(Closed) Is it ok to have two MOHs? Did anyone else have two MOHs?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I had 2 MOH’s.  Like you, I had 2 friends from childhood/high school and 2 college friends.  It was never an option in my mind not to have them both because the 2 lifelong friends are sisters and are only 2 years apart (plus they live together now post-college). 

Everything went fine, but being close sisters probably helped a lot.  Plus I’d known both since I was 3.  But in terms of duties, they have different personalities.  One is more organized and the other is more of a free spirit.  So one handled payments, timelines, etc while the other got things like food, movies and music for the night before/day of hotel room.  They planned the bachelorette and a shower together with the other bridesmaids, and since I had 2 showers one took charge of writing gift lists at each.  Since the older sister had been a Maid/Matron of Honor a few times before, she said to let the other stand by me at the ceremony.  So she fluffed the train, held the ring, etc.  Then at dinner, I swapped them and sat by the other sister. 

I think it would be fine to have 2 MOH’s, and just split things up based on their personalities. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I dont have two MOHs but I think that if you want two MOHs then you should have two! I dont see a problem with this at all.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I have 2 MOHs!! But… the three of us are all really close friends so I couldn’t choose between them. Since you said they are both friends I am sure they will not be offended! Like @soonerpsych: said, my friends have different personalities and will be handling different things. One will be in charge of the bach party and the other the shower. But they will both say a speech on the day of. One of my MOHs has been a Bridesmaid or Best Man a few times so she will probly be keeping me organized, the other one is kinda goofy and will be keeping me sane. 🙂 It can deff be done!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I was one of three MOHs in a friend’s wedding. The four of us are really close, and my friend just couldn’t choose one of us over the others, so she asked all three. It worked out really well because all of the planning was done together and no one person was forced to spend significantly more time or money on Maid/Matron of Honor duties than the others. Two of us were still in school at the time, so it was really nice to have the cost of the shower and bachelorette party supplies spread out over three girls. I’m also planning on having two MOHs. I think it should work out really well.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’ll be having two MOHs!! The first one is going to be my best friend since birth, who is like a sister to me.. The second will be my sister.. My best friend is and always has been a lot closer to me than my sister has, but my sister and I are getting closer and I think it would hurt her if she wasn’t a Maid/Matron of Honor, so I’m just going to be having them both..

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@xoxo0904:

I have two MOHs; one is FI’s mother who is amazing and wonderful, and the other is my best friend. I love that I have one from FI’s family and one from mine, and they’re both walking with me in the ceremony.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - Kindred Oaks, Georgetown

I had two. One was my sister. However she was in Greece and Idaho (not Texas) for a lot fo the wedding planning so I wanted a friend who was in town to help out too so I asked a friend. They’re worked great together. I didn’t have to assign duties, they just split it up themselves and everything worked out great. I think if you want two, have two.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I had two! They knew each other, but weren’t very close. But they did communicate with one another so I just kind of left things up to them. To be honest, in the end one ended up being “more” of my MOH-she stood beside me in the wedding and held my bouquet, and I think to anyone who didn’t read the program would think she was the only Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I was 1 Maid/Matron of Honor in a 2 Maid/Matron of Honor wedding and it worked really, really well.  It was nice to share the responsibilities and opinions, but it was a little awkward because neither of us is decisive and we never knew which of us was really in charge of certain things, like the shower or the speech.  We worked it out, but it was a little confusing.

For my own wedding, Fiance and I decided that it would be too difficult to pick 1 person each that we were closest too, so we are just having all bridesmaids and groomsmen.  It worked out well for us!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

im having two MOHs, and two bmaids! and i know ive read about a girl in a similar situation who didnt want to pick between sisters! i think its totally fine!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I had a Matron of Honor & a Maid of Honor…mostly to prevent fightlng, lol.  And then I have 4 bridesmaids.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  My friend had her best friend as her matron of honor, and her sister as her maid of honor. It seemed to work out okay!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’ think it is weird at all! I was one of two MOHs in my sister’s wedding.

Post # 16
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Busy bee

I only have 2 in my wedding party…a Maid/Matron of Honor and a Matron of Honor…no bridesmaids at all. You can do anything you want. Call them whatever you want; have as many as you want. LOL

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