(Closed) Did anyone just settle for a dress?

posted 12 years ago in Dress
Post # 32
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2042 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I did too 🙁 And I hate saying that because it was a very expensive dress, and it is a beautiful dress. I wanted a ballgown and everyone thought a mermaid is what I should go with, but with two months to go before the wedding I still don’t feel like it’s me. Just couple days ago I saw what would’ve been my dream dress on another bee and felt like crying. I still search preowned sites every single days with the hopes that I will come across something I like more. I can’t stop thinking the dress I have is going to make my small waist look big in the photos, and I hate that!

Post # 33
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41 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I definitely felt the same way for a long time on my dress hunt.  I found plenty that looked great, but I wasn’t connecting or falling in love or doing anything emotional.  Also, I brought along different people at different times–my aunt, my mom, my sister, all those in various combinations.  And although i love them all dearly, it really messed with my mind and decision making!  Even though I know the dress is about me, I deep down wanted approval so badly from those people.  I came to realize that I just had to find one person that was supportive no matter what, and focused on how I felt, nothing else.  After trying on literally 45-50 dresses, I found one that I really actually loved!  There was nothing “wrong” with it…see, in all the others, there was the train i didnt like, or buttons i didnt like, or the material i didnt like (you get the picture).  There was nothing I didn’t love about this dress, and I said go for it!  Of course now, I tried on a sample that was 2 sizes too small, and I’m terrified I’m not gonna like it when in comes in, but hey!  I’ve been in your boat.  Just keep going on till you can’t take it anymore, or keep going until you say to yourself “ooooooo”.  My sister said she tried on several, and ended up with the one that she felt made her look the best, and grew to love it.  No “Ah Ha!” moment for her.

Post # 34
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319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I kind of did. I’m not making any income so my options were pretty slim. I lost a lot of weight and I am getting fitted for my alterations in a couple weeks so maybe I’ll like it better after I see the finished product.

Post # 35
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Meliss what was your dream dress? I just have to know what could be more beautiful than your Lazaro. Here I am envying you in your picture. lol I was complaining because I want more beading on my lazaro gown like the one you have. When you get it in white please send pics. PS You look fabulous and your waist looks fine. lol The Lazaro really accentuates hips and waist. In my 3955 the big tulle bottom makes my waist look small.

I had the one moment with the Lazaro 3804, but after seing the sample sell for $1000 twice on ebay, I couldn’t justify myself spending almost $6000 for it.

Post # 36
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2042 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@shanibee – Thank you so much! You’re my dress’ biggest supporter 🙂

I love the embroidery on my dress, but I think maybe the placement of it right on the midsection, and the thick material of the bodice,  made my waist look bigger than it is. Looks that way on the model on the website too. Also I’m still not comfortable with the trumpet. Wish Lazaro had made the exact same dress in a ballgown silhouette, lol. I keep looking back at this photo of me in a sample ballgown I passed up and how much more natural that feels to me. I just hope and pray that when the dress finally comes, and it’s altered, all of these worries will go away and I will be happy with my decision. Maybe it’s just bridal anxiety crazies.

The dream dress is a discontinued Justin Alexander that @mignonne is wearing. Check her thread out – so beautiful!

Post # 37
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33 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@danadelphia: did you end up trying on the saja dresses yet?  

Post # 38
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97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

when i had gone dress shopping, I didn’t have my ‘the one’ moment either.  at least i don’t think i did.  i didnt burst into tears, didnt feel euphoric.  more like.. wow, this is nice.  this is something i could wear.  so now, after 4 months of time since i’ve ordered it, i look back at the photos my Maid/Matron of Honor and the shopgirl had taken, i keep wondering if i should have waited and tried on more dresses instead of purchasing the one i had.  I had tried on about 6 dresses that day (it was my first and only dress shopping experience) and i made my decision based on those dresses.  the amount of the dress was well within my budget concerns and it did have all the qualities i wanted.  but lately i cant shake the niggling feeling that i probably should have seen more?  i had originally wanted a Lazaro dress, but the amount of money a Lazaro would cost was totally out of the question.

@meliss:  I’m 5’1″ and 100-103 pnds.  i had also chosen a mermaid/trumpet dress.. the photos my Maid/Matron of Honor took make the dress look lovely.. the one the shopgirl took really emphasizes my hips and thighs.  so when i look at those pics, i get a feeling of sadness that the dress will look terrible once it comes in.  i’ve seen the pics of the dress you have up, and honestly, i think it looks beautiful on you.  and NO your waist does not look big at all.  to be honest, i think your body look perfect in it.  i have a smaller chest area and larger hips, so i feel my dress looks unproportionate on me.  hopefully when the dress comes in and i go to try it on again, it’ll banish my fears. 

Post # 39
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28 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

futureMrs.Taylor, here, here.  Raise your martini glass I’m with you!

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