Did anyone actually choose a small stone ring?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1523 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am happy with the size of my diamond. My center stone is .81 and with side stones my ring is about 1 carat total weight. From reading on the bee, I know that some people consider my ring to be small.

I am actually very happy with my ring and think the diamonds are a great size for me. I did not want a ring that looked enormous on my hand and I am glad that we did not have to promise our first born to the jeweler to pay for my ring 🙂

Post # 4
151 posts
Blushing bee

My engagement ring has a small center diamond (less than .5 carat) and 5 even smaller diamonds on each side. I LOVE it! The stones are from my great-grandma’s ring, which makes it special, but even if they weren’t, I much prefer the smaller size! 

Post # 5
258 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My e-ring has a center stone (round) that is .46 carat. I love it! I have very small hands, so it is perfect!

Post # 6
12 posts
  • Wedding: May 2011

I did a similar thing as other posters – we used my great aunt’s diamond, which was a .34 carat old miner’s cut (which they don’t even do anymore) and custom designed a setting for it, a cushion halo with 16 small stones surrounding it.  I love it!  But, yeah, I felt a little funny considering everyone else seems to be flashing their 1 carat + rings.  But, whatever, it’s my ring!  At least we’re a little different!

Post # 7
7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

My ring is .7 ct and I LOVE it. It’s just a round solitaire with a plain band. I have very small hands and fingers and anything larger would have looked ridiculous. People actually assume it’s bigger than it really is all the time.

Post # 8
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

One of my best friends got a simple band. No stones, nothing. She and her husband are avid campers and outdoors people, so having something that might get caught or damaged was not appealing to her. She’s also extremely forgetful, so she wanted to get something she could replace easily and inexpensively. She did end up losing the first band, and she replaced it with a wooden one made by a local artisan which I thought was really cool. She then found the first one again and now uses the wooden as her spare! LOL! I think it’s perfectly her style 🙂

Post # 9
259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I wanted smaller stones, because I felt they fit with my personality better! Glad to see I’m not the only one!


I felt that too much ‘bling’ was not me – and I didn’t want my ring to attract any attention.


Also, I’m fairly clumsy and I didn’t want to continually bash it into things and scratch it to death (case in point: many a scratched up watch that I have owned).

Post # 10
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My fiance picked out my ring and I love it — a .34 carat marquise-cut solitaire on a very thin band!  the wedding ring is a wrap with 6 small diamonds (3 on each side) so when put together, they look like one ring.  Total weight is about .66 carats, and it is perfect for me (I’m a yoga teacher and a professional cellist, and I wanted a ring that was small enough that I could wear all the time without it feeling too “flashy”).

Post # 11
2821 posts
Sugar bee

I have an alternative engagement ring that I don’t wear to work but most people in my field choose just to have a wedding band or a small engagement ring since there’s constant pulling on and off of latex gloves.  Very rare to see a scientist with major bling.

Post # 12
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I was beginning to think I was the only one who preferred something smaller.  I actually told my Fiance that I didn’t want anything OVER a carat and preferred something closer to .5 or .75.  I have a .7 solitaire in a tiffany setting on a plain white gold band.  AND I LOVE IT!  I even think it’s too big sometimes.  lol.  We’re both older (I’m 31, he’s 40) and doing well financially, but I just wanted to keep it simple.  Still trying to decide if I’m going to get a plain wedding band or one with 5 tiny diamonds in a channel setting on top.  I’ve never understood wanting the biggest ring a FI can afford, but I guess I can respect those that do. Smile

Post # 13
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I picked out my beautiful .5 center stone .66 TCW tension set e-ring and I LOVE LOVE LOVE IT!

I am an avid fitness junky, a personal trainer and work with cadavers (dead people) everyday as an anatomist. I wanted something that I could ALWAYS wear (I never take off my ring) and that would be practical for my lifestyle but still be beautiful. The tension setting allows the stone to be set low and doesn’t have any prongs that will rip through gloves and get cadaveric material caught in it! Eeeeew!!! LOL

Post # 15
673 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Since Moissanite is so affordable, my fiance would have actually been able to pay for a 1.5 or 2 carat ring.  He had asked me to email him the links and stats of some ring ideas. In my email, some of them were 1.5 and 2 carats. About a week after I had emailed him, I suddenly realized that I didn’t want anything over a carat. It didn’t seem like me, I was afraid it would be too flashy, and would bring unwanted attention (especially since we’ll be traveling for the next few years.) Lol, I sent him a second email hoping it wasn’t too late.

I don’t know if it’s because I’m only 23 in the midwest, but people usually gawk at my 1 carat ring. I always thought it was so big, until I read some of the posts here that say 1 carat is average.

I ramble, but I’m glad I chose to reduce the size of my stone.  I already feel somewhat uncomfortable with the stares. I think engagement rings of all sizes are beautiful, and there’s something so lovely and feminine about a dainty ring. Lol, I recently had ring envy over my FSIL’s dainty wedding set. It’s gooorgeous.

Post # 16
170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Good to find some other folks who agree that size isn’t everything! I worked with a jeweler (via Etsy) to design and create my very own unique ring out of recycled gold and conflict-free stones. The largest stone (and it’s not large by any stretch of the imagination) is a white sapphire, and the two smaller stones are colored diamonds–one blue, one green. Now the jeweler is using the design we created for other rings, too!

A few reasons behind my choice:

1)I’m a cellist, so I’ve never really worn any rings at all, much less something with a big ol’ rock sticking out. I’m having trouble adjusting to a ring on my hand and may end up switching it (and the forthcoming wedding band) to my right hand, where the ring(s) would be slightly less obtrusive.

2) Like gill84, I’m pretty sure I would’ve run into anything and everything if I did have a big stone on my hand!

3) I kind of thing huge bling is tacky and unimaginative. No offense to those who choose and enjoy it–just my personal take. =)


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