(Closed) Did anyone invite themselves to your wedding… through your other guests??

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Bee
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

I’m starting to feel like this, too.  My FI’s great aunt and uncle were invited, which to me is too far “out” in the family tree anyway… but, then their granddaughter invited herself, too!  And it wasn’t even a “can I come?” it was a “She’s coming”. 

People are rude, it sucks but its just the way people behave!  It sucks. 

Since the “and guest” was open, you can’t technically get upset with them for inviting along the babysitters…. 

Maybe they’ll give you a nice gift?

Post # 4
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46403 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You are wasting precious energy dwelling on this. You gave the aunt and uncle a plus one, and they each invited a guest. If they allowed themselves to be pressured by the babysitting couple, that is the aunt and uncle’s problem, not yours.

These people REALLY want to see Fiance get married and they found a way for that to happen.

Post # 6
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@galloway111:  I see nothing wrong with telling your Mother-In-Law your feelings. It is not fair they can come but your close friends can’t.

Post # 7
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46403 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@galloway111:  How could an incident like this put you over capacity? You gave the aunt and uncle a plus one- they each invited one guest. Unless I misunderstood your OP, the self inviting babysitters ARE their plus ones. It;s definitely manipulative behavior on the part of the babysitters, but the aunt and uncle each asked a guest, as you invited them to do.

 

Post # 9
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3081 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I know that you’ll get some bees explaining that because you invited them with a +1, there’s nothing you can do and it’s ultimately your fault, HOWEVER no matter how you look at it this is completely manipulative behavior that just really ticks me off. You said no…you have friends who you would want to invite more than FI’s babysitters, and yet it seems almost like they went behind your back on this. I’d be so so pissed, but your hands really are tied. Sorry this happened, but just be on the lookout for future situations like this that you can prevent (even beyond the wedding). Manipulative behavior clearly hits a nerve with me :). 

Post # 10
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4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

In a way I guess I see how this can be manipulative because +1’s are usually dates and they kind of took advantage of their +1 to invite people that you weren’t. Kind of a sneaky way of getting these two babysitters in. But I don’t really see what you can do now unless you want to cause huge family drama. I mean, I don’t think you should’ve given people +1’s when you clearly couldn’t because of capacity, no matter what your Future Mother-In-Law said. So I guess I mostly agree with @julies1949:.

Post # 11
Bee
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012 - El Faro Convention center, Aguadilla, Puerto Rico

Even worse, we did’t give out plus 1+ and 2 of Mr. Boas’s friends RSVPed Yes and said they were bringing their girlfriends, one of which has only been dating for a month (last month he had another girlfriend). Mr. Boa didn’t say anything because we DO have room for them but I’m pissed that those 2 ladies will be the ONLY people at my wedding that I don’t know. We kept a small guest list (Invited 105, 85 RSVPed Yes) by keeping a couple of rules (No +1s, Only people we have both spent time with in the last year, Family has priority invited all cousins, aunts and uncles).

O well! I won’t let it ruin my day 🙂 The wedding is to close for me to care anyway.

Post # 13
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4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@galloway111:  Is this aunt and uncle on your side or your FI’s side? I thought these were guests of Future Mother-In-Law. 

Post # 15
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4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@galloway111:  Oh ok.. so your MOM is paying but Future Mother-In-Law insisted on +1’s for people (under the guise that it’s just a formality because they wouldn’t possibly bring anyone)?

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