(Closed) Did anyone else HATE dress shopping? :(

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Post # 47
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Also, that Nicole Miller dress is gorgeous. I think she is generally in the more mid-price range (around $1,000?) and that dress seems like it shouldn’t be much more than that. If you really like that style of dress, you might think of J. Crew, BHLDN, Jenny Yoo or Theia. They tend to do really classic, beautiful gowns for usually between $500-$1,500. A little more at the top end of that you might look at Amy Kuschel and Rose and Delilah.

 

Post # 48
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@ButterflyButterfly:  You’re not alone! I didn’t enjoy dress shopping initially either.  I totally ruined the experience for my mom who thought dress shopping with me would be so special. Each dress I tried made me feel worse about myself – the dresses I loved in pictures just weren’t the right style for me (and doesn’t help that I am considerably shorter than the sample sizes…just felt like I was playing dress up in a tall,thin woman’s closet!). That said, when I eventually did find a dress that I loved, I knew it was the one. All the bad dresses just make THE dress stand out more clearly. Why doesn’t your fiancé want you to wear blush? I am fair skinned too and went with a blush dress and it is gorgeous! (Yes, I realize I am biased…) 

Post # 49
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

HATED it.  I almost was/was in tears several times during the process – and they weren’t happy tears!  Like you, I went in saying I didn’t want strapless, but that just made my search more difficult since that’s all that’s out there right now.  I finally gave in and ended up with a strapless because I just didn’t have the energy or time to keep looking.  I hope you have more persistance and luck than I did!

Post # 50
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@ButterflyButterfly:  

Don’t fret! There are plenty of people who have had the same problem. Myself included 🙁

I really didn’t like the shopping process at all! And it was even more frustrating as I live overseas away from my family and friends so had no one I could go with or get advice. So much fuss and stress just for a stupid white dress! I eventually did find something which was very lucky, especially as I was at my wits end.

I too have fair skin and feel the same about dress colour (even until now). I don’t think it looks as bad as it had originally – I put this down to lighting in the shops as well. I ended up going with ivory as white was too white. There are so many different shades these days. Pick something you want and are happy with, not what others want you to wear.

I only have a little advice –

1. Remain open minded to different dress styles. I originally wanted to get a backless dress but ended up with something completely different!

2. Don’t take too many people when trying dresses. I have watched a number of TV eppisodes and heard from a few dress shop assistants about how brides can be known to bring in an entourage with them (which is pointless)! The process is confusing enough as it is, too many different opinions can’t be a good thing.

3. Look up Karen Willis Holmes. I bought my dress from them. They were so helpful, amazing designs and have a HOT new collection out/coming out!

4. Don’t let the dress become bigger than the wedding.

 

I really hope you have better luck with it! It’s not an easy process! If worse comes to worse you could wear a sari? They’re so much more fun to try on than wedding dresses!!! Please let me know if you need any help 🙂

Don’t forget – you want people to comment about how beautiful YOU are, not the dress.

Jacqui

Post # 51
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@ButterflyButterfly:  I felt EXACTLY the same way.  I started at chain stores like David’s because I was intimidated by the whole thing.  I’m not knocking David’s or any other chain but they just don’t have as nice if lighting, and the one I went to had filthy carpet & dusty silk flowers all over the place unfortunately.  And they are busy, it’s easy to get distracted and then compare yourself to other brides.  Because you sound like how I felt I would say to get your feet wet at a smaller boutique store.  They are not automatically more expensive By The Way.  There’s all different price points.  But they often have better lighting, cleaner/newer dresses, more personal service & more intimate appointments.  After you gain some confidence & idea of what you do like then go back to David’s or similar chains (if you haven’t found a dress yet) and you’ll have much better results.

As far as time goes, yes, you should be seriously shopping now but IMO 6 months is the absolute deadline to get something ordered.  You’re not THAT urgent of a case.  Better to shop more than rush into buying a dress you aren’t thrilled with because the sales person scared you that you’re running out of time. That HAS to be their favorite “mark”.  Not that their all unscrupulous, but for sure there’s an element of that.

it was such a daunting thing for me that I procrastinated about frorever!  I was filled with anxiety.  Once I went to the right place it was actually FUN, and the dresses didn’t all look the same, and I looked nice!  I regret dragging my feet as long as I did because there is magic in trying on beautiful gowns in the right setting.  This is coming from the biggest non-believer in the beginning.  And I DID run out of time.  I would have liked to look more but I didn’t start until the 6 month mark.

Set an appointment at a very small boutique with some good (even if few) reviews.

Post # 54
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

I don’t think it’s too late to order a dress for an October wedding. I’ve been to smaller boutiques as well as David’s Bridal. I think in any case, it really depends on the consultant you have!

Initially, I had thought I liked trains — then found out that I really either liked tea-length or sweep train. The thought of having to spend $$$ to get extra work done to a train made me really nervous. (I’m short)

OP, have you ever thought of ordering a dress to fit you, with custom measurements? I found dress shopping frustrating as their sample sizes didn’t fit me. When they did, I couldn’t help but think, “Well, this is my size, but there’s something about this dress that makes me look like I’m out of place!”

Good luck! I’ve got a list of made-to-measure stores (online) saved, based on recommendations from relatives/friends, if you’re interested.

Post # 55
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Wannabee

Ready for a wedding-dress-shopping horror story? Gather ’round kids!

 

I live about 1,500 miles from my nearest family member, and 200 miles from my Maid/Matron of Honor… needless to say I did most of my shopping alone. I’m fairly introverted when I’m in a new place all alone, so I was mostly shoved into whatever poofy nightmare the consultants pulled for me (being plus-sized, I’d rather not have enough tulle to fill a kiddy-pool wrapped around my hips!).

 

I did have 1 or 2 favorites picked by the time my mom came to visit, so i took her to the salon to show them off. Sounds nice, right? Again, I am a plus (around a 16) so naturaly one of my favs was a barbie-sized sample I couldnt put on. Now, I need to state that my mom always has the best intentions at heart, and I know she’s felt really left out during this whole process, but… being 2 sizes smaller than me she thought perhaps she might be able to fit into said dress so that I could “see what it looks like when its on Someone”!!!! The woman (my mother!) proceded to twist the saleslady’s arm to put this dress on her (my Mother!) so I might get a feeling of what I could look like on my wedding day!!

 

No. Just, no. I did not get that dress. Never again did I return to that store, nor have I done any other shopping with my mom. (Although, I did do an internal victory dance when the dress was Far to small for her as well!!!)

 

I waited till my Maid/Matron of Honor came to visit before braving the dress shopping again. I did put a deposit down on a dress that day… though i’ve had second thoughts on the dress ever since. Its Casablanca style 1995. Its not a bad dress, the best i had seen since I started looking, but I kept looking at other dresses online. I found one that is very similar, its a Sophia Tolli dress called Margaery (honestly, I found the dress while i was looking up things Game-of-Thrones-related on pinterest!! Ha!)

 

 Here I am in Casablanca 1995. Again, the sample was to small, so i’m just holding it up to myself!

 

 

This is Margaery! Same basic shape and materials, but this one has ruching throught the bodice and a better flow from bodice to skirt. I’m going to look at this one in person next week. (I know i’m crazy for looking at anther dress when I’ve already put money down, and doing all of this so close to my wedding date… but if it leads to dress-happiness, then I dont mind!)

 

Post # 56
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Beach

I actually hated dress shoping too lol I wasn’t intrested in the white puffy traditional white dresses. After a long search i found one in saint patricks collection (hanks). I think it’s amazing and not traditional. You should check pictures online for dresses you might be intrested in and then locate the dress in a boutique. That way you save time and you can search for a dress that you like and then show it to them in the boutique so that they get your style and help you find one 

Good luck

Post # 56
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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ButterflyButterfly:  There are no chain stores around here so I’m not sure what the experience is there.  I would go to a store with just your mom or a friend you trust and not with another bride to be. That way you’re not comparing yourself to her. Go somewhere where they will listen to what you want and pick out some styles for you. I went to a store like that first and found it really helped me narrow down what I was looking for.  I tried on lots of different styles. The second store I went to doesn’t help you as much but I already knew the sort of dress I wanted then. Got one at the second store.  Good luck!!

Post # 57
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Firehall

I started my dress shopping online, founds the ones I liked and researched where I could try them on at. I ended up at three different stores. I found the smaller the store, the more I liked it. Over all though, I hated dress shopping. So much stress!

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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ButterflyButterfly:  

absolutley, i picked my dress on my one and only visit to a dress shop to be done with it

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