(Closed) Did Anyone Else Here NOT get a proposal?

posted 12 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
31 posts
  • Wedding: March 2011

I didn’t really have a normal proposal.  I hear about all sort of romantic stories and crazy plans and speeches.  My FH and I have been together 11 years (since I was 17).  I bought a house, a year later he moved in , we picked out a ring.

I waited and waited for the normal proposal.  My FH isn’t emotional, or good with big life changes.  We were buying stuff to make dinner for our friends.  I was teasing him about us not being married.  We pulled into the driveway in the car He asked if I wanted to get married.  I told him it wasn’t funny to joke.  He said he was serious.  We were engaged.  We unloaded the car and while I was putting things away he got the ring and give it to me in the box, and started cleaning the cutting borad.  No kneeling no big thing, just us.  It was fine with me. 

Like punkrockgirl said we are adults and equals. It is a big decision, and one we had already made to share our lives.   


I think it’s wonderful that you got married to be together, but I totally understand what you mean.

Post # 18
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2011


I sort of got one… I’m usually not too traditional, but I found myself wishing for that big romantic gesture of a proposal, him on one knee, the whole thing. What I got: We were in a hotel room, we’d gone away for our 4th anniversary as a couple. He sidled up to me, told me he got me a ring. This whole marriage/wedding thing certainly seems to bring up emotions/longings I never thought I had. But I cry some, sigh some, shrug things off, and go with it. I figure it all makes for good stories down the line, like some of the other bees have shared.

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