Post # 17
@HonoraryNerd: I don’t think there is anything wrong with your reaction. I didn’t have that “squeally” feeling either lol. I think the whole finding a dress is a bit overwhelming especially if you go into the wrong boutique and they try to slam you with the “no pictures and you can’t know what designer this is so we ripped out the label”. I find myself on the defensive now before I even go into a shop. I always call ahead and reiterate that I will be taking pictures and that I will know the designer before I spend my money. So that kind of takes the fun out of it too lol. I am a business woman though..buying something and not researching it online first is just alien to me.
Post # 18
I also felt like i was going clothes shopping, i felt meh too lol but when i found the dress I had an emotional reaction and bought it on the spot…I think once you find a dress you really like, it will at least make you smile and feel like wow 🙂 But my first appointment at a bridal store I was so disappointed…like ugh this experience is going to be painful lol I think many brides experience what your experiencing…but i do think every bride at least has a moment where they say hey this is the one…some with tears and many without tears! good luck
Post # 19
@HonoraryNerd: The wedding industry and the media push the hype about the squealing and tears and overwhelming moment of epiphany because it serves their own agendas: the media because it makes for better television, the industry because it promotes the idea that this is a “must-have moment” that every bride is entitled to, and it makes it easier for them to persuade people to spend absurd amounts of money on a single-use dress.
There’s *nothing* wrong with keeping a cool head and making a rational decision about a gown that is both flattering and affordable. It doesn’t have to be the emotional roller coaster that it’s so often made out to be. Those of us who have calmer dress-finding experiences just don’t get the same kind of attention because our stories aren’t as exciting.
Post # 20
I wasn’t underwhelmed, I was overwhelmed. I took too many people with me the first three trips and they had too many opinions. My mom, whose opinion I really value, got kinda crazy with her ideas and so I decided to just go by myself. (Much better) I really felt like the consultants and their personalities could etiher make or ruin my opinion on dresses. I definitely remember trying on an Enzoani that I just loved and still do but the consultant was so pushy I ended up hating the dress. I really think we put too much pressure on ourselves to have the moment and when it doesn’t come naturally, we try to force it. My advice is keep looking and be very careful about who you bring with you.