Post # 1
I’m planning a december wedding – 2013. I’m a grad student and we’d like to have a wedding at school area. We met at school. The problem is, I’m doing my internship 1K miles away now and won’t go back to the town until mid-august. And he lives in my internship area as well. As August seems too close to the wedding, we’re thinking to book online…
We have some friends in town to help us, but I’m not sure about booking a venue without seeing it. We have two places in mind, only because those two are locations we saw one decent wedding at each. Should we just pick one of them? Or search online more and talk online more..? Search but wait to really book until August?
Is there anyone, who bookes a venue without really seeing?
Post # 3
@Mee: We are having a weddingmoon in the Caribbean, so I have never seen my venue. However, it’s the Caribbean so I am sure it will be gorgeous.
Post # 4
I would select a top 2-3, and ask some friends with good judgment to just do a quick walk-through and see if the pics are represenatative and if they get a good vibe from the place. Bonus if they can take photo/video and send it over. I’ve heard too many horror stories about the venue being “off” for some reason (including uncooperative owners, and that can sometimes be figured out only by meeting them in person), and I myself thought for months I had found the perfect PERFECT venue that I had to have…until I visited and was underwhelmed.
But yeah, August is too late, especially since so many other vendors depend on the location.
Alternatively, if you have the cash, maybe you can hire a wedding planner just to manage this one task. Consider the couple hundred bucks “venue insurance”.
Post # 5
I think booking one earlier without seeing it is better than waiting, but I would try to have someone checki it out for you.
I did research online, but the wedding is in Colorado and I live on the East Coast. I had my Mom visit my top choice, and she fell in love, so we booked it several months ago. I finally get to see it in a few weeks for the first time 🙂
Post # 6
I booked my venue without seeing it. We’re having our wedding in our hometown and were unable to make it down to tour. I corresponded with several venues via email and then sent my mother and father to check them out in person. My mom made me a private facebook album so I could see lots of pictures of the venue. We ended up booking the first one they toured because the others didn’t come off as well over email or didn’t precisely have what we wanted. The venue even sat down with my mom and came up with a custom menu for us. We went home a few months ago and had dinner at the venue and finally got to see it. I don’t regert our decision.
Post # 7
I visited my venue choices, and its a destination wedding for me and FI. We took a weekend and visited our top 3 venues, as well as a few other places to get a feel for them. FI’s top pick turned out to be a total bust…the place was not very well taken care of, the rooms were dingy and dark, there was zero dedicated parking….details that we wouldn’t have been able to figure out from pictures/reviews and we could only see in person.
In your case, if you can’t steal away for a weekend, I’d have friends/family visit the venues for you and perhaps take tons of photos and videos to share with you. They an also make a list of pros/cons/concerns they have when they do the walk through for you.
Post # 8
We’re in a similar position to you. We are moving in August and want to marry where we are settling down. I’ve found a venue that sounds perfect for us online but we won’t book it until we visit. It’s far too important a decision to make based on photographs. Unless you’ve been to an event at your venue before, or have a highly trusted friend you can send along, I would advise against doing this. You need to see how the layout works, etc. before booking.
I believe our proposed venue isn’t particularly popular – I only found it by chance and it only caters for small weddings so it won’t be suitable for a lot of people – so I’m not going to reserve a date with them until we visit. If yours is popular, I’d ask if they can hold a date for you and then book it when you visit if all is well.
Do you have to get married in December or could you not push the date back a few months to give yourselves some time? I don’t think you’ll have any trouble planning a wedding between August and December but you don’t want to find a lot of your guests already have plans or can’t get cheap hotel rooms.
We are hoping to get married in around March-June next year. We are only inviting around 65 people and a lot of them are family members. We will let them know the date in September and that will give them between 6-9 months’ notice.
Post # 9
I did! I live 8000 miles from the city of my wedding and am not rich enough to fly home for a venue meetup. I have only pictures and stuff to go on. I won’t see it until the day before. I’m nervous but I think it’s gonna work out well. I’m being calmly optimistic.
Post # 10
@Mee: I booked my venue without seeing it. I live in NJ and getting married in Vegas. I just went by the pictures the hotel sent me.
Post # 11
@MrsPanda99: sounds lovely, I hope it will turn out great!
@2BeeMrsE: I haven’t heard about venue insurance but I should check it. thanks.
@slcall: @Eckle: How great that your mothers could do that!! My friends will check for me, but yeah… I wish my mom and dad could do that.. but it’s great to know that someone chose without seeing.
@PeachSnapple: At least those places are I know for sure about parking and accessibility. And one of them already have a lot of photos and videos online. maybe we should pick that one – if available..
@lunalyra: Yeah, it’s the same and the opposite situation I guess 🙂 I’ll move to his town where I am now after married but I wanted to have the wedding at my town. Because our friends are mostly in my town.
@Bebealways: 8000miles!!! Wow! All the best luck for you! When it works out, you’ll get a surprise as a bonus 🙂
@MiJeS1104: Thanks for sharing. Great to know that I’m not alone 🙂
Thanks bees for all those comment. Very helpful. Adding a little more details. I think those two hotels are pretty safe options. They are the best hotels in town, with good reviews. But I feel sorry that I’m missing other possibilities… after a little more search, I now know more names of other places but other places do not have many pics and reviews. At the same time, I realize that the hotels we are considering are more expensive places compare to other options. We are somewhat flexible about budget but we’d like to make it cheaper so that we won’t spend all the savings – we’re paying our wedding.
I’m planning to start to call them. And a question for remote booking bees – was it harder to negotiate because it was remote?
Post # 12
@Mee: My venue didn’t have many pictures on it’s website, however if you googled it there were a lot of pictures of it in photographer’s portfolios who had shot weddings there. I don’t know if you’ve looked for pictures like that, but I found it very helpful.
Post # 13
@Mee: Sorry, I was speaking tongue and cheek, I’ve never heard of venue insurance… I just meant that hiring a professional to check it out would act as a sort of venue insurance. But if there is such a thing, that would be great!
Post # 14
I would ask friends at the very least
Post # 15
@2BeeMrsE: Well, it turns out, there is a wedding insurance! I’ll do more research on this. but I’m definitely interested in this 🙂
Post # 16
I have a similar situation where my FI can’t be with me to visit every venue. However, I’ve taken my brother who has similar judgement to my FI and my FI trusts him. If (and when) I find our venue, if my FI isn’t with me, I’ll certainly be sure to take tons of photos and get as much info as possible to pass on to him. You should at least see it in person before putting down serious cash for it.