(Closed) Did anyone else not want a diamond?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Disclaimer: I’m not judging anyone for having/wanting a diamond alternative, but as for myself, here’s what I’ve been considering lately – even if I chose something that looks like/passes for a diamond… until (or if) the market and people’s mentalities change so that moissanite, etc. becomes the norm and the overwhelming majority of people’s expectations isn’t that it’s a diamond, wouldn’t this STILL in a way be supporting consumer demand for diamonds and their potentially unethical market?

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I don’t want one to be honest. My SO can actually afford one, but they just don’t appeal to me because most diamonds I see don’t have the brilliance and fire I think they should have. Plus, they’re ridiciously overpriced and I can see my boyfriend’s money going towards something more useful than a rock that comes out the Earth. At first I wanted a blue topaz centre stone since it’s my favourite stone in the entire world (and my SO’s birthstone). But since I already have a right hand ring that has a blue topaz in the centre, I figured I’d want something different for my ering in case I wear it with the RHR. And so moissanite it is. πŸ™‚

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

i had three diamond rings and they all had something missing dont get me wrong their obviously beautiful but they were flawed and i wasnt fine with that and a ideal colorless diamond was out of our budget so i got an ASHA and i couldnt be happier of course no one knows except the bees lol but no one ever questions if shes a diamond or not. i reccomend you look at the betterthandiamond.com forums very good alternative

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I didn’t want a diamond, as I hate the thought of them being associated with conflict, plus the disproportionately inflated price seems so pointless. However I did want a colourless/clear stone, as to me it looks more ‘classic’ and will go with anything I wear. So we orderd a Moissanite. I think it’s the best of all worlds: super sparkly, mostly colourless without being flat, man-made so guaranteed to be conflict-free, 1/10th of the price of a diamond of the same size, and best of all (for the geek in me), SPACE ROCK!! 

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I did not want a diamond and ended up with a beautiful citrine. I can’t imagine anything more perfect for me.

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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@MrsSnowMountain:  Yes, you are absolutely correct.

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I didn’t want a diamond, but for the same reasons I didn’t want anything that looks similar either. My reasons were not based on ethical considerations (I have metal in my ring which is mined just as unethically as diamonds) but purely based on visual appeal.

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I just couldn’t get on board with the cost of diamonds. They aren’t rare, they are EVERYWHERE, in every jewelry store…so there’s no reason they should cost so much. I had never really cared about having a diamond ring, then I heard about moissanite on reddit and did a lot of research. I like the background behind the stone, and you can’t argue with the price. To each her own, I guess. I didn’t want my husband to drop all that cash on me, so he didn’t. Simple as that. πŸ™‚

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@MrsSnowMountain:  To answer your question, because it’s been asked on this forum many times.  No, you’re not supporting the diamond industry if your dollars are going towards an alternative such as moissanite.  You’re even promoting the alternative if someone comments on your pretty “diamond” and you tell them all about moissanite. πŸ™‚

To answer the OP, I didn’t want a diamond either.  I went back and forth between a pink sapphire or moissanite.  I chose moissanite, but ended up with a pink sapphire in a halo for a right hand ring.

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I told him NO DIAMONDS! I just don’t like the look of them. So I ended up with a ruby! πŸ™‚ Made me super happy!

P.s. didn’t know he was asking so soon, so I was playing with nal polish early in the day and only did one nail! lol

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Oh gosh I know, the metal is a concern for me too. Seems like you just can’t win. I’m thinking I will ease my conscience by getting something gold but pre-owned, and a coloured gemstone for sure, which I prefer anyway.

chochinealred, I’ve been thinking of citrines and now I’m really admiring yours!

Anyway, I’ve bought lovely pre-owned fine jewelry off of Etsy, before for amazing prices, and always loved it. I guess this will be no different πŸ™‚

Post # 30
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I didn’t want one because I feel they all look kind of the same unless you have a huge budget and get something with tons of diamonds or one gigantic one. I told him I wanted some sort of vintage-ish looking colored stone with or without accent diamonds. He got me a sapphire with diamond accents. I lurve it.

Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Unlike so many girls I never thought about my wedding, marriage, or my ring as a child. Also, nobody in my immediate family even had engagement rings, much less diamonds. Everyone just had a plain yellow gold wedding band. I don’t have anything against diamonds, it’s just growing up I never associated engagements with diamonds because no one around me had them and if they did I never noticed.

When we first started talking about engagement rings I was immediately drawn to blue sapphires. However, unlike myself, my fiance grew up with the idea that diamonds=engagement and wanted something that was at least clear and not colored.

When I discovered moissanite I was thrilled because it’s the perfect compromise! It had the classic look my fiance wanted and the price tag didn’t make me uncomfortable. I LOVE my moissanite even more than sapphires now. It’s the most beautiful thing I’ve seen πŸ™‚

ETA- We have told a few people that it’s a moissanite, such as my family and some of his. However there are people we just let assume it’s a diamond because they wouldn’t understand and I don’t care to deal with the questions, eye rolls, and judgement we know we’d received from them. The people we have told seem to think it’s pretty cool and beautiful though. πŸ™‚

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