Did anyone else feel weird about announcing their pregnancy?

posted 2 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 16
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Busy bee

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SeaOfLove :  I think some people really enjoy the social media announcement and attention.

Sounds like youre in the camp of people who dont (me too!). We were pregnant but had a miscarriage. Before the miscarriage I was dreading having to “accounce” it. Not that I care that people knew, but that I just didnt want the attention bc thats just my personality.

Youre totally normal. Especially after a loss, its very common to be less joyful about announcing. Nothing wrong that that!

Post # 17
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Go the celeb route and wear blousy tops and announce when the baby is born 

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I have always felt similarly.  I got pregnant my first cycle trying after my wedding, but unfortunately miscarried.  I still felt lucky to get pregnant again easily after that miscarriage.  I had tons of complications with that pregnancy.  First they thought I was miscarrying again, then they said my daughter likely had trisomy 18 or down syndrome, then they said she had a heart defect.  I pretty much was certain I was going to lose her for the entire pregnancy.  However, she was born full term and perfectly healthy aside from being a little bit small.  I didn’t announce anything to social media until she was born.  I just didn’t want to have to post that retraction that I saw so many of my friends post when they lost a pregnancy.  I also had trouble with people getting all excited and talking about plans for a pregnancy that I was constantly certain I would lose.  My mom did know I was pregnant from the beginning.  But it wasn’t some happy announcement.  It was a late night phone call where I was crying and telling her that I was 5 weeks pregnant again, had a 103 fever that wouldnt go down with tylenol, and was bleeding profusely, and didn’t know what to do. (Everything turned out to be fine, but I was scared.) I hadn’t told her about my first pregnancy until after I miscarried, so I never got “that” moment with her.  Oh well.

Now I am pregnant with my second.  I am 37 weeks and have allowed myself to “get excited” for this baby.  In the back of my mind, I still have this feeling like it takes two pregnancies to have a baby.  I know that makes no sense.  But it felt from the beginning like this would be a “practice” one before I could get on with the “real” pregnancy.  But I’m happy to be wrong and not have to go through all that again.  I still didn’t announce on social media, but I did tell our immediate families around 12 weeks.  I told them they could tell whomever they wanted using the old fashioned methods of calling them or face-to-face.  I still don’t want a social media announcement.  This time, I have posted family photos on facebook where I am obviously pregnant.  No one has mentioned anything to me, so maybe my facebook friends just all happen to be respectful enough not to say anything.  I will be posting a birth announcement again when this baby is born.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery

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SeaOfLove :  I’m 8 weeks and while we’ve told a handful of our nearest and dearest, I’m in NO hurry to share the news. Not only have we had a loss (prior to our daughter) but this pregnancy was very unplanned and, while not unwanted, I’m not yet excited enough to feel excited about sharing. (Also, I’d been so outspoken about waiting to have another/perhaps being one and done, it feels very obviously an “oops” which is… kind of embarassing?)

I think we’ll tell our siblings and one or two more close friends then kind of wait a while to let the word out. Not sure about a social media post–may just save that for a birth announcement. 

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - California

I totally get it. If/when I get pregnant with a successful pregnancy I am going to keep it under wraps for as long as possible. No one is entitled to your announcement of your pregnancy and it’s totally fine to feel weird about it! 

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Still TTC here, but there’s a weird part of me that doesn’t want to tell EVERYBODY on social media. I kind of want people to ask if I’m pregnant, get a really embarrassed/ angry look on my face and say “no, I’ve just had a few bad months.” I don’t know why, but I’ve always wanted to do this to people.

Also, I found when I was engaged, people kept bringing up our wedding planning and part of me for uncomfortable with all the attention. So, if it’s anything like that, I don’t want the world to know until later on

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