Post # 1
A new mattress?
For me, it was super important that our marriage bed be one that he hadn’t shared with another person. I wanted to know that every strand of hair and every stain was mine. It was actually part of my wedding budget!
I knew he was the keeper I had always thought, when after a conversation about how he didn’t understand the importance, he looked at me and said, “If it’s important to you, then we’ll do it.”
Post # 3
I try to avoid making demands, actually. A new mattress sounds nice, though.
Post # 4
My mother bought us our mattress which just came on Saturday. It was one of my hundred shower gifts she got me.
And yes, I didn’t want our marriage bed to be either one of ours too since we both know other people have been in it.
Post # 5
Never thought about it to be honest.
Post # 6
Well, we lived together before getting married and purchased a mattress at that time. Before then, our bed was my bed that I had all through jr. high and high school. Technically I was “with” someone else in the bed but Darling Husband never thought to “demand” a completely different mattress. Honestly, that’s not something that either of us would ever of thought to do.
ETA: Actually, our current bed was given to us from my MIL’s friend who was moving and couldn’t take it with her. We were in the market for a new mattress and she offered us hers for free (it was a $4k mattress!). It was less than a year old and almost brand new so we jumped at the oppertunity. I imagine she and her husband got busy in it but that doesn’t really bother me. Free trumps previously “broken” in any day.
Post # 7
Not demanding. But we have both agreed it will be our first big purchase together (before the wedding).
We would be using my old mattress and I just want a fresh new clean one and he agrees so were getting it
Post # 8
Our bed set and mattress belonged to my mom and step-father… Yes, they had sex in the 20 years they had the bed, and it doesn’t bother me… if it belonged to an ex, totally different story, I would demand a new mattress. Ah, call me a hypocrite!
Post # 9
Eh, I can understand why you’d want a new one–his mom still has his old bed at her house and I know he and his ex have been in it before, but so have we, haha. OUR bed, however, I purchased when we started dating (coincided with me leaving my ex and needing a bed because I didn’t have one). I put a new mattress (memory foam) on our registry, though.
Post # 10
It wasn’t a problem for us, as we used my mattress that was fairly new, then later upgraded to a new mattress before the wedding (mine was too small). I’d probably just have bought us new sheets under other circumstances.
Post # 11
Doesn’t bother me. Then again, the mattress we sleep on is mine anyway. But I never cared about sleeping on his. If they were stained it would be a different story. Gross. Yay mattress pad!
Your man is so sweet though!
Post # 12
Lol we are the only people to make whoopee in our current bed but I did demand another because this one has aged and just doesn’t feel as comfy as before.
Post # 13
No, only because we knew we were going to get a bigger bed when we inevitably buy a house…
Post # 14
While I want a new mattress because our Queen is a bit small at times, it’s not important to me to replace our most expensive piece of furniture because someone else was on it at some point.
Post # 15
Other: Both virgins, so not really applicable. But it would bug me.
Post # 16
I got a new bed and mattress when I moved in with my SO. It was really important to me.