- Novemberfriends
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013
I was just replying on another thread about ex’s and it brought up some yucky memories. My SO and I got off to a very bumpy start due to EXcess baggage on his part – exgirlfriends hanging around for much longer than they should have, as some months after we were together I found out he was still texting and leading them on. I nearly left him over this (a couple of times) but I guess it was one of those make or break things, it “made our relationship stronger”.(what BS, obviously it would have been 10000x better if it never happened!!)
Things got rough for a while there and but mostly now things are amazing. He has bought the ring so now I sit and wait. Its just that I still have my bad days now and then, if I get reminded if it. I know that this will always be in the back of my mind; it’ll always be something that happened. (He didn’t physically cheat on me but it was definate emotional cheating.) I do think that when it all came out in the open it gave him the fright of his life that he could lose me and he changed his behaviour completely, for the better. He was just being greedy for the attention back then and not taking our new relationship seriously, as he had his cake and eating it too.
I don’t doubt that I want to marry him and grow old with him, but I just wish I could forget the way things started. I’m looking for any advice if you’ve been through something similar, and how you managed to get over it/work through it? I don’t need any comments such as “leave him” please, because I’m not going to! =)