(Closed) Did anyone else split it?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Did you split the cost of your ring?



  • Post # 2
    6709 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

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    Sandpaper:  we essentially did, since we both got engagement rings, and each was around the same price point ($2k)!

    Post # 3
    87 posts
    Worker bee

    I am paying a small portion – just something to help out because how I see it is all the money is going towards the same thing.. your wedding! 

    Post # 4
    354 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    Fiance wears an engagement ring I bought him, though it was a fraction of what he paid for mine. Nothing wrong with doing what works for you!

    Post # 5
    867 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    Mine was a customization so I paid the 20% deposit so they would start the order process and he paid the rest. He’s bad at saving money but good at paying things that need to be paid so once there was a bill to be paid off he was on it!

    I also agree with pp that it’s essentially all the same money anyway so if it wasn’t a pride thing for him to pay it off himself it would have all come out of the joint account.

    Post # 6
    1220 posts
    Bumble bee

    Yes, but indirectly since my Fiance didn’t want me to pay directly to the jeweler. I paid the mortgage 3 times so he could put more money towards the ring. i guess that’s not a real split but it’s all I was allowed to do. It worked for us, bills were paid while I still got what I wanted and everyone is happy 🙂 I would have been fine to pay the jeweler directly but it turns out that Fiance is a bit more traditional than I thought.

    Post # 7
    27 posts
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I did not have any input in the decision. He did it completely on his own.

    Post # 8
    585 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    Not splitting engagement ring. But I offered to buy our wedding bands. I’m currently trying to find a really nice matching set in yellow gold. No crazy bling— but respectable!

    Post # 9
    447 posts
    Helper bee

    We split my original e-ring and then he surprised me with a vintage diamond ring. We’ll each buy the other person the wedding ring. Honestly, I feel I should be footing more of the cost because I’m finishing grad school and have an awesome job lined up, while he has 2.5 more years of his professional degree after which he’ll be the primary earner, but has currently amassed quite a bit of debt. But given our current situation, splitting where we can is fair for us and also feasible. 

    And side note: my close friends all know that we split some costs because they’re kind, normal people. My family is super judgemental and hateful and I just let them think he paid for everything because they believe an engagement is only an engagement if the man does everything (fun fact – they are all miserable people!)

    Post # 10
    4232 posts
    Honey bee


    His $$ bought the first, but the upgrade came after marriage, so that was shared $$.



    Post # 11
    412 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    I offered to contribute some money for my e-ring, but he insisted that he needed to pay for it himself. I guess it’s a pride thing, I don’t know. I bought him a band that was originally intended to be his wedding band, but he liked it so much (and is SO impatient) that he now wears it as an engagement ring. So we both ended up paying for each others’ e-rings, although he spent much more than I did.

    Post # 12
    4025 posts
    Honey bee

    We essentially did. He selected and purhchased the ring. He paid part cash and part 0% interest financing for 12 months. I helped pay off the credit line because I wanted it paid off in 4 months. He was initially against it, but I was persistent.

    Post # 13
    109 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2016 - Boettcher Mansion

    He bought my engagement ring, that was very important to both of us that he got to do that for me. We are currently in a situation where he is still in school finishing up his undergrad, and so he doesn’t really have a job. He will sometimes do odd jobs and work for his family to get a little money, though. I’m the primary earner right now through my teaching job, and I pay for everything, including all the wedding costs, so he really wanted to at least be able to buy me my engagement ring. After he graduates he will be making oodles more than me, though, so it will all even out in the end, and he’s going to pay for our belated honeymoon. 🙂

    Post # 15
    2342 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    No, but I would have been happy to. It was a surprise proposal with ring so I didn’t get a chance. 

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