Post # 1
I’m in college now and will be 10 hours short of my bachelor’s before Pharmacy College begins. I’m 27. By the time I’ve graduated with my PharmD, I’ll be about 34. I was thinking about trying to conceive maybe at 33 since the last year of pharmacy is rotations, but I may put it off until everything is finished.
School is very important to me, but I know when I become a mother I will want to stay home for a while and maybe do some extra research courses instead of hopping into the field full time. However, I am concerned about the age. I am definitely not putting my body through fertility treatments or anything like that if I can’t conceive. My family has a history of issues with their reproductvie organs, on both sides, which usually results in a need for a hysterectomy by the ages of 31-33. All of the women in my family have had it.
I personally have not had reproductive problems and have regular cycles, but it’s hard to ignore genetic history. I’m also not feeling the ‘biological clock’, and would be more than happy to adopt instead of having a biological child but Fiance wants to try.
Obviously every person will have a different experience, but was it all right to have a child in your early 30’s?
Post # 3
I can only speak from my own experience. I always thought I’d be a mom at a younger age, but life gets in the way….and I didn’t get pregnant until I was 33. We are due in April. YAY! I was initially concerned about my age as well. We did use a digital ovulation tracker for two months of “trying,” but otherwise, had no issues getting pregnant naturally. I count my blessings that it happened so easily for us (but I would have said the same thing if I was pregnant at 25!)
Admittedly, there are a few extra things to consider when you’re an “older” mom, but 33 is my no means OLD these days, ya know? Many women much older have perfectly healthy children…and you likely will too if you go that route. Best of luck to you!!
Post # 4
I hope so! I just turned 33 in August and will start TTC this year! It’s very common to have children in your 30s (and even 40s nowadays). Most of my friends my age are just having kids now or will soon. It’s good you know your family history though so I can understand how that can weigh in on your decision.
Post # 5
my FH and I were both born when our moms were 33 and we both turned out OK.
Post # 6
I’m 34 and I am 7 weeks pregnant! They don’t usually start considering you “high risk” until age 35. There are many woman waiting a longer these days. I don’t see a problem with you waiting until you are ready 😉
Post # 7
I got pregnant with my youngest child at 33, and she’ll be 2 next month. Out of my 3 kids, she was born with some health issues, and the doctor actually delivered her via C-section 5 weeks early because of them. Her issues are kidney/bladder related, but they aren’t that serious anymore. In fact, she’s doing great! 🙂
My best friend had her daughter (now 3) at age 32, and she was born with a heart defect that required one surgery, and now she’s just fine. She had a little boy last year who is 100% healthy.
I know women in their early twenties who have had kids with Down’s syndrome and other major health issues, so you can never predict the outcome. Just because the odds may be higher for women over 35 doesn’t mean it is set in stone that bad things will happen. Good luck on a healthy & happy pregnancy!
Post # 8
My mom conceived me at 33, and three of my friends (that I know of) were born when their moms were 35. It’s definitely common! On average (since I obv. don’t know about your particular case/family history), I don’t think that fertility starts declining markedly until 35 or later.
p.s. I’m 31, and I hope to have my first kid around 33 too.
Post # 9
My mom had me at 36 and my sister at 38, if that helps.
Post # 10
I don’t want kids, so I have no personal experience of getting pregnant in my 30s. However, my mom had me when she was 37 after only one “attempt” (I was an accident). The biggest downside to having an older parent was that my mom passed away when I was only 25, thanks to pancreatic cancer. However, someone who gives birth at 21 could be hit by a bus at 22, so I wouldn’t let something like that affect your decision.
Post # 11
I will be 34 when I deliver my second child this August. Conceived on the first try. I was a little nervous this time because I am 8 years older than with my first daughter- but so far so good.
Post # 12
38 here… It was all good. Also conceived first try.
Post # 13
I was 33 when we conceived and we’re expecting twins – surprise!
We were only TTC for a couple months so God willing the rest of the pregnancy goes well and we’ll have a happy story to tell once the babies arrive!
My mother had her three kids at 33, 35, 37 WAY back in the 70’s and while it took a few years for the oldest to arrive (they’d even started looking into adoption), my brother and I followed pretty quickly. It is hard to know until you start to try so I hope you won’t have any trouble!
Post # 14
I was surprised to see this post because this topic has come up for me and Fiance recently too. I’m in a similar situation (Don’t want to be a mom until I can dedicate time to it; I finish school in December and will be 32; Fiance will be 34). I’m nervous about whether we’ll be able to conceive naturally, but both decided that we’d adopt if that was our only option. Our dilemma though is that we kind of want to enjoy being married (just the two of us) for a couple of years before we bring the responsibility of children into the mix. We’ve never gotten pregnant–we neither actively try or actively prevent, so there’s this little voice in the back of my head asking “What if we can’t conceive?”
It’s my insane need to plan & control things that is creating anxiety, so we had to learn to just let go & accept that we can’t control what happens (other than staying healthy). Of course we would like our own child, but we agreed being Mom & Dad was more important than being biological parents–so if it happens naturally, fine; but if not, we’re both open to adoption (since he himself was adopted).
Post # 15
My Future Mother-In-Law had Future Sister-In-Law and my Mr. Dear at 40 and 42, respectively.
Post # 16
- Wedding: April 2010 - Wyndham Sugar Bay Resort, St. Thomas
Pregnant for the first time here and I’m 33!