(Closed) Did anyone invite an estranged family member and NOT regret it?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@redheadem:  I invited my aunt and cousin who were both estranged from most of my family, especially my mother. They had petty drama that spans decades, and they go from hating each other to being close to hating each other. I re-contacted with my cousin and invited my aunt as an olive branch. My parents had an absolute meltdown when I told them and caused a lot of drama at first.

However, at the wedding day, everyone was there and everyone was civil. They didn’t talk to one another but there was no drama. I figured if everyone becomes friendly again one day, I wanted everyone there. These people are normally extremely immature (even my mother, in this situation), but if they can do it, I think anyone can.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Am I reading this right?  Your future in-laws want to invite someone who hates the mother of the groom and the groom?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@redheadem:  As the bride or groom, I wouldn’t want to invite someone to my wedding who hated me, no matter what their relation was.  Especially if this person was known for behaving like a total boor at other occasions.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

How much worse can it get if they’re not invited?  They already don’t speak to each other when they only live 20 minutes apart.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Ok, first off they hate them because they are Catholic???????? Or is it somethingelse & that is just an excuse? As an Anglo-Catholic I hear this quite often. I am not inviting my grandmonster or anyone on my dad’s side of the family. My dad is good with this. My grandmonster hates my mom & myself. My parents have been married for 44 years & will be 45 years on my wedding day. Grandmonster is selfish and only cares about herself, as is the rest of Daddy’s side of the family. Thank goodness Daddy took his great qualities from my grandfather. Grandmonster told him to choose between his wfe & daughter or his “real” family!!! WTF I never haad a relationship with her, so when people ask about my grandmothers, I tell them I have one living grandmother. I wouldn’t invite anyone who didn’t wish me well. If it is only based on religion, then that is another story. Good luck.

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