(Closed) Did anyone feel sad about changing their last name?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 62
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

yup. my last name is french and bad ass. definitely sad. but it’s something the Fiance is super traditional on and the one thing that he’s really asked for…so it’s going to become my middle name.

Post # 63
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@agaldesign:  I was just sad all day today about this exactly. ๐Ÿ™ But I am excited to get a new last name too. New life, new name. 

 

Post # 64
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@agaldesign:  I was just sad all day today about this exactly. ๐Ÿ™  Double post. 

 

Post # 65
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’m so glad you posted this. I’m all sorts of sad. I changed it on Facebook and DH wants me to go get a new license. But it’s just so so sad :(. 

Post # 66
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56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@crocodilerock:  I have the same attachment to my last name, but don’t think I’ll be keeping it. I do think about hyphenating it… Fiance has always supported that idea.

Post # 67
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1101 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I am actually excited to change my last name!

Post # 68
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I’m excited to take on my FI’s last name.  However, I have three brothers who are all married with kids so my entire family has my name and sometimes I get sad that I won’t have that unifying last name like everyone else.  I keep reminding myself that it doesn’t make me any less of a “Smith” just because I’ll be called “Jones” now!

 

Post # 69
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621 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@agaldesign:  Yes, definitely. It almost feels like Im losing that whole part of my life and latching onto someone else’s identity. I got married 5 months ago and havent changed it yet… I am planning to though. I do love the idea of making your middle name your maiden name… I may do that.

 

 

 

Post # 70
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Nope! Because I totally refuse to change my last name. It is a non-issue for us. I can see it as an option for some, especially if they plan on having kids. We are not, so there is no reason to.

Post # 71
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I always wanted to hyphenate, but due to what my intials would become (not a very nice word). I’ll be dropping my last name. It makes me very sad to be doing, as I love my dad and he’s rather well known in our community back home, and people knew who I was based on my name. And I’m so used to my name as it is. My first name with my SO’s last name sounds so weird to me. I think my first name overpowers his last name. And i’ll now have two “s” sounds (even though the last name is a Z), and it’s weird to me.  I’d be Firstname MiddleName MaidenName MarriedName, but all my names are over 6 letters and it’s just… too much. And I’m not droping my middle name, as it’s my grandmother’s name and important to my parents.

But it means a lot to my SO for us to have the same name. It’s already taking some getting used to, and even thinking about changing it is weird to me. But i’m excited to be his Mrs.

Post # 72
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642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I was originally planning on changing it, got a new gmail account prepared and everything. Then it just kept bothering me more and more and eventually I decided to keep it after talking to a few women in my family that had kept theirs. It just felt right for me.

Post # 73
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’ve got a very unusual last name and nobody ever knows how to spell it or pronounce it, so I thought I would be really happy to change my last name because FI’s is quite common. But now I don’t know! I am attached to my last name and I’m sad to see it go. I do have a brother, so the last name may carry on.  I was waffling and it really came down to what FI’s thoughts were on it. I had no idea, but apparently it is pretty important to him, so that’s that!

Post # 74
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Newbee

I’m not changing mine and the main reason is that I like my name and would be sad to lose it. Another reason is that I own my own law practice and need to keep it for professional reasons. But to be honest the professional reason is an “easy way out”… people say, “Oh yeah you have to keep your name for professional reasons of course!” but I would keep it anyway, even if I were a homemaker. It’s always been my name and I love it. ๐Ÿ™‚ I think it’s sad that women are expected to give up/lose their name, but that’s just my opinion of course.

Post # 75
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Blushing bee

While I love my last name, my SO has an AWESOME last name that goes great with my first and middle name, and he’s the last of his line, so I’m excited to take it. My dad has 18 siblings and two sons, so while I love my dad and sharing the same initials as him, I think i will be okay. ๐Ÿ™‚ My mom didn’t take my dad’s name either, so I don’t think he’ll really care either. haha

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