(Closed) Did anyone else feel underwhelmed when dress shopping?

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I guess “underwhelmed” could describe my experience, although I did have a couple of emotional “OMG I’m wearing a wedding dress” kind of moments at my first appointment. After that though, it got exhausting. I’m not a shopper, but I was kind of excited to shop for dresses. But I just didn’t find anything that I loved. There have been some dresses that I “really like,” but I couldn’t bring myself to say I LOVED anything. Perhaps this was because my budget was kind of low. The one dress I did try on that I liked a LOT was out of my price range, not by a crazy amount but it was a little more than I wanted to pay. Thanks to a generous family member, my budget has increased, and now that dress is way under budget. I’m kind of excited to try it on again, and I hope it’s the dress. When I look back at pictures of myself in it and remember it, I can actually say that I love it. I just hope I feel the same way when I try it on again, because I just want the whole exhausting process to be over already!

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

The first time I tried mine , it was disney princess bell that made me look like a mushroom. I was pressured with so many people and a psuhy sales woman.

I went to the same place again and got a way older woman who’s worked doing that for years and pretty much said, “You try whatever the hell you want, aint NOBODY pushing you.” I did exactl that and took my time. I used what I deposited PLUS what my father gave me to help and came up with something my mother in law was wary of, but was perfect for the place and time.. middle of june in the mountains can be hot so it was a crinkle chiffon and super flowy to my figure. I showed people the dress and they were amazed i found something like that for such a plus size girl like me. I got a nice little black 3/4 sleeve pullover with it, but it turned out beautifully.

 

Post # 5
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Helper bee

Don’t feel bad, I didn’t feel it either. I tried on a few that was like “wow I kind of like this” but nothing that screamed at me. As soon as I got into all of them, I was ready to get out of it. I didn’t even have that “holy crap I’m wedding dress shopping!” moment. I’m actually custom making my dress because I just can’t find anything that feels like me and am hoping I cry my eyes out when I put it on for the first time or I’m going to be very sad.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Baby #2 due Sep 2017

I’m not planning to go dress shopping. I’ve had the image of my dream dress in my head for ever and I knew I would be disappointed if I went to a shop and that I’d get pressured (I get flustered when clothes shopping as it is!). I found my dream dress online and I actually teared up when I saw it =D

 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I’m getting mine custom made online from China for this exact reason. I didn’t have a “moment” with any dress, but I knew what I liked well enough so I’m having a Pronovias style altered to fit exactly what I want. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I didn’t cry or get overly emotional or anything. I think I irked a few consultants at various stores because they were expecting dramatics or something, I don’t know. It was just kind of like, okay, put dress on. How do you feel? “I like it!” “Nope. Next.” But yeah, it just felt like shopping for the most part. I had a few dresses that got me to say, “Oh, I LOVE this” and I didn’t want to take them off. But no, the experience didn’t really feel as special as the WIC makes it out to be.

I’m hoping that when my custom dress arrives I’ll have that “omg I’m a bride and I’m so pretty and wow I’m getting MARRIED holy crap!” moment.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

@MrsYoshida:  Aw, how cute are you? And you are so lucky to have found your perfect dress without having to try a bajillion on in the store!

@HonoraryNerd:  Do you feel as if you’re missing out on the ~bridal experience~ since you aren’t reacting in the typical way? Do you want that moment? No snark intended, I’m really curious. Maybe it was so “meh” because you were only seeing what silhouettes you liked?

I honestly feel as if movies, fairytales, tv shows, etc really build up the dress shopping experience so that we expect this positively magical atmosphere. I think it’s a-OK that you didn’t sob at every dress you tried on. BUT if you truly want that special “this is the dress” moment, I hope you have it in one of your future appointments! 🙂

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

@HonoraryNerd:  Aw, that’s completely understandable. Apparently that feeling definitely comes when you try on a dress with a veil (from what Say Yes to the Dress has taught me). Joking aside, maybe that’s it: it’s so far away that it doesn’t quite feel “real”? Either way, I’m sure you’ll experience that moment in the future, and definitely as you get closer and closer to your wedding day!

Also, you can use this as an excuse to try on a lot more pretty dresses (and if anyone tries to question why, you can tell them you’re waiting for your bridal moment). 🙂

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@HonoraryNerd:  It was a crinkle chiffon with an empire cut waist and halter top. I aint tiny by no means. I am a straight size 18-20. That dress in the picture was a complete size 22, no alterations (thank the lawd I’m tall). $600 bucks david’s bridal. Ivory color I believe. Ohooo you have no idea how slimming it looks in pics, I had people gaffing, while we took pics at a public waterfall porch kept asking where I got it from and never once asked if it was plus size. That flowing chiffon does wonders for us curvy ladies!!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I didn’t have the “omg this is really real, I’m getting married!” feeling at all. I didn’t even have that feeling when my actual dress came in. When I was trying on dresses it was like any other shopping experience. I knew when I found “my” dress because I didn’t want to take it off, but even then I didn’t have some big revelation (didn’t happen when I put on a veil either). Sometimes it just doesn’t happen and you shouldn’t feel bad or less of a bride because of it. I can guarantee that when you put on your dress the morning of the wedding you will have that moment lol

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I did. I was expecting that it would be hard to choose because I’d love them all. Not the case! It was hard to find ones I liked. I don’t know if it’s because in tall so dresses didn’t fit me proportionally right, or if I was just picky or what. But I was expecting the dresses to wow me more. 

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

I feel like dress shopping gets SO built up and there’s so much pressure and such high expectations of crying and omggggggggggg saying yes to the dressssssssssssssss squeal!!

But c’mon. It’s not THAT big of a deal. I was underwhelmed too. Maybe because I’m almost 30, I just didn’t care that much.

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