongs that will rip through gloves and get cadaveric material caught in it! Eeeeew!!! LOL
Post # 14
The practical aspect was very important to us too – low setting, making sure that nothing can get caught in it, etc.
Fitness junkies here as well, and I never ever want to take off my rings!!
Post # 15
Since Moissanite is so affordable, my fiance would have actually been able to pay for a 1.5 or 2 carat ring. He had asked me to email him the links and stats of some ring ideas. In my email, some of them were 1.5 and 2 carats. About a week after I had emailed him, I suddenly realized that I didn’t want anything over a carat. It didn’t seem like me, I was afraid it would be too flashy, and would bring unwanted attention (especially since we’ll be traveling for the next few years.) Lol, I sent him a second email hoping it wasn’t too late.
I don’t know if it’s because I’m only 23 in the midwest, but people usually gawk at my 1 carat ring. I always thought it was so big, until I read some of the posts here that say 1 carat is average.
I ramble, but I’m glad I chose to reduce the size of my stone. I already feel somewhat uncomfortable with the stares. I think engagement rings of all sizes are beautiful, and there’s something so lovely and feminine about a dainty ring. Lol, I recently had ring envy over my FSIL’s dainty wedding set. It’s gooorgeous.
Post # 16
Good to find some other folks who agree that size isn’t everything! I worked with a jeweler (via Etsy) to design and create my very own unique ring out of recycled gold and conflict-free stones. The largest stone (and it’s not large by any stretch of the imagination) is a white sapphire, and the two smaller stones are colored diamonds–one blue, one green. Now the jeweler is using the design we created for other rings, too!
A few reasons behind my choice:
1)I’m a cellist, so I’ve never really worn any rings at all, much less something with a big ol’ rock sticking out. I’m having trouble adjusting to a ring on my hand and may end up switching it (and the forthcoming wedding band) to my right hand, where the ring(s) would be slightly less obtrusive.
2) Like gill84, I’m pretty sure I would’ve run into anything and everything if I did have a big stone on my hand!
3) I kind of thing huge bling is tacky and unimaginative. No offense to those who choose and enjoy it–just my personal take. =)