(Closed) did anyone decide not to have bridesmaids or only have one or two?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
4136 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I’m a waiting bee so haven’t picked a bridal party.  However, my cousin had a Maid/Matron of Honor and a junior bridsemaid only.  A friend had just her sister as Maid/Matron of Honor.  My close friend is having a Maid/Matron of Honor and a bridesmaid.  I know few people who have more than 3 but I’m a British bee so I understand it’s different. My godfather had just his daughter as flower girl.  She was 2.

Post # 4
1243 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I just had my sister stand up for me, but we had a civil ceremony (not sure if that makes a difference to you).

I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man 4 times and I didn’t want to put my friends through the process.  I will say, however, that there were some hurt feelings from my closer friends…but they got over it.


Post # 6
5011 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m only having two. The more bridesmaids you have, the more trouble they can cause!

We’re having three flowergirls too, but I odn’t count them on the total number of bridesmaids (as all they do is turn up and look pretty).

Post # 7
4136 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

@Waterfall: Yay for waiting bees! (I thought I recoginised your name!).  I think I am just too embarrassed to share my opinions on stuff, sometimes I feel like I shouldn’t have these detailed thoughts.

I think I might be anti-bridesmaids too.  When the time comes I think I’m either going to go all out (MOH, 2 bridesmaids, 1 junior bridesmaid and 2 flower girls) or I wont have any attendants at all.

Post # 8
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

We aren’t having any attendants, but its because our ceremony/reception will be quite intimate, maybe 25 people.  Siblings and parents are the only family we’re inviting, and 6 super close friends, so those friends can consider themselves pretty special by being invited at all. (They would have been part of the wedding party in a larger shindig).

Post # 9
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think its a UK thing but usually 1 or 2 bridesmaids are the norm. I think over the years in the US you tend to have more 🙂

Post # 10
1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We’re not having any bridal party at all. 

Post # 11
649 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I am having an Maid/Matron of Honor and 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man. 

Post # 12
7693 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I only had my cousin as Maid/Matron of Honor, no bridesmaids.  Brother-In-Law was Bridesmaid or Best Man, 2 brothers were groomsmen/ushers, 1 did a reading, he declined being a groomsman/usher because SIL was not asked to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man.  I didn’t ask any SILs, because my husband has 3 sisters, but I didn’t really know them.  I don’t regret what I did.  I don’t have photos of people that are no longer in my life/important to me in photos.  And no real Bridesmaid or Best Man drama. 

Post # 13
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@jillmatt:That’s the size of my wedding but I’m having my sister as my Maid/Matron of Honor and he’s having his sister as his best person.

Post # 14
3241 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Waterfall: I had my sister as Maid/Matron of Honor and a close friend as bridesmaid, hubby had a Bridesmaid or Best Man and a groomsman. It worked for us because we had a smaller wedding (70 people). I have attended a wedding where the bride had no attendants. She chose to go that route because she had been in so many weddings she would have either had an enormous bridal party or lots of hurt feelings. Go with what’s best for you. 🙂

Post # 15
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Me! I’m planning to have my brother as my “man of honor” and just one Bridesmaid or Best Man. Most of my close friends are guys, and some will be standing up on his side anyway, so it just works for me. I’d hate to ask someone I’m not super close to just to make it look better b/c that seems to defeat the purpose to me

Post # 16
23602 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

This is going to come across as sounding whiny, but here it is from the other perspective: one of my most oldest friends (who was 1 of my BMs) and I planned our weddings side by side (she got married 3 months before me, engaged 2 months after), and I’ll admit my feelings were a little hurt when I found out she wasn’t having a wedding party at all.  Hindsight is 20/20 however, and I’ll even admit now that I’m relieved I didn’t have the responsibility of being a Bridesmaid or Best Man or Maid/Matron of Honor for her while planning my own wedding.  So I guess, just make sure if you have any super close friends, that their feelings aren’t hurt in the process.

The topic ‘did anyone decide not to have bridesmaids or only have one or two?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors