(Closed) Did anyone keep their baby's name a secret?

posted 9 years ago in Babies
Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

For all the reasons previously posted, DH and I won’t be telling anyone names. We are TTC and will be team green, but will be keeping our picks between us until the LO is born. We had one name which we LOVED and casually mentioned and FIL hated it. #awesome.

Don’t worry about what others think though, go with your gut and maybe keep your choices btwn you and your SO until the baby arrives ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Best of luck!

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I definitely would!

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@cirk:  I agree! To me there is just something really weird about calling the baby by its name before it is born. 

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We will definitely be keeping our names a secret. We don’t want to increase the chances of other people getting the idea to name their baby the same thing, but we also don’t want anybody to think we are ‘dibs’-ing the names as we think that practise is rather rude. So it just makes sense to us to keep names private. Added bonus, nobody will be able to comment on our name choices – though we have already gotten some helpful ‘advice’, such as from Future Mother-In-Law, that ‘in her culture, girls’ names MUST end in ‘a”. Okayyy… that kind of nixes some of my favourite girl names but I guess I can live with one of them as a milddle name. 

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would never tell anyone the baby’s name before the birth. I’ve read about too many bad experiences the bees have had with disclosing the name beforehand.

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We are keeping our daughter’s name a secret until she’s born, but not so much because of unsolicited opinions or anything.  Right now my husband and I are the only ones who know her, so it seems fitting that we’re the only ones who know her name.  When she is born she will become as real to the rest of the world as she is to us, so that is when she’ll be introduced.  Right now it feels like she’s a precious secret just between us, and I like it that way.

People won’t stop bugging us to tell them the name, though.  It’s so hard keeping it a secret and telling everyone no.  Some family members are actually offended that we won’t tell them the name, but to us it’s a private thing, just like how I don’t want any relatives in the delivery room besides my husband.

Post # 38
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Buzzing bee

@ellebeerob:  Could you release the initials? That way you can appease the people who want to monogram the gifts but still keep the name a secret.

Actually, I think that’s just what I’ll do when I have babies!

Post # 39
Bee
5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

We’re happy to share gender, but names will wait until she’s here.

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

my cousin kept everything a secret- the sex and the names they had picked out so it was a total surprise for everyone. i think we will tell the sex (so all our shower gifts aren’t “gender-neutral”) but the names we have picked out are unique and i feel like my family won’t really care for them so they will just have to wait!

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Everyone I know IRL already knew the sex of the baby before delivery and told everyone the name.  I do know of one couple that picked out a boy’s name and told everyone and we all liked it.  Then for some weird reason, the baby was born and they changed the name to one they never mentioned….it was a last name, no relation to either of them and not a popular name like Jackson, etc.  The baby is almost 6 months old and people are still having a hard time remembering it….and it doesn’t roll of the tongue easily.  

When DH and I do get pregnant and find out the sex (although I’m against that but DH says no way) we’ll tell people….I could care less about what they’re thoughts are…nobody’s changed their baby’s name b/c I didn’t like it ๐Ÿ˜›

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Were keeping it a secret, its extremely hard but my DH family is really rude with their opinions expecially his sister ๐Ÿ™ We told them some that we like a few years ago before we were even married and we got major grief over them! So because of that we’re only telling our middle names, we also wanted it to be a surprise for everyone since we’ll tell them all the sex ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

@texasbee:  I have a friend like this too. They had a wonderful baby name picked out, it was the name of the album of all her ultra sounds ands nursery pictures on Facebook… and then the baby was born and they give it a COMPLETELY different name, first and middle. I hate the name they chose, but not my baby, not my place to have a say in it!

I just thought it was so weird, because she posted all these status’s refereing the baby by name, and then when he was born, it was a different name. I think maybe they realized they didn’t actually like the first name they went with. At least they changed it before he was born!

Post # 44
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We got our list down to 2 names and pretty much kept those names a secret.  I think we finally told our immediate families towards the end of the pregnancy just to see their reactions.  By that time we were confident in both names…it was just a matter of meeting our LO so we could decide on a name.  We really didn’t want everyone’s opinions involved in our name selections.  I am also a teacher so I think that makes name selection a little trickier.  We did give LO a nickname before he was born and we just referred to him by that name until we made it official on the birth certificate.

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Absolutely. We aren’t even married, yet, but when someone close to us was pregnant, they wanted BOTH the female name (first and middle name, mind you) and the male name that we had mentioned we wanted one day. My Fiance was more pissed than I was, so we have new names that we really love and we aren’t telling anyone unless we are very, very close with them and know they won’t steal the name. When I am pregnant, I plan on keeping the name a secret until my children are born. At least that way if someone says they want a name we want, we will know they didn’t actually steal it.

Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We’re not pg yet, but we most definitely will be keeping names a secret.  I don’t want an unwanted input from our families or friends!  But we will also be Team Green, so it will be easier for us because we won’t know the name for sure until the baby gets here.

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