(Closed) Did anyone else NOT ask their BMs in a special way? [long]

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Did you do something special to ask your BMs, or did you just ask them?
    I did something special: a card, a dinner, something. : (19 votes)
    11 %
    I just asked them when we happened to be hanging out/when I managed to get in touch with them. : (155 votes)
    86 %
    I did something special for some and just asked others. : (6 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    5295 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    I think I asked them all over the phone or in person. Nothing too special 🙂

    Post # 4
    242 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I annouced my engagement to my Maid/Matron of Honor by leaving her a voicemail asking how she felt about being a bridesmaid. Everyone else I just asked when I talked to them.

    Post # 5
    916 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Yeah, I just asked them the first time I saw each of them in person. I had never heard of asking them in a “special” way until I started reading the bee.

    Post # 6
    7295 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    lol, like everything to do with weddings, i had NO CLUE that people did special things to ask BMs.  I had this attitude before i got engaged that i was not even allowed to pick up a wedding magazine, so i think that’s why i was soooo clueless about many things in the beginning. oh well.

    anyway, i got engaged while visiting my Darling Husband as we were in a LDR for one year.  we were camping on the beach when he proposed.  when we got back to his place, i started calling people to tell them the news.  I already had my BMs picked for years, so i didn’t see the point in waiting a second longer to ask them since they probably already knew, so i asked them on the phone right after i told them i was engaged!  at least thats how i asked 4 of them.  The last 2 i debated – one of them even asked me who were my BMs (and it was quite obvious why she was asking)…i ended up asking her when we went out for drinks for her birthday and she was extremely happy….and i was unsure about my decision only because i felt i had too many BMs, but by the time my wedding rolled around, i was thrilled she was a BM! (partly because she attended and two others did not!).   The last one – my DHs 16 year old niece, i asked her in a facebook PM. that was just how we usually communicated and she was replied with an over the moon excited message, it was very cute. 

    Post # 7
    1109 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    hahaha you have to ASK them??? Mine just knew already, my sister was picking out her dress before my fiance even proposed…

    Post # 8
    7300 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think before wedding blogs and forums and the WIC telling brides to spend money on EVERY SINGLE LITTLE DETAIL that concerns the wedding, brides just asked.

    I asked my Maid/Matron of Honor one night while we were at the bar after I got engaged.
    I asked my sisters on the phone.
    I asked Bridesmaid R over the phone.
    I asked Bridesmaid M and M in an email.

    No money spent. HOWEVER, I will make them custom thank you cards for after the wedding. 🙂 

    Post # 9
    2183 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

    Eh, my maid of honor knew who she was 13 years ago. When I called to tell her we were engaged (that was cute though… we live on opposite coasts and she was in a meeting with her boss, she saw it was me calling, and she answered “Are you engaged yet??” When I said yes, she was thrilled!), she knew she was my Maid/Matron of Honor. The other two, I called (different coasts again). After they all said yes, I sent them cute little Bridesmaid or Best Man care packages with cards and tanktops and their favorite candies. So, no special way of asking from me, but a special followup.

    Post # 10
    5147 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Honestly, I just texted them. They were family, so it was pretty much a given they’d be BMs. 

    I told my sister “you’re going to be my maid of honor”, I asked my SIL “will you be a bridesmaid?”.

    Post # 11
    83 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I wasn’t planning on doing anything special, but the day before I was going to start asking I was reading online about how people go all out and I was like oh crap!!  So I delayed and started brainstorming.

    Post # 12
    7339 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I didn’t do anything special. I just asked them one night when we went out for dinner. They said yes and we cheered together!

    Post # 13
    588 posts
    Busy bee

    I called my Maid/Matron of Honor the morning after we got engaged and asked her, another was over email cause I couldn’t handle waiting to ask =)

    Post # 14
    3624 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I didn’t do anything special.

    A few nights after I got engaged, I asked my best friend of 24 years over Skype to be my Maid/Matron of Honor.

    One of the BM’s, we went for breaky and I asked her while we were eating!

    The other one, I didn’t ask till later because I initially thought I was just going to have 2 bridesmaids, but she is so special and I felt like a big pile of poo for not asking her. So I sat sobbing in her sisters house telling her how much I loved her and how I was sorry I didn’t ask her sooner, but would she still please be one of my BM’s. Luckily, she loves me a lot so she said yes. LOL.

    Post # 15
    1986 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I didn’t, but I’m contemplating adding one and might just reask everyone- maybe a cute card?  Nothing too over the top.

    Post # 16
    9482 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I texted, Facebooked, etc.  I think I only asked one person face to face and it looks like she may not even be a part of the wedding now.

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