(Closed) Did anyone book a venue before *officially* getting engaged?

posted 3 years ago in Venue
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

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lexipediabride :  This is something you and your SO need to agree on. I personally would not book before getting engaged. I do know someone who did and all went fine, but I would never have done it. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Talk to him about it. We booked the venue and started planning before gen proposed. NBD

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We booked our venue before getting engaged.  I knew a proposal was coming, as I’d already picked out the ring.  We wanted a destination wedding, and knew where we wanted to get married and in what month.  I called the venue on my own and asked for their availability, and they only had 1 Saturday left in our month.  I approached him about booking the venue, and he was all for it.  The hardest thing was not telling anyone that we booked our wedding date until we were actually engaged. 

We got engaged about 3 weeks later, and because we already had the date booked, it actually allowed us to relax a bit and enjoy our engagement!  Worked for us, though I wouldn’t recommend unless you absolutely know you are getting engaged and within a certain time frame.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

“Official” engagement or not, if the two of you have agreed to get married, and you have spoken to each other and agree that you want to go ahead and book the venue, then go for it. A ring and proposal is one way to be engaged. Another way is to, as a couple, decide you’re ready to get married and start planning. 

As long as you both discuss it and are definitely on the same page, you can start making plans now.

Post # 6
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Worker bee

I’m in a similar situation. My boyfriend and I are not engaged and we want to get married next year. My boyfriend wants a short engagement but I had to let him know that things are already booked up solid (at one venue I researched online) until May 2018. That really freaked him out. So now we’ve decided to start looking at venues. 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

We booked our venue before we got engaged. Families knew. We are engaged now and continuing planning. If ou are certain you will be engaged, it’s fine. Our venue was already booking for 2019 in October. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Do it! I think a lot of men don’t realise how quickly venues can book up, and if you’re financially able to cover it and are in agreement as to the date and location, it’ll save you a whole lot of stress down the line. Explain it to him and see what he thinks. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

I booked the venue a couple months before getting engaged. Booked a planner and bought my dress too. The venue was already starting to fill up and we got a discount for booking early. My Fiance knew about the venue and planner and was for it. He still doesn’t know about the dress as I want that to be a surprise. I had no doubt in my mind that we wouldn’t get engaged, we were committed already, we just didn’t have a ring.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We “booked” ours before we were officially engaged too. “Booked” is in quotes since our venue was free, but we set the date, made arrangements, and told very close friends and immediate family before we had a ring. I think there was about a two month gap between setting the date and the official proposal. 

As long as you two are totally on the same page, there’s nothing wrong with it at all. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

We booked our venue about 2 weeks before getting engaged. I knew he had bought the ring. We knew we wanted a short engagement so I told him I was worried about finding a venue, he was more than fine with going ahead and starting to look. Just talk to him about it, it will be easier for you since you already know the venue you want. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

You can be engaged before you find the ring! My dad proposed to my mom without a ring and they later went ring shopping together. If you two are discussing when and where you plan to get married, it sounds as if you’re basically already engaged. You can figure the ring out later. Go ahead and book your dream venue!

Post # 13
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Busy bee

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lexipediabride :  I have two friends who booked the venue before their SO proposed. Both got engaged two months later and everything worked out! I also know a couple who got engaged, book a venue, then broke up. I think each situation is different, but you arent crazy for wanting to do this! 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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lexipediabride :  We booked our venunes, photographer, wedding planner, DJ, and photobooth in May 2016 and got engaged in July. It started because he thought I was over exaggerating on how quick things book. We ended up with a date 4 months later than we wanted because all the dates before September were already booked. As soon as we had a date we started contacting vendors, many were already booked. I made a list of 5 of each that met what we were looking for and out of the things I listed, there were only 1 each of the 5 we contacted available for our date. We got a GREAT deal on our photographer for booking in 2016 for a Fall 2017 wedding. If we waited until July, we would be getting married in 2018 and not when we actually wanted to.

Post # 15
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Honey bee

My DH’s cousin did this, but she booked it after visiting with her mom and asked the groom later. I do NOT recommend this. If you’re both on board then I’d go for it!

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