Post # 1
I know this may sound a bit weird, but I just did not want a diamond. They are expensive and we did not have any place in town that solded conflict-free, so he (in all his brilliance) got a white topaz and I am telling you, you could not tell me this isn’t a diamond unless you were a jewler. Did anyone else get for an alternative to diamonds?
Post # 3
My boyfriend purchased my e-ring this past Friday, and it’s Moissanite.
I didn’t get it to ‘pass off’ as a diamond, but because I wanted the sparkle and clearness as well as an ethical alternative (because he’s a Bio major and very eco-friendly!)
Honestly, I love the look of Moissanite, I love the backstory, and the eco-friendly metals they use in their rings.
I’m not knocking diamond, because diamond, in itself, is a beautiful stone. It’s just not what I wanted for MY ring.
Post # 4
@StefLovesJamie: Exactly! I wanted the LOOK of diamond without all the guilt. I am not trying to pass it off as diamond either, I just wanted something diamond like.
Post # 5
I strongly considered getting a ruby, as it is my birthstone and middle name, and just pretty 🙂 I ended up choosing to get a diamond instead, but I feel like whatever you want works – there are no solid rules about what an engagement ring has to be!
Post # 6
me – not really a diamondy type girl, wouldn’t know how to act with one. got a wee tiny little emerald chip with even tinier diamond chips around it.
Post # 7
@JenniferSC: lot’s of bees have moissanite, asha, etc. I have a moissanite and I love love love it! There were a lot of reasons we chose it, but I’m glad we did. Initially it took a little convincing to get Darling Husband to understand that it was what I adamantly *wanted* but I think he feels pretty good about it too.. Especially since its like 10 months later and I still stare at it all the time.
Post # 8
Didn’t want one at all. I didn’t want any stone that looked like a diamond either. Mainly, for ethical reasons and because they are not truly a wedding tradition. Diamond for engagement rings came around in the 30s as a way of guaranteeing that the bride was a virgin.
… But my Fiance got me diamonds. LOL.
Post # 9
@Mrs.LemonDrop: What is moissanite? I literally do not own one piece of jewlery other than this ring, so I don’t know ANYONE about jews and stuff like that.
Post # 10
I’m having a moissanite set right now, which I do plan to pass as a diamond. I wanted a large stone, and I initially planned to go diamond. I found moissy before we bought the diamond, and decided to check it out. I never thought I would like it as much, but I did. After I saw the moissanite, I couldn’t imagine dropping that much money on a diamond when there was such a convincing alternative.
PP are right. There are tons of threads about this (just search white topaz, moissanite, Asha, etc. in the weddingbee search). You’ll find that tons of bees have alternatives, and there are a variety of reasons why they chose them. Some choose to disclose their stone isn’t a diamond, others don’t. Whatever you choose, the only thing that matters is that you love it. It sounds like you do, so congrats!
Post # 11
I don’t want one because EVERYONE seems to expect it, and I like to be wierd. It’s also way expensive for something that just isn’t important to me (the diamond, the ring is VERY important to me). I really really really want white topaz too (it’s my birthstone) can you pretty pretty please post pics! I haven’t been able to find white ones in stores to look at and the pics I’ve found online look flat, kind of want to see what it might look like in real life!
Post # 12
@JenniferSC: Yeah all this time I thought it was the style of the ring not the stone! Shows how much I know or pay attention. 🙂
Post # 13
@JenniferSC: Moissanite is a silcon carbide stone. It is abundant (from what I’ve read) in space, but there is very little on Earth. For this reason, it is lab created for jewelry. It is extremely hard (almost as hard as diamonds) and extremely sparkly because of it’s double refractive index. I’m not an expert by any means, but there are several bees who are (or at least close). Hopefully they will chime in. I chose mine based on looks and durabilty rather than its origin. In the mean time, there is a ton of info on betterthandiamond.com and moissaniteco.com. Plus, a Google search will bring up a lot more, as always.
Post # 14
I have a moissanite and I love it. I wanted a clear stone but I didn’t want a diamond because of ethical concerns. You should post pics of your topaz!
Post # 15
I made it very clear to my Fiance that I never wanted a a diamond center stone. I just don’t really like them. I told him that I would prefer a sapphire, and that was all the input I had. he bought me a gorgeous oval sapphire with a diamond halo.
Post # 16
I definitely did not want a diamond. The only diamond I would have taken would have been an OEC heirloom. I seriously thought about moissy, but didn’t like the cut as much. I ended up getting a lab created sapphire, and I’m so happy with the decision! It’s beautiful, colorful, and best of all, the stone cost about a hundred bucks!