(Closed) Did Anyone Else Here NOT get a proposal?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think that’s actually incredibly romantic that you-all got married that way to stay together. I am teetering on not wanting a proposal at all. I’d just rather us agree to get married and we move on from this stage.

Post # 4
599 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Something very similar just happened with my Sister-in-Law. She is getting married in two weeks, we just found out a week ago! Its like your situation, her soon-to-be hubby will be booted out of the country soon so they decided they would just go ahead and get married since they were planning on it anyway.

Its not what she wanted I think, but they are trying to look at the bigger picture. Try to hang in there! At least you get to stay together!

Post # 5
1565 posts
Bumble bee

A couple of my friends just got married without traditional proposals. My parents never had one either and they are still happily together 20+ years later. I think it’s nice to have, but not necessary, and your story is very unique and romantic.

Post # 6
5388 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

My parents never had a traditional proposal. My daddy asked my grandfather for permission and he gave my mama the ring. They have been married for almost 30 years now.

Post # 7
194 posts
Blushing bee

I would’nt say I had no proposal, but I definately had an interesting one! Me, my Fiance, and our son were on our way home from a long day of work and daycare. My Fiance gave me a pack of rolos, which are my favorite, to munch on. I opened them up and started to eat them. My Fiance kept watching me and I was like What? He goes there wasn’t anything in there? I was like no why? He immediately pulls the car over and jumps out. He runs over to my side of the car and rips the door open and starts looking all over the floor while I’m like what the hell is your problem!!!! LOL so he finds the ring that had fallen out of the roll of rolos, and gets on his knee on the side of the road and asked me to marry him! Leave it to me to mess it up, but it was still sweet and very entertaining!!

Post # 8
950 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree, try to think of the big picture – you’re planning your happily ever after…my Fiance didn’t exactly do anything “unique” or “spectacular” for our proposal either.  We were lying on the couch, talking about the “big issues”, like kids & budgeting & how to plan for buying a house while saving for future kids’ college money (not exactly romantic), and while we were distcussing our points of view (not arguing, but definitely trying to cover both sides of each question), Fiance left the room (I thought he went to the restroom) & came back.  He said he kinda understood my side of the argument, but figured it would take too long to come to a solution.  I figured that he meant that we should get some sleep & start again in the morning, so I rolled over to get off the couch & get ready for bed & nearly knocked him in the head as he was kneeling down. He never really got the question out; just handed me a box & told me to open it before I knock him unconscious.  That was the proposal.

Post # 9
23 posts
  • Wedding: May 2010

I did not get a proposal. And that’s exactly how I wanted it.

It has a lot to do with my feminist ideals and our relationship. We are equals, in the truest sense, so I told my FH that I did not want a proposal because it wasn’t up to him to decide when we got married. We were adults, making an adult decision together. I did not expect him to plan any over-the-top shenanigans for a staged proposal. I did not want the awkward stage of “waiting” once we had decided to get married and had a timeline. Once we decided, we set a date to go buy the ring, we did it, and a week later I picked up the ring from the jewlers and was officially “engaged.” That’s also why we went ring shopping together and split the cost of the ring 50-50.

Unromantic? Probably. Completely practical? Totally. But that’s what worked for me.

Post # 11
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I actually think it’s really romantic that the two of you got married the very next day after you found out he might have to leave the country.  It may not be a proposal story but it’s a great story to tell!

Post # 12
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

A proposal does not a good marriage make, imo. 

My parents got engaged in their car in the parking lot of planned parenthood. Yep. My mom was 17, just found out officially that she was pregnant, and in the parking lot after the appointment her and my dad decided to get married. 33 years and 2 kids later my parents have the happiest and best marriage of anyone i’ve ever known. 

Post # 14
101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I didn’t get a proposal.  I was like punkrockgirl.  I didn’t care about a ring or any of that.  Though my dh isn’t super-traditional, he still felt like he really needed to propose, but at the same time he has a hard time making big life changes.  So, there I was sitting…waiting for a proposal which was not a position I ever wanted to be in.  So, about 8 months after we had our first conversation of whether we wanted to get married (we both did), I just proposed to him.

So, I didn’t have the big romantic thing, but in the scheme of things, it doesn’t really matter.  We are married and going to have a kicka$$ life together!

Post # 15
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

On my parents’ second date, and while drunk, my father asked my mother, “Why don’t we get married in Chartres Cathedral?”  It started out as a joke, but gradually became less and less of one.  So there really wasn’t a formal proposal.

Post # 16
1001 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My Dad didn’t really propose, either.  Him and my Mom were chatting, and their favorite radio station was AM 920.  My Dad said “we should get married the first year 9/20 falls on a Saturday.”  It ended up being that year!  They’ve been married 41 years.

I think your story is incredibly romantic!

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