(Closed) Did anyone backout and not help pay for your wedding?

posted 10 years ago in Money
Post # 18
251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Well kind of. When FI’s parents had us cancel our planned destination wedding last because they wouldn’t close their business for a few days, they said they would reimburse me for the $2000 in deposits I had already put down. I managed to get a fair of it back given that all contracts I signed said they were non-refundable but I was still short about $1100. Provided a Excel spreadsheet of the breakdown and copies of receipts and contracts…..yep over a year later I’m still waiting for that money. Future Father-In-Law actually got mad when Fiance asked him about it and said that he didn’t think I would have asked for it, that it was pretty crappy <insert cuss word to replace “crappy”> of me to ask for it back and that our original plans were crappy to begin with. The plans that THEY said it was okay to go with and that they would figure out what to do with the store because we basically asked them for permission first!!!! That galled me too, like seriously we have to ask your parents if it’s okay to have the wedding we want?

Soooooo because I started out with an $1100 budget shortfall, they do not get a guestlist, they do not get flowers, and they’re lucky they’re even getting an invitation.

Post # 20
251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@lioness_89:  Thanks!!!  I doubt it will get better….you have to read some of my other posts.  It’s not like they don’t have the money either, given the unnecessary items they’ve bought over the past year, they’re doing QUITE WELL, they just don’t want to give ME my money back.  Every month it’s something new with them….LOL.  FI is wishing we had stuck with our plans now that they have showed their true colors.

I’m just waiting for them to say something like “when do you need our guestlist by? or “I want this type of flower for my corsage” so I can tell them why they’re not getting those things. <rubbing my hands together with glee>muhahahahaha

Post # 21
1351 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My in-laws had said they would help and my Father-In-Law kept saying it was coming, but they never did help. Instead Mother-In-Law and SIL went to Europe for a week. 


Post # 22
3467 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Yep, DH’s half sister said she would help pay for our bouquets (which I ended up DIY for pennies compared to going with a florist) and when it came time to pay she said she couldn’t…

Also, my dad had said he wanted to give us a few k and that fell through the week of the wedding… we ended up having to charge our honeymoon, because we had prepared to use my gift from my dad for it. =/

Post # 23
2336 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@WestieGirl:  You probably have thought about how you want to phrase this exactly, but I couldn’t resist.  How about: “Unfortunately, your [guests/flowers/etc] had to be cut to make up the $1100 in deposits we lost after changing our plans at your request to accommodate you.”

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