- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
I have a love/hate relationship with Pinterest over many things, haha. I already knew who was going to be in my Bridal Party, so all I did was a phone call like this: “EEEEEEEE!!!!! HE PROPOSED!!!!!! BE MY BRIDESMAID!!!!!”
I got married before Pintrest and Facebook were around so I just asked my Bridesmaid or Best Man either in person or over the phone. Actually, a couple of my Bridesmaid or Best Man asked if they could be in the wedding. No one did anything special; all the times I have been asked the bride just asked in person.
I never saw any of those ideas until after I’d asked all my BMs. I asked my sis, cuz, and best friend in person and DH’s 3 sisters through texts (they live further away).
My family and bridesmaids are from Nova Scotia but I now live in Vancouver. When I got engaged on Saturday of Easter weekend, I was actually leaving for a 2 week vacation with my little sister in Costa Rica on Tuesday! So when I saw her after our long flights, I just said “So of course you are my maid of honor!” and she said of course. I sort of wish I had asked her in more of a special way but it was assumed anyway – I took her to a spa as a treat in October when I went home to visit as a thank you for all of her help so far.
For my other bridesmaids, when I went home to NS for a visit in the summer, I still hadn’t asked any of them as my fiance has a LOT of friends he could ask and he didn’t feel comfortable choosing amongst them – he only wanted to have 1 person standing for us each, my sister for me and his best friend for him. I considered only having my sister but I had always imagined having my 3 best girlfriends along for the ride as well. As it was getting to be a few months after engagement and I still hadn’t asked them or made my decision, when they hinted, I let them know that we might only have 1 person standing for us to make things simple but of couse I would love for them to get ready with me the morning of etc. They were all supportive but I could feel a bit of disapointment – not just from them but me too!
So finally I explained to my fiance how I felt about them standing with me and it would really make me happy and that I didn’t mind if he still only decided to ask 1 and have uneven sides – he saw it was important to me and agreed! Not sure if he is only still going to have one or not but he will decide closer to the time –
ANYWAY to ask my girls in person while I was home visiting, I saw each of them seperately and while having lunch I surprised them with a little bottle of champagne with pink lacy undies from Holts which had “Bridesmaid” written on them with little crystals – everyone was surprised/happy and said yes!:)
Me! I’m not creative at all. I was just like “Hey. Wanna be a bridesmaid?” Lol
I didn’t ask in a creative way, though I really wish I did. One of my BM’s lives out of town so I just asked her over a text. My Maid/Matron of Honor and I had already talked about when the day came she would have to be my Maid/Matron of Honor and vice versa.
I asked one while walking down the street, one over a coffee and the third over a pint in the pub. It just seems that pinterest makes asking the bridal party into yet another event that has to be done just right – no pressure! I’m glad I kept it informal as it set the tone for a really relaxed wedding planning process (at least for them, I’ve been trying to be the most non-demanding bride possible!).
@FutureMrsWeston: only the half that already knew they were bridesmaids lol the other half I’m gonna do something i don’t know what I’m gonna do yet but its gonna be off the wall but not lady gaga like. and its never too late to do something over the top for them just say the first one was unofficial.
nope. i asked two of them over the phone and then i had my Fiance ask his sister. i would have done it in person but i was living out-of-state at the time. i didn’t even know it was a thing until pintrest, and i have never personally known somebody that has done anything special like that.
hoenstly my bridesmaids probably would have thought i was weird if i asked them any other way. i’m glad i kept it informal and casual, which is how my wedding will be.
@FutureMrsWeston: I did! Well, not even that. For FH’s sister, I panicked, blurted it out and scurried from the room, and for my cousin, I asked her by text.
Still need to ask my other cousin, but holding fire on that because I actually promised FH I wouldn’t ask anyone for a while, because he’s not sure who he’s going to ask. He compromised on his sister because she was leaving the country, !
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