Post # 17
@Fall_In_Love22: oh you have a reason to be angry! I would be angry too, and by now I would have probably already said something about it! That is not righ at all. If you are going to open up your mouth then stick to it, I’m sorry but thats horrible! I guess one always has to save extra, thanks to “those” type of people.
well thats good 🙂 & thanks so much! 🙂
Post # 18
Well kind of. When FI’s parents had us cancel our planned destination wedding last because they wouldn’t close their business for a few days, they said they would reimburse me for the $2000 in deposits I had already put down. I managed to get a fair of it back given that all contracts I signed said they were non-refundable but I was still short about $1100. Provided a Excel spreadsheet of the breakdown and copies of receipts and contracts…..yep over a year later I’m still waiting for that money. Future Father-In-Law actually got mad when Fiance asked him about it and said that he didn’t think I would have asked for it, that it was pretty crappy <insert cuss word to replace “crappy”> of me to ask for it back and that our original plans were crappy to begin with. The plans that THEY said it was okay to go with and that they would figure out what to do with the store because we basically asked them for permission first!!!! That galled me too, like seriously we have to ask your parents if it’s okay to have the wedding we want?
Soooooo because I started out with an $1100 budget shortfall, they do not get a guestlist, they do not get flowers, and they’re lucky they’re even getting an invitation.
Post # 19
@WestieGirl: Wow thats pretty “crappy” of them to make you cancel your Destination Wedding and then not give you the money they said they would reimburse to you. I would be angry at that. Your Future Father-In-Law had no reason to react that way and I agree with what they are not getting. Hope things get better between you and the in laws though 🙂
Post # 20
@lioness_89: Thanks!!! I doubt it will get better….you have to read some of my other posts. It’s not like they don’t have the money either, given the unnecessary items they’ve bought over the past year, they’re doing QUITE WELL, they just don’t want to give ME my money back. Every month it’s something new with them….LOL. FI is wishing we had stuck with our plans now that they have showed their true colors.
I’m just waiting for them to say something like “when do you need our guestlist by? or “I want this type of flower for my corsage” so I can tell them why they’re not getting those things. <rubbing my hands together with glee>muhahahahaha
Post # 21
My in-laws had said they would help and my Father-In-Law kept saying it was coming, but they never did help. Instead Mother-In-Law and SIL went to Europe for a week.
Post # 22
Yep, DH’s half sister said she would help pay for our bouquets (which I ended up DIY for pennies compared to going with a florist) and when it came time to pay she said she couldn’t…
Also, my dad had said he wanted to give us a few k and that fell through the week of the wedding… we ended up having to charge our honeymoon, because we had prepared to use my gift from my dad for it. =/
Post # 23
@WestieGirl: You probably have thought about how you want to phrase this exactly, but I couldn’t resist. How about: “Unfortunately, your [guests/flowers/etc] had to be cut to make up the $1100 in deposits we lost after changing our plans at your request to accommodate you.”
Post # 24
@WestieGirl: haha well when that happens you gotta tell me how it goes! There always has to be those type of people who get stingy I guess you can say with their money and although they have it they dont like to waste it unless its on themselves.
Oh thats very nice of them!
You should have told them something like, thank you for contributing to our wedding, oh wait, you never did! Those things get me so angry!
ay thats bad! My mom told me the other day that she planned to help, she didnt say how much, but since she has been having to pay for mostly all the bills lately I’m not really counting on it. Good thing you had backup money to pay for your honeymoon though!