Post # 1
UK bee here getting married in Santorini, Greece.
The dj my wedding planner uses does not look good at all and music is a big deal to us as Fiance and his family are all in the music industry.
I am going to enquire into whether we can use our òwn DJ from the UK but that will involve paying for flights etc and we don’t want to ask a family member to DJ as we want them to enjoy the wedding as a guest.
We do have the option to pay 250 euro to bring our own play list.
Has any other bees used a play list for their wedding?
I am conscious it may look weird with no DJ present to work the crowd etc?
Post # 2
I highly HIGHLY do NOT recommend skipping a DJ. They do so much more than play music. I went to an “iPod wedding” and the reception was awful. NO one danced. The vibe was just terrible. The bride and groom have expressed over and over that it’s their biggest regret.
Think about the following:
What if through all your careful planning and thought, the music you choose and turn loose via Ipod doesn’t hit the mark and the dance floor is empty? What then?
Who will keep the flow of the wedding moving?
Who will release tables for the buffet so there won’t be a mad dash and long lines?
Who will announce the first dance? The speeches? The cake? The last call at the bar? The last dance?
What guests can you use to make these announcements? (None. They are guests!)
Whose job is it to ensure people have a good time? The DJ.
A DJ provides you the peace of mind that no matter what else may happen to threaten the success of the wedding (dry chicken, run out of alcohol, A/C broken, inappropriate speeches, etc), he/she is there to roll past it and ensure that the party will go on.
Post # 3
Another UK bee here getting married in Crete!
We are almost certainly just going to use our own playlist. To be honest I’m not even sure what the difference in price is but at least this way we get exactly the music we want and no risk of Macarena.
We are taking a small, close group of about 20 with a relaxed beach reception so whilst the music is important, it’s more background to drinking and socialising. For a bigger wedding with more of a traditional dancefloor etc I don’t know whether it would work differently.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
Agree with post #3. If you plan on a fairly large wedding and envision lots of dancing then a DJ is probably necessary. But if your reception is intimate and more focused on chatting or socializing people may not feel the urge to dance. Depends on your crowd. We’re having a DJ but only bc Fiance wants one. We have a fairly low guest count and I think a playlist would have been fine. Would have preferred background music but its his money so whatever. :p
Post # 5
We had a playlist, BUT our reception wasn’t “traditional”. We didn’t have a first dance, or dancing at all. Our reception was more of a relaxed super extended cocktail hour with dinner. People could sit where they would like, etc. The music was background music, not a focus. It worked GREAT for us, however I can see if you are having a more traditional reception with dances and a dance floor, it may not be the best choice.
Post # 6
We had a small intimate wedding, and went with a play list instead of a DJ (DH thought it would look silly having a DJ for such an intimate setting). It worked out really well, and there were people dancing all night. There were no problems announcing stuff like first dance, or last call – and we skipped the traditional stuff like speeches, bouquet toss, etc. Our venue had a complete sound system that we were able to connect to.
It did take a lot of time to put the play list together though, and edit the order and flow of the songs (plus our play list could be easily revised on the spot if we needed to change things up.
Post # 7
We are having a playlist for our wedding in six days. There will be about 110 guests and we hope for a dance party! We wanted to have control over the music played. Hopefully it goes OK… we do have a family member doing the necessary announcements so I think it’ll be fine.
Post # 8
keepcalm101 : good luck and when you have time let us know how it goes! music is such a big deal to us and we want a full on party with everyone dancing! Enjoy your wedding day and your last few days as a Miss!
Post # 9
Update: playlist success! We got compliments on the music actually. We did have separate playlists for every part of the event:
- ceremony (processional and recessional)
- cocktail hour
- first dances
We had someone who was responsible for hitting play and stop for the ceremony and then switching to new playlists. We ended up with more music than we needed and at the end of the night people were going to the computer and choosing songs, which worked well. We used Spotify and upgraded to premium for $9.99 so we could download the music and listen ad free. It worked fine!
Post # 10
I’ve only recently started stressing about this (getting married in 7 days!) so I’ll give you my input. Hopefully, it’ll make the decision easier for you.
At first, I never wanted a DJ. I HATE them. They’re loud, annoying, don’t know a lick about your guests so they think their party formula works for everyone. It doesn’t. They pronounce names wrong, can’t always read a crowd, can have bad timing when it comes to announcing events if you don’t stick on them, etc. I was always an “iPod” wedding bride and I’m pretty high maintenance.
Then I went to an “iPod” wedding and thought it was a complete disaster so I became terrified with my plan. Then I tried to evalute why this iPod wedding was a disaster: It’s because they had a HUGE group on a HUGE property in which guests were actually there for different things (wedding, anniversary and pig roast) so every was so scattered.
You have to know your crowd. I don’t think an iPod DJ will work well with a big and YOUNG crowd. I did go to an iPod wedding that was quite large, but there were only a handful of guests under 30 so dancing was non existent anyway. They had an emcee whom was a family member and I thought he did a great job at directing everyone. I didn’t even notice there wasn’t an actual DJ until much later in the night.
It’ll absolutely work with a smaller crowd if you’ve taken the time to make and crossfade playlists.
Post # 11
keepcalm101 : I like the idea of having guest’s be able to choose songs, personally. It gives them a focal point, a talking point, etc. Glad your music was such a success! I was too terrified to have someome press stop/play since they can’t completely see the ceremony spot from where the laptop needs to be hooked up (it’s in an isolated sound room) and I panicked they’d be running back and fourth not knowing what to do, lol.
Post # 12
iheartstyle : DO NOT skip the DJ.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman
We did, we set up my laptop with a few Spotify playlists over the sound system, we had a microphone and had a friend make a couple of announcements. The only thing missing in my opinion was the lighting you would get with a DJ. Everyone was up and dancing though! Keep in mind we did have a smaller group of 40, but it worked out very well for us. We are picky about music so wanted to choose it ourselves and also we saved so much money.
Post # 14
A DJ was our best use of money. We provided a list of songs and all of them were played. We were able to do requests, and he also played some of his choices when the time called for it.
ETA: I’ve been to iPod weddings and DJ weddings and, like the one last night, weddings with a band. Every iPod wedding I have gone to did not have a great flow of music from dinner, to cake cutting, dancing, etc. DJ weddings have generally been awesome. The weddings with bands have been hit or miss. Really depends on the band. Last nights’ band was fantastic though!
Post # 15
It’s helpful to read about people’s experiences here! I’m on the fence about getting a DJ for our wedding of about 40 guests, almost all family. My fiance isn’t a dancer, but my family is and I love dancing. We are thinking of just having a little dance (maybe 20 people will venture onto the dance floor). Is it worth getting a DJ for this??