Post # 1
I have four people in my wedding party. Two friends from college and two from high school. I really want both of my friends from high school to be my maids of honor because I really can’t imagine not asking one of them. We’re not like three best friends, but we are three friends and they are both my closest, oldest friends.
One of the friends is older than the other, and she really was my best friend in high school. We haven’t talked or hung out as much since high school, but when we do get together we just have such a great bond and can talk to each other about anything. My other friend and I had more of a relationship toward the end of high school but we talk nearly every day online now and we always hang out when we’re back home from college.
I think right now me and the second friend are closer than me and the first, but I think it would crush the first friend if I didn’t ask her to be Maid/Matron of Honor.
So I’m considering having both friends. But I’m not sure how to split up duties. And I worry/wonder if they will like the idea of them each having to split the position. They are both friends as well so I do know they would get along.
Did anyone have two MOH? Did people get along? How did you split up the duties?
Please help! Thanks guys!
Post # 3
I had 2 MOH’s. Like you, I had 2 friends from childhood/high school and 2 college friends. It was never an option in my mind not to have them both because the 2 lifelong friends are sisters and are only 2 years apart (plus they live together now post-college).
Everything went fine, but being close sisters probably helped a lot. Plus I’d known both since I was 3. But in terms of duties, they have different personalities. One is more organized and the other is more of a free spirit. So one handled payments, timelines, etc while the other got things like food, movies and music for the night before/day of hotel room. They planned the bachelorette and a shower together with the other bridesmaids, and since I had 2 showers one took charge of writing gift lists at each. Since the older sister had been a Maid/Matron of Honor a few times before, she said to let the other stand by me at the ceremony. So she fluffed the train, held the ring, etc. Then at dinner, I swapped them and sat by the other sister.
I think it would be fine to have 2 MOH’s, and just split things up based on their personalities.
Post # 4
I dont have two MOHs but I think that if you want two MOHs then you should have two! I dont see a problem with this at all.
Post # 5
I have 2 MOHs!! But… the three of us are all really close friends so I couldn’t choose between them. Since you said they are both friends I am sure they will not be offended! Like @soonerpsych: said, my friends have different personalities and will be handling different things. One will be in charge of the bach party and the other the shower. But they will both say a speech on the day of. One of my MOHs has been a Bridesmaid or Best Man a few times so she will probly be keeping me organized, the other one is kinda goofy and will be keeping me sane. 🙂 It can deff be done!
Post # 6
I was one of three MOHs in a friend’s wedding. The four of us are really close, and my friend just couldn’t choose one of us over the others, so she asked all three. It worked out really well because all of the planning was done together and no one person was forced to spend significantly more time or money on Maid/Matron of Honor duties than the others. Two of us were still in school at the time, so it was really nice to have the cost of the shower and bachelorette party supplies spread out over three girls. I’m also planning on having two MOHs. I think it should work out really well.
Post # 7
I’ll be having two MOHs!! The first one is going to be my best friend since birth, who is like a sister to me.. The second will be my sister.. My best friend is and always has been a lot closer to me than my sister has, but my sister and I are getting closer and I think it would hurt her if she wasn’t a Maid/Matron of Honor, so I’m just going to be having them both..
Post # 8
I have two MOHs; one is FI’s mother who is amazing and wonderful, and the other is my best friend. I love that I have one from FI’s family and one from mine, and they’re both walking with me in the ceremony.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2010 - Kindred Oaks, Georgetown
I had two. One was my sister. However she was in Greece and Idaho (not Texas) for a lot fo the wedding planning so I wanted a friend who was in town to help out too so I asked a friend. They’re worked great together. I didn’t have to assign duties, they just split it up themselves and everything worked out great. I think if you want two, have two.
Post # 10
I had two! They knew each other, but weren’t very close. But they did communicate with one another so I just kind of left things up to them. To be honest, in the end one ended up being “more” of my MOH-she stood beside me in the wedding and held my bouquet, and I think to anyone who didn’t read the program would think she was the only Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 11
I was 1 Maid/Matron of Honor in a 2 Maid/Matron of Honor wedding and it worked really, really well. It was nice to share the responsibilities and opinions, but it was a little awkward because neither of us is decisive and we never knew which of us was really in charge of certain things, like the shower or the speech. We worked it out, but it was a little confusing.
For my own wedding, Fiance and I decided that it would be too difficult to pick 1 person each that we were closest too, so we are just having all bridesmaids and groomsmen. It worked out well for us!
Post # 12
im having two MOHs, and two bmaids! and i know ive read about a girl in a similar situation who didnt want to pick between sisters! i think its totally fine!
Post # 13
I had a Matron of Honor & a Maid of Honor…mostly to prevent fightlng, lol. And then I have 4 bridesmaids.
Post # 14
My friend had her best friend as her matron of honor, and her sister as her maid of honor. It seemed to work out okay!
Post # 15
I don’ think it is weird at all! I was one of two MOHs in my sister’s wedding.
Post # 16
I only have 2 in my wedding party…a Maid/Matron of Honor and a Matron of Honor…no bridesmaids at all. You can do anything you want. Call them whatever you want; have as many as you want. LOL