(Closed) Did anyone NOT cry when their man proposed?

posted 7 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: Did you cry when your SO proposed?
    Yes : (103 votes)
    23 %
    No : (354 votes)
    77 %
  • Post # 47
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    It’s called google people. I’m not your personal professor. 

    Post # 48
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @Peacockfeather:  no you just obviously have no actual sources to back up your preposterous claims. Just because you claim it is a scientific fact doesn’t make it so. I find it hilarious that you are crawfishing out of your claims by saying you aren’t google and therefore do not need to provide sources. I cry when I’m sad, happy, stressed or excited. Its a normal human reaction.

    Post # 49
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I caught myself crying in excitement, when I found out my SO was shopping for my ring! I would randomly cry duirng the weeks prior to my engagement. 

     

    BUT when he proposed- no tears just smiles. Lots of smiles and laughing. Even though it was romantic- it was awkward and silly– which is totally us. 

    Post # 50
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I am super emotional so Im surprised that I didnt cry 🙁  

    Post # 51
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Woops! Double post :/  

    Post # 52
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @Peacockfeather:  Um excuse me?  When you claim something is scientific fact, the onus is upon you to cite your sources.  My goodness….

    Post # 53
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @peasantsong: Here, I help.

    Yeah, Google tells me that the stress hormones that cause crying can stem from any emotional surge, be it happy, jealous, fearful, or sad.  Happy and positive emotions can overwhelm in a hormones just as much as fearful and negative emotions can.  Crying helps us relieve emotional pressure – it doesn’t depend on the quality of the emotion, but more or less the quantity.  When you have too much emotion – any emotion – it can spill out in tears.

    Alternatively, tears can be a release of bad feelings, allowing the body to welcome happy emotions.  So someone who cries at getting engaged might also be crying because the waiting, or uncertain period is over and it’s time to be happy and sure.

    In either case, tears seem to be a release mechanism that help us restabilize our emotions.  Tears can be a “relaxing” process – the result of heightened anticipation, such as when a baby is born.  It’s doesn’t just indicate fear – it indicates the fear and worry is over, and we can return to normal.  This is also indicated by “shock” tears that result from physical trauma – when you go into shock, you’re overwhelmed by an upswelling of a hormone of some kind, and the tears are the body’s attempt to release, or a parasympathetic restoration.  Basically, crying lets you feel all the feels, whatever they may be, and move forward with relative equanimity.

    So, happy tears are a go, says Science.  And Google!

    Post # 54
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    690 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I didn’t care, I had butterflies, but I knew it was coming. 

    It was a huge give away when he suggested we go to Niagara falls for the weekend and take a Helicopter ride over the falls. 

    I wonder if I didn’t know though – if I would of cried?

    Post # 55
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @peasantsong:  Actually this is the internet. I didn’t come here to debate with uninformed people about a subject I have a degree in. The fact that you are too lazy to look something up yourself, since you’re clearly so interested, is not my problem. 

    Post # 56
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    But… it’s not a fact.  It just really, really, isn’t.  Happy tears are pretty universally acknowledged by psychologists to exist.  Articles working out how and why we have the same reaction to super happy things as super bad ones are long and complex, and deal with stuff like hormones and release and relief and stress and a variety of emotions.  It’s cool to get all on your high horse about facts when you’re actually talking about facts, but when you’re just giving a misintpretation of a scientific finding, you don’t come off as super informed.

    Happy tears are real, people.  There’s no need to think your tears mean you’re actually deeply unhappy or jealous or afraid.  Science is on the side of the happy tears.

    Post # 57
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @Peacockfeather:  You seem like a really nice person and I can tell that you’re educated in the subject. Have a good one. 

    Post # 58
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Nope, not a cryer.

    Post # 59
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Well first of all CONGRATULATIONS!!!! Second of all, don’t feel bad, everyone has different reactions. I thought I was going to be crying the whole ti,me but my Fiance tells ,me I was more shocked and stunned than anything. It wasn’t until right after he proposed and gave me a hug that I started to cry becase I was just so happy to be able to hug him after not seeing him for months 🙂

    Post # 60
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I didn’t cry, but I don’t ever cry anyway and I already knew it was coming. I can read FH like a book and he had been acting out of character all day. 

    Post # 61
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I didn’t cry. I think he expected me to, but I didn’t. I’m a very emotional  & sensitive person.For example: I was just in NYC and was watching the Christmas Spectacular with the Rockettes and I was SO HAPPY that I cried while watching it (lifelong goal COMPLETE — HUGEEEEE Christmas fan) But I didn’t cry when he proposed. I think I was in shock, TBH.

    ETA: I gotta disagree with the (pleasant) person who said you don’t cry when you’re happy. I cry ALL THE TIME when I’m happy. I don’t care what scientific fact there (apparently) is because that’s just silly. I know for a fact that I cry when I’m happy.

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