(Closed) Did anyone ask the cost of your ring? Help – not sure what to do.

posted 4 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Has anyone asked how much your ring cost? *You can select multiple options*
    No - my friends and family know that's none of their business : (91 votes)
    43 %
    No - but I'm sure they would love to know. : (42 votes)
    20 %
    Yes - and I told them. : (21 votes)
    10 %
    Yes - and I refused to tell them (either politely or not) : (29 votes)
    14 %
    Yes - and I regret telling them : (5 votes)
    2 %
    You're overreacting - just tell the stepmom and move on with you life : (20 votes)
    9 %
    Other : (6 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 2
    47190 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    sunshineno5:  Pay for a service to do your taxes. Problem solved.

    Post # 4
    7905 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Does your stepmom blab about your finances or about other people’s finances? Is she a certified tax preparer? If she’s professional, she should know to keep these money issues confidential. It sounds like you’re more bothered by how FI’s mom blabbed that info, and now you’re concerned for future disclosures. 

    How come you have to disclose the sales tax of the ring for annual tax purposes anyway? It’s not a business cost or anything. I’ve never had to file such complicated taxes!

    Post # 5
    47190 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    sunshineno5:  Taking charge of your own life is ALWAYS an option. If your Fiance wants to keep his life confidential from his stepmother, all he has to do is tell her that the two of you have decided to have your taxes done elsewhere.

    Post # 6
    6450 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    Cause conflict? “Oh, sorry, we’ve already had our taxes prepared. Thanks for the offer, though.” They can argue as much as they want after that, but what’s done is done. Additionally, I’ve never had to declare tax paid on any significant purchase…

    Post # 7
    1480 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Any time someone asks the cost of my ring, the answer is “a lot”. End of story. 

    Post # 8
    4238 posts
    Honey bee


    It’s rude to ask. It’s appropriate for stepmom\cpa to know if the tax write-off is legit. 

    And it’s absolutely, categorically, inconceivably rude for FI’s mom to blab the cost to others. Oh my word! She owes y’all more than an apology.


    Post # 9
    320 posts
    Helper bee

    If you’re concerned she will blab about it now, you’ll have the same concerns and issues when you’re married and making decisions about money together. Either she’s trustworthy and someone you’re find with preparing your taxes, or she isn’t and he’s going to have to cut her out of doing his taxes soon anyway. Unless they are claiming him on their taxes he can just go do it on his own. I can’t imagine why they would make a big deal of it. If they would, I think you have to question why they need to have so much control/be so involved in his life in that way. I’m not really comfortable with friends/family knowing my financial business though so maybe I’m biased.

    Post # 10
    1358 posts
    Bumble bee

    Why do you think the stepmom will lose her mind and be upset if she finds out the price of YOUR ring? 

    Post # 11
    1624 posts
    Bumble bee

    I did our taxes last year with itemized deductions and didn’t list my ring. Now, your ring may have cost significantly more than mine, but even a big purchase, like a car, I’ve never had to claim on my taxes. I live in the USA, not sure where you are from.

    Post # 12
    3538 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    I’m really curious why you would write off the sales tax? 

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