- Running Elley
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
We actually told all of our close family before the doctor confirmation, and we were going to tell everyone else after it…until my mom and SIL posted on FB. Then I had to out right tell everyone when I wasn’t really ready.
If you want to wait, you should. Especially since you don’t know who all they will tell.
We waited until Easter since we had all the kids and parents together. That was around 12 weeks for us. But it was more a matter of getting everyone together than anything. His children and mine.
We found out when I was 11 weeks along so, we told immediate family within in days of finding out and a few friends. Everyone else found out much much later here.
We told our families right away. We were very strict in saying that they couldn’t tell ANYBODY else, not my grandma, their friends, family, anybody. My mom’s a big gossip, but if you tell her not to tell she won’t.
I’m glad I told them b/c I just felt like it made life easier. I didn’t like going out to eat with people who didn’t know b/c I always wanted to puke, and I didn’t mind going with them. They understood if I wasn’t feeling well.
We found out right around 4 weeks, and told our parents and siblings around 9 weeks. After that, it filtered out to the rest of the family- I don’t think my aunt and cousins knew till about 15 weeks.
We’d had a previous loss, and I knew that was hard on my family as well, so I wanted to wait till we’d at least seen a heartbeat before we told anyone.
Many couples wait to share the good news until past 12 weeks.
For my second pregnancy, I didn’t even tell my husband until I was almost 5 months. It makes the pregnancy go really fast!
I agree with you on the play it safe side from personal experience. August isnt that far away!
Congrats btw 🙂
I told my Mom and my Sister…but Mom has been unable to keep it quiet, so now I think that whole side of the family knows. In retrospect, I might have waited, since I didn’t want everyone to know right away.
No one in DH’s family knows, we’ll tell them after we hear the heartbeat, I think.
We aren’t TTC yet, and won’t for a few years, but I plan on waiting until 10-12 weeks. SIL told everyone at 8 weeks and apparently the parents had known for a couple weeks (they didn’t want to overshadow our wedding, which was very thoughtful). To me 6 weeks was way too soon, but to each their own.
I just want to keep it to myself and enjoy it for a while. I might tell my Boyfriend or Best Friend, just because we tell each other everything (waaay more than I would say to my mom, Mother-In-Law, and sometimes Darling Husband if it’s a girl thing :P)
My mom had two miscarriages, one before and after me, so I would just want to be further along and feel more ‘safe’ in the pregnancy. FYI, she did have three more children after that.
I know my mom will completely understand and not mind at all, but I feel like DH’s family will be like, oh, you’ve known for that long?
We were planning to wait but my Mother-In-Law is quite ill so we told his parents right away. Then we couldn’t not tell mine, so we told them too. We have yet to tell my siblings though, which we will do around 10 weeks (we’re 7.5 now). In retrospect while it’s wonderful being able to talk to my parents about it (we’re very close), I probably should have waited to tell my parents too because my mom says she is going nuts not having my brother and sister know. I know it’s hard for her so I probably should have spared her the secret-keeping! I just feel like if we tell them, they will tell people (like their own friends), and it will be less of a secret.
I told one of my sisters first (we were doing a triathlon together at 5 wks into my pregnancy, and we were sharing a hotel room, so she was bound to see my prenatals, etc.). We were put in a position where Darling Husband felt guilty about not telling his mom at 8 wks, so we told her & his brother & dad at that point with strict warnings (emphasizing how our miscarriage risk was higher than most, etc) that we didn’t want others to know until we know the baby was ok. We waited as long as possible to tell my parents, but in the end we told them a bit earlier than planned for various reasons, (at 11.5 wks for mom and 12.5 for dad), but even then, we felt good about it because they didn’t have to keep it a secret for long (so they could be trusted with the info a bit more). We told my other sisters at the same time that we announced to our extended families (at 13 wks, once we had our results from testing).
I’m really glad we waited, as hard as it was to keep it a secret. I did my share of avoiding phone calls and visits for a couple months there to do it— but it was worth it. Totally. We’ll definitely do it again in future pregnancies.
Hang in there!
Um, I didn’t tell members of my family until I was forced to see them and I was in the third trimester, so it was pretty obvious.
Not pregnant yet, but we plan to wait until 10-12 weeks to even tell our parents.
My parents will probably know the first time I say “no wine for me” though!
@TheFutureMcBride: This will be me when Darling Husband and I eventually have kids. I’m not going to tell anyone until it becomes impossible to hide. Everyone clearly thinks you’re entitled to their opinion when you’re pregnant, and the longer I can put off my body becoming a free-for-all conversation topic, the greater the likelihood that Mommy won’t do jail time for killing someone.
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