Post # 1
I bought my wedding dress 5 months ago. It is a dropped waiste ball gown. I am bigger in the hips than up top (size 10 top and 14 bottom) and the ladies in the store told me to buy a size 12 then have the top half taken in. I asked them if I should buy the 14 seeing as that is what I measured (I am not in size denial…I know I have big hips) and they said no no no. So I got the 12. When it arrived they advised me not to try it on as it might get dirty and wait for the first fitting…so I did….it was today. I should have trusted my gut…the size 12 is too tight across the hips and big on the top. We have to take the hips out (a lot) and the waiste in (a great deal). It is 7 weeks until the wedding.
I have even lost 8 kgs since my last fitting and the hips are STILL too tight (pulling and creases very visible)….I know she said she could fix the dress but my irrational ex-fat girl self is panicking as by the time she has fixed it the wedding will be a month away and it will be even MORE too late to do anything about it. Has anyone else hated their dress at the last minute (7.5 weeks to go)?
I need girl support:-(
Post # 2
I can’t offer advise but I know how u feel. I tried on a dress size 12 and it almost fit perfect!!! They said that the dress had been tried on many times so it was probably stretched out. So when they measured me I was a size 18!!!!!! I am not in denial but I’m not a size 18 when a size 12 just about fit. I agreed to order a 16. When the dress came in, we corseted it up and it fell straight off my body. I should have went with my gut and ordered a 14 🙁 they said they can take everything in but the fact that I spent $1.5k I figured it would have fit perfect or at least close to perfect 🙁
Post # 3
Oh yes. I hated my dress when it came in. The sample I tried on was too small and would zip past my ribs but it still looked great. When my actual dress arrived it was way too big in the top and was way more poofy. That’s when my regret started to sink in. Even after alterations it still didn’t fit right in the bodice (it wa heavily beaded so that made it hard to fit perfectly). However, on my wedding day it was fine. I didn’t think twice about it and I’m still happy to this day.
If your seamstress is confident that she can take it out enough, I’d trust her. They don’t typically exaggerate about being able to take it out since that’s harder to do than taking it in.
Post # 4
My dress did not fit right when I received it. The sample was an 8 and was very large on me so they recommended I order a 6. Well, the 6 came in and it was so tight in the stomach and hips that I couldn’t zip it, but the bust was so loose, you could stick a pillow in there. I have no idea why this happened, because I’m not even very hippy!
But the tailor was a genius and let the seams out, took several inches in from the bodice, and made it fit absolutely perfectly. I went from panic mode to being completely fine in three appointments.
Don’t worry. If they say they can do it, they can do it.
Post # 5
I’m bottom heavy too, and had to order a much larger size to accomendate my hips. My dress was huge on the top. I had my first alterations appointment last weekend, and I literally came home crying with major dress regret. There was just so much material on the top and I just looked lumpy and matronly throughout the whole dress. Luckily, my seamstress was willing to see me again that day before she began work (I’m out of state so I’m very limited in the number of appointments I can attend). She started cutting the dress (scary I know), and pinning it all over the place. The improvement was significant. I feel much better about it, but I’m still freaking out. I had hundreds of pins all over me, and I thought I would finally get an idea of how the dress would actually look, but it is really hard to tell with that many pins on the dress. I think that is just how is it when there is a lot of alteration work to be done. If she says she can take it out, then I’m sure she can, and you just have to wait until she does.
Post # 6
I bought a sample dress size 8, I’m a size 2. At my appointment they let the dress OUT several inches instead of taking it in! I was literally swimming in the dress, this was 6 weeks before the wedding! I didn’t really freak out or anything I still had six weeks. I really have no idea if the dress is going to fit when I go to try it on one week before the wedding. It could very well be too big or too small since the first guess was an estimate and we were going to adjust at the second fitting, until they messed it up. I really don’t think you need to freak out about it, you have a lot of time and they said they could fix it. Just gotta hope for the best!
Post # 7
My dress was HUGE up top, even though my boobs are not small… I was so worried about them fixing it, but so far my seamstress has done a great job. Going for my final fitting tonight, I’ll let you know how it goes!
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX
Yes. I actually made a thread about it. I also carry more of my weight in my hips and felt the sample did a better job of balancing my body than my actual dress. I found that by moving my belt lower it helped change my shape and I’m hoping that alterations will fine tune everything. I have to say, I’m pissed at the bridal salon for telling you not try on your dress when it came in. That seems shady, because if something was wrong with it you wouldn’t have found out until much later when it would be too late to reorder your dress and outside any return periods, thus taking all responsibility off of the salon. My first dress was actually 4 inches too short and had to be reordered and I wouldn’t have known that if I hadn’t tried it on when it came in at the salon.
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I bought my 1st dress from a boutique shop about a year in advance to when I had planned to get married. Ended up being a year and a half in advance, as I had to push the wedding back a bit. Anyway, the dress had a little puff of fabric in the front that the shop had said would be EASILY altered with just a few stitches. They didn’t have their own alterers, but I took them at their word. I also started working out and really toning up.
By the time I needed it altered my body had completely changed, and didn’t fit as well as it had in the store. Also, that “easily fixed” puff in front turned out to be a pain in the ass. The alterations lady I took it to had to completely change the front of the dress, and had to sew in bra cups. Everything just looked wonky, and you could see the cups no matter what I did!
I ended up going to David’s Bridal and buying an off the rack dress two months before my wedding. I chose a totally different style, and loved it even more than I had the original one. So…success !
Trust your gut, good luck!
Post # 10
I haven’t personally experienced this but I mentioned to my wedding coordinator that I had my final fitting and she asked if I liked the dress and I said yes. She sighed a huge sigh and said that most of the time brides say that they don’t like their dress as much as when the first bought it. So you are DEFINITELY not alone although I was shocked to hear it happens so often. She said like 7/10 brides feel that way but they always feel great for their wedding. 🙂
Post # 11
I had a bit of a similar experience. I had to do a lot of alterations for sizing and I felt like it lost a lot of the wow factor after they altered it. The overall shape of the dress changed and I was a little bummed. There was also some pulling of the fabric in the midsection that looked bumpy and they said that’s what happens when you alter it sometimes because the fabric is stretched too much. I really wish bridal stores were more upfront about how alterations will alter the overall look BEFORE you buy the dress. This all happened like a week before my wedding. (The first time they ordered the dress it arrived with a giant stain on the lace that looked like cat pee so we were on a very tight timeline to get it right once the second dress came in.) It ended up looking fine and no one but me noticed the bumpy fabric. In fact, I’ve had people tell me my dress was incredible so even though I was not head over heels pleased, it all ended up great.
I vote you’re right to be mad about the sizing but you have plenty of time to fix it. Just be vocal about what bothers you otherwise the seamstress won’t know what you want!
Post # 12
I didn’t HATE my dress when I tried it on – but I realized it wasn’t MY “wedding dress.” It is beautiful and fits me like a glove, other than being a tad too long. However, it’s champagne. Like, really gold. In my opinion (and several others I asked), if I cut the train off it could be worn as an evening gown to any black tie event.
I realized I wanted to wear a “big white wedding dress” for my wedding. Something that I could never pull off any other day. So I bought a new dress and will wear the original one as a reception dress.
My new white wedding dress:
The champagne dress:
Post # 13
I had to get a bridal size 8 to have the dress be long waisted enough for me – and I am a bridal 2. The dress had to come in like CRAZY. It was huge on me, the only part that fit at all was the distance between my shoulders and waist was long enough!
I was super worried about it but I had my second fitting last month and it fits like a glove!
Post # 14
Oh geez I was SO UPSET when I first tried on my dress after it came in. I had to order one size larger than the sample I tried on as the sample would not zip by about one inch in the back. Other than that the sample fit like a glove. So of course when my actual gown came in it was too big EVERYWHERE and I was horrified. I felt like I was wrapping myself in a heavy satin comforter. It was bad. But once she started pinning in around the hips, waist and torso it started to look more like what I remembered and loved the first time I tried it on. When I went back for second fitting it was MUCH, MUCH better. Try not to stress…the seamstress will get it right. They don’t want you looking bad as it reflects very poorly on them if you do.
Post # 15
I’m EXACTLY the same – 14 bottom 10 top, I ordered a 12. When I first tried it it was terrible, it was pulling, it was sagging, it was bad.
They were able to let it out no problem, I went back for my second fitting and they’d actually let it out TOO much (1″ on each side, I only needed about 1″ total it turns out) I was really really worried.
Had my final fitting last night, and besides a little arguing about the bustle it was perfect 🙂
Don’t worry, those alterations ladies can work magic.